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“The greatest antidote for fear is competence.” - Astronaut Chris Hadfield

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Confessions of an ISTP #11

Dear INTJs,

Us ISTPs prefer to forge our own paths and we don't particularly care about what people think of us (usually). But if we had to look up to someone, it would be you. You're a lot like us because you can appear detached and you're also very logical. But we secretly envy your brilliant intuition and foresight and you actually get your crap done. INTJs are extremely thoughtful and deliberate with everything they do and sometimes the impulsive ISTP seriously wants to have that but they'll never say it. You also have pretty strong moral direction. I've never met an INTJ who isn't good at everything, they're extremely skilled with both numbers and words. Despite being an N I would argue that they are far more pragmatic than the xNTP who can get stuck in their own head. You guys can sometimes come off as workaholics but in reality you would really like to take a day off and have a cocktail at the beach. You're extremely respected for your sharp minds and ability to think very carefully before you act. Yet you're also very decisive and this helps you get much more done. You're introverts so you get energy from being alone and this can make you extremely self sufficient. God you guys are ridiculously smart. Your brains can handle both abstract and concrete material very easily and ISTPs lose patience with the theoretical quickly. I'm not saying other types can't be smart or decisive, but INTJ is certainly up there. You guys are good at manipulation and can work the system. Your brains catch on so fast to difficult concepts. Your eyes are terrifying and bore lasers into people. You would make great Sith Lords, but part time, since you're too practical and would want a full time job.

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Vibe of Each Type – Typespotting

ESFJ: Mother hen. Queen bee. Glamorous. Get involved in everyone’s business. Sweet but manipulative. Dress to impress.

ISFJ: Somewhat timid and low-key. Innocent and sweet. Overly apologetic and anxious. Dress conservatively but in a cute way.

ESTJ: Like they’re about to give you a flyer for their local election campaign. Graceful humour and manner. Bossy. Isn’t going to take any of your shit. Dress professionally, even in casual settings.

ISTJ: Somewhat stern and coolly authoritative. Serious with a deeper hidden fun side (that really is fun but they won’t reveal it to just anyone — they have to keep up appearances of being competent and dutiful). Seem like they’re always “on the clock”. Keep in the background but universally liked for how reliable and reasonable they are. Subtly controlling. Dress somewhat conventionally but with personal flair.

ESFP: Fun-loving and chill. They’re just here to have a good time. Lighten everyone’s spirits. Celebrity-esque presence. Very popular. Dress lasciviously or garishly.

ISFP: Not quite in the room with you. Spaced out. Ethereal or very unique sense of fashion that compliments them perfectly.

ESTP: Brash and in your face. Jovial and seem to be right in the moment. Cocky. Bro-y. Charming. Crude but want everyone to have a good time. Quickly make themselves comfortable in whatever space they’re in. Gratified by physical pleasures. Dress for attractiveness and comfort.

ISTP: Withdrawn. May seem like there’s something better they could be doing than talking to you. Smug charm. Broody. Dress for comfort and utility.

ENFJ: Everyone loves them. Responsible, popular, conventional, friendly. Big, shining smiles. Genuinely kind. Socially appropriate but also cool. “Fake” exterior but you can see the depth beneath it. Dress conventionally but well.

INFJ: Seem slightly menacing. Something other-worldy about them. Might initially seem cold and as if they’re judging everything you say (they are, but because they’re trying to work out what kind of person you are). Intense gaze. Stare off into the distance when thinking. Friendly. Expressive face when comfortable. Cultured. Dress simply but well.

ENFP: Goofy. Open-minded, somewhat erratic and impulsive. Smile a lot and you can tell they’re holding back the urge to hug everyone all the time. Incredibly friendly and authentically kind. Wear their past hurts for anyone to see. When moody they make you feel very bad — like hurting a puppy. Dress loud.

INFP: Slightly awkward. Take themselves too seriously. Gloomy. Somewhat naive but pure of heart. Dress unconventionally.

ENTJ: Confident. Know their own worth and what they want. Command attention and sure of themselves. Dress to exhibit dominance.

INTJ: Snidely intelligent. Know-it-all. Cold exterior and probably cold interior too. They will only show their inner child with people they have completely vetted as being competent and worth their time. Subtle but whip smart humour. Poised. Dress at least smart casual all the time.

ENTP: Comedian. Sly but fun. Mad scientist. Fuck with you for shits and giggles. Play devil’s advocate. Erratic, conceptual and flighty. All over the place. Uncoordinated and zany fashion sense.

INTP: Awkward. Weird. May seem like they’re hiding a sadness. Intelligent. Sweet and innocent underneath many layers. Poor fashion sense.

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Hi, what are some ways to tell INTJ and INFJ apart? I know they have two functions that are totally different, but from an outsiders perspective they almost seem identical.

These are some differences I’ve noticed :) talking about well developed inxjs.

INFJs:

- Are like ice when angry

- Scare you when they cry

- Cheeky chill vibes

- Try not to speak so they don’t incriminate themselves

- Worries about what after death is like

- Quiet confidence

- Bit of a warrior

- Warm and secure

INTJs:

-Are like fire when angry

- Make u melt when they cry

- Don’t shut up

- Manic chill vibes

- Worries about what death feels like

- Obvious confidence

- A bit of swagger

- Warm and vulnerable

I know it’s kind of vague

Sorry

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Yikes

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The Relation between MBTI and the Four Temperaments

This was in my notes for a while. I wanted to look at how the four temperaments/cardinal humors connect with each MBTI type, making it reliable for typing.

Basics of the Temperaments

We should start with a frame of reference. One challenge is that there are many competing views of the four temperaments. For example, when you think of Melancholic, you often picture someone who is more sensitive and creative, because you might imagine somberness bringing about artistic/poetic qualities. But these traits only come from being aligned with reflection, or a Phlegmatic temperament.

With that, we need a basic reference to see how traits move between the temperaments and the types. As said in another post:

Sanguine: Usually cheerful, likes being involved and enjoying things with others

Melancholic: Usually occupied or worried about something, often working on it

Phlegmatic: Tending to be more reflective, often keeping things to oneself

Choleric: Most ambitious, wants to accomplish definite things

A long description for each temperament is not necessary. Adding too much can add things that don’t really always apply to that temperament; it becomes too particular.

True vs. Blended Temperaments

A “true” temperament indicates that there is no other temperament that has clear influence in an individual. You can also use “pure” or “absolute” when describing these temperaments. Meanwhile, a “blended” or “mixed” temperament means that there is secondary influence from another of the four temperaments.

Think of a palette of the four temperaments. Sanguine is red, Melancholic is black, Phlegmatic is blue, and Choleric is yellow. A Sanguine-Choleric palette would be mostly red, secondarily yellow, with few amounts of black and blue. A Pure Sanguine palette, then, would be mainly red with minority amounts of yellow, black, and blue.

Of course, the temperaments are not paints (nor probably related to the actual bodily fluids), and there are other issues with the comparison, but it might better explain the effects/consequences of primary vs. secondary (I don’t know yet for absent temperaments, such as “Melancholic” for ESTP, but it’s probably irrelevant).

The Sanguines “(^^)”

The Sanguines are generally cheerful and like being involved and enjoying things with others. Cheerfulness indicates optimism, which means confidence (can be E) and lack of worry (can be P). Being involved and enjoying things with others also associates mostly with either being a people-person (F), or enjoying the moment and experience (S).

Notable: All the primarily Sanguine types are Extraverts.

➤ The ESFPs are True Sanguines. They are usually confident and optimistic and like being involved and enjoying things with others in the present. They are not secondarily occupied or worried (J, or not Melancholic), introspective (I, or not Phlegmatic), or forceful (T, or not Choleric).

➤ The ENFPs are Sanguine-Phlegmatics. Like the ESFPs, they are often optimistic, sociable, and like being involved with others. However, they are less drawn to in-the-moment or practical action, which conversely means being secondarily reflective or pondering instead of interactive. This might also show how many ENFPs relate more to the “intimate” facet than “gregarious” one.

➤ The ENTPs are Sanguine-Cholerics. Their Choleric temperament (which all ET types have predominantly or secondarily) creates a directness and strong will that follows their general spiritedness or confidence. They care about results and the bottom line, but it isn’t their most important priority.

➤ The ESFJs are Sanguine-Melancholics. Similar to the other ES types, they like being involved and enjoying things with other in the now. Their Melancholic temperament creates more diligence and worry as an auxiliary to being involved with others, resulting in the harmoniousness and planfulness that they’re known for.

The Melancholics “(TT)”

The Melancholics are usually occupied or worried about something, and often working on it. Being occupied and worried about things usually means some conscientiousness (more I and T or J) or, and working shows a productiveness that is more common to J types. Also, work emphasizes a practical way of being (more S, and/or secondarily J).

Notable: All primarily Melancholic types are Introverts.

➤ The ISTJs are True Melancholics. They are deliberative, occupied, diligent. They usually aim most for efficacy, which in itself is a care that things work. They are not secondarily the cheerful ones with others (Sanguine), “unrevealing” in perception (Phlegmatic), or as enterprising (Choleric).

➤ The INTJs are Melancholic-Cholerics. They are also very deliberative and analytical, but in contrast are more “systematic” or even strategic, because they are more conceptual and abstract. Their focus for the future or long-range creates Choleric ambition, determination, or confidence.

➤ The INFJs are Melancholic-Phlegmatics. Their worry generally extends to people, despite also being generally calm. They do not like to be rushed, and their reflectiveness may explain the gentleness or even artistic sensibilities more present in these types. It also might show why many INFJs consider themselves more “left-brained” or “less freewheeling” than INFPs.

➤ The ISTPs are Melancholic-Sanguines. They are also conscientious, critical, and analytical, but they are simultaneously more amiable, casual, and generally less pessimistic than their ISTJ counterparts. For this reason both ISPs are secondarily Sanguine, as it means enjoyment mainly in the present, but not in as an expressive way as the predominantly Sanguine.

The Phlegmatics “(- -)”

The Phlegmatics tend to be more reflective and keep things to themselves. Being reflective or thoughtful is more introspective (always I, sometimes N and/or F), and it might mean being less “productive” (more P). Keeping things to oneself also means being more quiet and inexpressive (or I, and sometimes IP).

Notable: All primarily Phlegmatic types are Introverts.

➤ The INFPs are True Phlegmatics. They are generally quiet, contemplative, and an abundance of the phlegmatic temperament also reveals a pondering, less practical or somber nature. They are generally less involved (not Sanguine), more relaxed (not Melancholic), and also less determined or assertive (not Choleric).

➤ The ISFPs are Phlegmatic-Sanguines. Similar to the INFPs they are also more gentle, private, and forgiving. They are also rather yielding, as P is more about keeping options open. The Sanguine temperament accounts for their focus more to the present, being actually involved in things, and their spontaneity, which shows slightly more optimism or ease.

➤ The ISFJs are Phlegmatic-Melancholics. They are cooperative, supportive, and generally quiet, but they are most likely of the Phlegmatics to be more concerned/occupied, diligent in work, and generally “steady.” They are not predominantly Melancholic similar to why the ISFPs aren’t, in S’s enjoyment > N’s inspiration.*

➤ The INTPs are Phlegmatic-Cholerics. They are also generally quiet and contemplative, but they can be fairly more confident and/or confrontational (all NTs admire/aspire for mastery/competency, which might explain why all of them are Cholerics or Choleric blends). Like INTJs, this Choleric side is secondary, not principal.

*If you consider yourself an “ISFP” but relate more to this, or vice versa for an “ISFJ” and the ISFP’s temperament, this may be a sign of a mistype because of the famous but incorrect “function model”. There were a considerable number of self-identified ISFPs who said they are more “Melancholic” on my other post about the temperaments.

The Cholerics “(><)”

The Cholerics are the most ambitious and wanting to accomplish definite things. Being ambitious can mean drivenness (usually J), forcefulness (often ET), or an enterprising nature (E and/or N). Accomplishing definite things also indicates some plan or matters being settled (usually J).

Notable: All the primarily Choleric types are Extraverts.

➤ The ENTJs are True Cholerics. Out of all types they are probably both the most driven, enterprising, and concerned with moving “forward.” They are assertive and not particularly cheerful or lighthearted (not Sanguine), nor worried or “sober”/sensible (not Melancholic), nor reserved or happy with just reflection/understanding (not Phlegmatic).

➤ The ESTJs are Choleric-Melancholics. They are also driven and rather strong-willed, but their Melancholic side brings out a common sense “working” or realistic ethic and more worry/pessimism (sort of related to the ISTJ), because optimism requires either carefreeness found in P or trust in expectation over actuality found in N.

➤ The ESTPs are Choleric-Sanguines. Compared to ENTPs these types are more vigorous or assertive because they are more involved in the present and their surroundings, opposed to possibilities or flights of fancy. They are quite assured, fun-loving, and have things they want to accomplish, but not at the expense of general enjoyment.

➤ The ENFJs are Choleric-Phlegmatics. They are quite aspiring and willful, but their secondarily Phlegmatic temperament can account for their sociability, harmonizing nature, and extravagancy, which may make the overall “forcefulness” less extreme with more reflectiveness or openness to other possibilities.

Another Summary:

SJ = Melancholic primary or blend

SP = Sanguine primary or blend

NF = Phlegmatic primary or blend

NT = Choleric primary or blend

E = Sanguine or Choleric primary

I = Melancholic or Phlegmatic primary

J = At least 1 out of 2: Melancholic or Choleric, primary or blend

P = At least 1 out of 2: Sanguine or Phlegmatic, primary or blend

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INTJ Anger

There are two types of anger with an INTJ, and it just depends on who you are in relation to them, and what has been done.

#1: Obvious Fire.

This is the unmistakable anger an INTJ displays when someone is being an idiot. Questioning their method while they are in the middle of a task, micro managing them, or just being ignorant will get you this type of anger, and it is usually shown to people the INTJ does not know well. Obvious anger usually involves glares, sarcastic comments, and a lowering of your self esteem as the INTJ explains to you exactly why you’re wrong.

#2: Silent Ice.

This type of anger is harder to distinguish, and reserved for those who are close to the INTJ. If you hurt their feelings by rejecting, yelling at, betraying, or trying to manipulate them after they have given you their trust and love, they go completely silent, usually without warning. If you try to get the answer as to why they’re mad at you, prepare yourself for a lashing. With a soft voice and neutral tone, the INTJ will verbally rip you apart. It’s actually very similar to the INFJ Door Slam, but INTJs are more prone to standing up to conflict if the other person wants to fight, whereas the INFJ dislikes conflict, and tends to avoid it at all costs. If you know what’s good for you, you’ll just leave the INTJ alone and let them shut you out of their life.

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this is almost too accurate…

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People I’ve met irl

Intuitives

ENTJ

- always the leader of the group

- strong opinions, tries to sway people their way

- direct and doesn’t really like it when people aren’t paying attention

- really nice and gets along with the group, only is harsh when annoyed

- not afraid of change and is constantly adapting

INTJ

- hard exterior which makes it difficult to get close to them

- says they hate people a lot

- gives good advice to solve problems

- has a small group of friends, and trusts them very much

- asks friends what to do in relationships because they have no idea

ENFJ

- Energetic as hell

- talkative, and constantly making jokes

- tries to help people constantly, doesn’t know what to do when they push away

- very open and genuine

- can be too much for some people because of how energetic they are

INFJ

- can be very talkative when you get to know them

- pretends to be mean but isn’t at all

- too generous and can be hurt easily

- knows a lot of random facts

- don’t make them too upset because they’ll most likely never let you in again

ENTP

- 100% energetic or wants to be alone

- pretends they’re smarter than everyone

- accidentally insults their friends but feels bad about it

- probably likes anime or something

- always getting into and out of relationships because of how charming they are

INTP

- artistic and likes drawing nerdy things

- jokes around a lot with friends

- “did you know?”

- not as mean as everyone says, just doesn’t know what to say to emotional situations

- would rather play video games than school work but still passes the class

ENFP

- 100% energetic or isolates themselves

- normally not the leader, but good leadership skills. Would just rather not do the work tbh.

- has 500 hobbies that change everyday

- cries at the beginning of an argument, then turns into the devil itself

- can easily pass all the classes, but sometimes is just too lazy

INFP

- moody but feels bad about it

- has 5 different crushes

- has a lot of online friends because of how much they enjoy being on their phone

- anxious to show their art to their friends because they can be too hard on themselves even if they’ve painted a masterpiece

- tries to hide their emotions through humor but you can easily read through it

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The MBTI Types As Perceived By A Female INTJ

[Geddit? No? Ah, well. I’m not going to judge you.]

ENTP:

- will pick a fight with you for recreation

- pretty talented, but not a jack-of-all-trades

- charming, IF they want to be

- awesome NT jokes

INTP:

- lost af

- STEM JOKES™

- life ambition is to be an INTJ. I prefer them as an INTP, though

ENTJ:

- looks like a bubbly kitten, will scratch your face off

- will win literally anyone over with their charisma, confidence and leadership qualities

- Sneers™

Other INTJs:

- they’re awesome, because they’re like me

- but seriously, bright anti-social loners who can lead but won’t lead to save their life

- trips over words in new company, Grammar Nazis with close friends

ENFP:

- I know the stereotype, but I frankly DO NOT GET ALONG with ENFPs

- good substance, but their irresponsibility does make me a bit annoyed

- I want to shout at them, but at the same time, I don’t

INFP:

- sensitive, but pretty good once they realise my basic nature is hostile

- Goofy™

- I just want to wrap one up and take them home with me

INFJ:

- my favourite

- Dad Joke Enthusiasts™

- Nerds in Hiding™

ENFJ:

- social butterflies

- the least intuitive of the intuitives

- surprisingly aggressive in private

- THEY GIVE THE BEST GIFTS

ESTP:

- another type I surprisingly like a lot

- use their tert Fe really well; surprisingly sensitive with the Feelers, especially the NFs

- they’re sexy and they know it. Confidence 101

ESFP:

- “BRO LET’S GO CHECK OUT THAT HOT CHICK- Damn, that guy’s hot”

- make some of the greatest friends

- even their handwriting’s curvaceous (although I only know male ESFPs. But still)

ESFJ:

- ESFJ come. INTJ (internally) scared. INTJ run away.

ESTJ:

- aggressive dictator rulers. I have no idea why leadership matters so much to them.

- can be found strenuously arguing with THAT ARROGANT ENTP THAT ALWAYS ENDS UP ON THEIR TEAM.

- and after all that, they’re still beautiful social butterflies

ISTJ:

- don’t believe the rumours. You can’t tell me ISTJs are the biggest drama AND gossip queens

- can be found arguing with xTxJs about efficiency

- subconsciously makes Dad Jokes

ISFJ:

- sweet, silent, sober and simple

- not as shitty as people crack them up to be. Actually quite sensible yet sensitive individuals

- only down-point is that they can’t/won’t keep up if you go on an N loop. They just can’t/won’t.

ISFP:

- sorry for the stereotype, but they’re airy-fairy individuals

- aesthetic game is ON POINT

- if you’re happy, they’re happy

ISTP:

- ATHLETIC™

- almost always smiling

- if they use their tert Ni, their humour game is AWESOME

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INTJs definition of self-care

Staying in their own room all day long just browsing the internet without any interruption from the outside world.

Playing video games or watch movies when they’re supposed to finish a project or study for the exams. 

Staying up until 4AM to enjoy the state of the world when everyone is asleep. 

Buying a new, expensive shower cream or a shampoo. 

Buying new, cute stationery. 

Reading articles or watching informative videos to learn random facts everyday.

Wearing black or simple clothing to not attract attention.

Wearing earphones in public.

Oversleeping. 

Talking to cats and spending time with them. 

Putting time aside to do nothing. 

Organize their desk and cleaning the whole room. 

Buying new notebooks or sketchbooks. 

Refilling the glass of water or bottle and place it near desk to remind themselves to stay hydrated. 

Cleaning their gadgets especially the screen. 

Organizing their wallet or handbags. 

Discovering and creating new music playlists. 

Talking to a random person on the internet or a close friend at least a few hours per day to fulfill their social needs.  

Finding and sharing memes with someone. 

Indulging in their hobbies. 

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MBTI types response to manipulation

INFP- as a child, they are more likely to be manipulated because they want to see the best in people. However, once they see through the manipulation, they see the red flags and avoid it. As they get older, they can be quite tough and stubborn against manipulation because they can see more both the bad qualities as well as the good qualities in a person.

INFJ- They can normally sense when they are being manipulated. They are typically sceptical of people and will be on their guard. However, if a person they love is manipulating them then it is more difficult for them to recognize this.

INTP- They almost expect others to be manipulative and keep a safe distance from people. They are difficult to manipulate even if the person is close to them. The reason being that they want what people say to be backed up by reason.

INTJ- They openly dislike manipulative people. Most likely they will eithet steer clear or cut manipulative people out of their life. They are pretty strong in what they think so it takes a lot of research and facts in order to sway them.

ISFP- They are easily manipulated because of their kind and gentle soul. They dislike being manipulated and will try to find ways to get these people out of their life. However, especially with people they love, they are blind to the fact they are being taken advantage of.

ISFJ-Even though they are actually kind of skeptic of people, they are easily swayed by emotions. Their caring and loyal qualities makes them a sometimes easy target for manipulation.

ISTP- They are not at all easy to manipulate. They dislike to be aroundy shady people so will remove these people from their life. They like people who are upfront and hate pointless drama.

ISTJ-They are very skeptical people and at a slight chance that someone is pushing them in a certain direction, they immediately lose trust. They like making their own decisions.

ENFP-They can be somewhat gullible and easy to manipulate. However, they are quite good at manipulation themselves. As they gain experience and new information, they will become skeptical of people.

ENFJ- They are great at seeing shady people. However, especially with loved ones, they have a hard time saying no to them. So even though they recognize the manipulation, they wont necessarily stop it.

ENTP- They are frustrated by manipulative people and do their best to avoid them. However, if someone tries to manipulate them, they will probably retaliate by manipularing that person back.

ENTJ-They are naturally skeptical people. They dont really let anyone sway their decisions so it is very difficult for them to be manipulated.

ESFP-They are easily manipulated by people they trust. They are quite blind to anything because they are upfront people and dont think anything else.

ESFJ- Normally, they are not manipulated by people. However, everything changes when the person manipulating is someone they love. They will sacrifice their own needs for others.

ESTP- They will not be manipulated by strangers. But can be easily manipulated by their loved ones. They wont realise they are being manipulated either. They want to think the best of those people.

ESTJ-They arent normally easily manipulated. They are skeptical. However, with loved ones they have a struggle with saying no to them.

I would like to point out that certain types are more vulnerable to other types and therefore even if they are skeptical, they can sometimes still be manipulated. But this is mostly when types get to know each other.

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what do you mean when intj's plan for things after a year of dating(

{ INTJ }

Hi! Thanks for the Ask.

INTJ’s goal in a relationship is to make their partner happy and live their life to the fullest with the said partner efficiently. Just think of someone who daydreams about their relationship goals but instead of just lying down on sofa and giggle like an idiot they have a book and a pen that writes down everything and comes up with options including the pros and cons to weigh each options to find the best one. They also have BACKUP plans (plans for failed plans, plans for failed plans for failed plans..). 

When they think of their wedding they don’t think about how beautiful their dress is. They’d think about how expensive it can be and how they can efficiently cut down the cost for dress to spend on other things like furniture/home appliances to start up their life.

When they go shopping they’d think about what their partner needs currently or in the future; say, the partner recently got a job. INTJ has planned to buy shirts/shoes for the partner 4 weeks earlier. 

The INTJ is always 50 steps ahead of their partner when it comes to planning. They have a mentally written to-do list that covers up 5-10 years (or even more than that), no kidding. And if you’re in a relationship with them rest assured you’re included in the entire list. 

Ask INTJ where they want to live, what career they’re most likely to pursue, where/when they want to get married, the kids’ names, yada yada, they won’t take much time to answer because they’ve thought of everything.

So what I meant was; if an INTJ is serious about you, they plan.

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How do I spot an INFJ/INTJ?

1. “Death-stare”. The phenomenon has been widely described. When they look at you, you feel as if they were inside your head.

2. They are organized, have their shit together (or at least try to make such impression). Usually dress well. Prefer plain clothing and simple haircuts.

3. In group settings they are the one that doesn’t say much and looks bored/confused/sad.

4. They have some kind of academic interest. Typical intellectuals.

5. Wry, dark sense of humour. Often use sarcasm, especially when talking about “big things”.

6. You will get a “prophet-vibe” from them. Like they were a wandering lunatic, living more inside their heads than in the present moment (although they share this trait with INFJs, but those have more of a “dreamy”, intimate look in their eyes, while an INTJ’s eyes are more analyzing).

7. Their FB profile has little to no activity, but may have an unusual profile/background pic.

8. They read while commuting.

9. Might come off as arrogant, cold. Accidentally say harsh things without even realizing it. Might be extremely judgemental (especially the immature ones).

10. Are very seclusive and private, you may know them for years and have no effin clue who they are and what they do.

11. They will ask open ended questions and will try to get to know who you are inside.

12. They make long pauses while speaking and you can almost feel that they are gathering thoughts. This might change if they open up and feel at ease with you.

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another section from Dario Nardi’s book “Neuroscience of Personality”. these describe the brain patterns and sections that are used with each function. these are the percieving functions.

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so this helped me confirm my type, it’s the temperments from Dario Nardi’s book Neuroscience of Personality. It was very accurate, at least for me, so hopefully it will help someone at least narrow down their types, and if not, just read it for enjoyment i guess.

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can you give us a rundown on the self-development for an intj too?

For self-improvement, an INTJ should…

Ni: work on taking the time necessary to reach an accurate perception, rather than going with your first hunch; Ni tends to work unconsciously, so you do not have to put a ton of thought into it, just feed it enough information for it to sort through good ideas from bad ones and give you the answer. Learn to feed your Ni the information it needs from many different sources. READ CAREFULLY whatever you are studying, all the way through. If you do not study a concept in-depth, you may assume you know it better than you do, which means making mistakes. This is very common in immature / young Ni-doms–to assume via their Ni, they “know” the subject, when in reality they do not.

Te: what is obvious and factual to you is less obvious and not factual to people of other types, so your best asset will be learning to express yourself in a way that is clear, detailed, and objectively factual, rather than resorting to thinking people are stupid when they do not understand the choice you made, or what you need them to do. I would also suggest learning the skill of delegation; a lot of the ISTJs I know wind up “doing it all myself” because other people are less competent and/or do not do it to their satisfaction. This slows YOU down. Use your Si and Te together to build awareness of who can be competent at what based on your experiences with that person and then trust them to do it.

Fi: your tendency will be to resist Fi development, because it’s a sensitive area that seems to conflict with your logical detachment. You do not have to be “emotional” to develop Fi; spend time thinking about your beliefs. Really sit down and consider them. Ask yourself if you really believe this, or it is something you grew up with / someone else has pressed upon you. Your should have an “inner conviction” that alerts you to your true Fi ethics. It may be helpful to make a list of the times people have “set you off,” and look for a pattern in that that tells you why. It may be you react that way, because you believe in personal honor, so people challenging yours upsets you; or you have a thing about loyalty to your friends, so you go off on people who abuse your friends within your hearing. Knowing what your Fi convictions are will be useful in identifying when you are using Fi in that way, and also in setting down boundaries for other people early in the relationship. (”I really only have one rule: don’t trash talk my friends. Other than that, we’re cool”).

Se: get off your butt, out of the house, away from your mind, and into the real world. Spend time in nature. Sit there and close your eyes and feel the world around you. See if you can actually feel it and sense where you are in space. Start interacting with the real world, and trying new things, so you can better check your impulses under stress and can maybe avoid Se-grips, where you become reckless and over-indulge your Se appetites.

- ENFP Mod