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If you accidentally hurt someone or cross their boundaries and they make you aware of this, literally all you have to do is apologize and stop. You don't have to beat yourself up internally for months. You don't have to hate yourself for fucking up. You don't have to feel like a horrible person. No one benefits from any of that - and at worst, such an extreme reaction will make the person in question less likely to speak up around you in the future, cause even if your negative reaction is directed at yourself and not at them, it's still unpleasant for everyone involved.

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Oooo that's a good idea

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no sentence fills me with utter loathing so much as "i asked chatgpt"

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this is the full video of patti lupone breaking the sound barrier at the 1988 tony awards btw

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why do we even have legal genders anyway. maybe we should not have those

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Okay, so hear me out. There are species of animals that reject their offspring if they don’t “smell” right. Like something about the pheromones are off and thus the vibes are bad. You can’t be mine, you smell funny. Similarly, we know that hormones and neurochemical reactions play a large part in bonding between human babies and parents. Our brains are swimming in chemicals that have us looking at our squishy, decidedly odd-looking newborns and saying “it’s so cute, I wanna bite it.”

My dudes (gender neutral). My people. My fellow nerds. Superman initially rejecting his clone because he doesn’t smell right. The kid was in a soup of artificial, clone-making chemicals and he doesn’t smell like he should. But what the fuck is he supposed to smell like? Superman having no frame of reference for this crazy feeling, for this intense dislike of a person with his face, and struggling internally with it because he knows logically that this deep revulsion doesn’t make sense. Problem is, he physically can’t help it. Something about this kid makes his teeth itch and his fingers twitch.

Then the kid takes a shower and changes his clothes and oh. Why would I push him away? That’s my baby. Hate him? How could I hate my baby? My baby. My sweet, perfect, amazing angel baby. My baby. My baby. My baby. Mybabymybabymybabymybaby.

And it’s probably hilarious from the outside looking in, because Superman looked ready to light the kid on fire a minute ago and now he’s all gooey-eyed. No thoughts, just sappy smiles and burying his nose in the clone’s hair. He’s ready to pluck the moon from the sky and hang it on a string for his kid. It’s sweet and adorable.

It’s also completely, utterly terrifying. Seeing how quickly one of the strongest beings in the known universe fell victim to his own biology, how wildly the pendulum swung from one extreme to the other. Batman’s immediately planning a trip to the Fortress to gather intel on this reaction. How long does it last? Is it normal? Is it supposed to be like this? Does it have anything to do with the clone being a teenager and not a newborn? Would it be worse with a newborn? Does the League, does he need contingency plans for this?

And Superman—Clark recognizes the sudden shift, but can’t do a thing about it. He should be scared of how every concern in his mind gets swept away by this out-of-control hormonal response, but he doesn’t want to do a thing about it. He can’t help the smile plastered on his face when Kon—what a perfect name, a beautiful name for my baby, mybabymybabyMYbabymyBABYMYBABYMYBABYMYBABY—sighs contently in his sleep or scrunches his nose in disgust at new foods, new sensations.

Something in Clark’s eyes says “I don’t know what’s happening, help me,” but it quickly gets snuffed out by “I will flip this entire universe over if a single hair on my baby’s head is out of place.” And honestly? Yeah, it’s scary, but every parent he knows—Bruce included—totally gets it.

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empathy gets treated as this universally positive thing but we forget that empathy often equals pain, and pain often activates fight or flight behaviors. a lot of my most asshole moments as a person were motivated by a twinge of empathy that was too painful to engage with in that moment, so i became aggressive and mean, NOT compassionate and helpful

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one of the more bleak things to acknowledge is that if you pirate literally all of your music and then set aside a spotify subscription's worth of money each month to spend on a single pay-what-you-want album, it would almost immediately amount to you supporting those musicians more than streaming does

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It’s so funny how people forget what certain dog breeds were bred for. A dachshund named Valerie has been marooned on a remote part of Kangaroo Island since she ran away from a campsite in 2023 and everyone in the comments was like “that is the last dog breed I would expect to survive on its own for 500 days”. Hmm. I don’t know if it’s just me and I’ve met absolute freak dachshunds my entire life but they’re tenacious little motherfuckers with an incredible prey drive. I’m more worried about the critically endangered endemic Kangaroo Island dunnart population than I am Valerie. No large predators, several species of small mammal, temperatures consistently between 55° and 75°? She’s the queen of the island now. All small marsupials quake at the sound of her footsteps.

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hi! im going to take your interest genuinely bc id like to think you specifically and the general audience wouldnt deliberately act naive to try and derail a post, so i am going to paraphrase the six years of cybersecurity training i have through work!

1) comes from a source that doesn’t check with who they say they are - for ex, comes anonymously but tags a specific blog — you cant actually verify that the message is from that blog, nor can you verify that the blog is who they say they are - this can also apply if their blog name and the name they introduce themselves with don’t match - for ex, if they say their name is maryam but their blog is ahmad-14707, then it is almost certainly a scam.

2) creates a sense of urgency - yes the current situation is dire, but they have three or more different emergencies in one message? they are trying to make you upset and turn your thinking off and your emotions on - for ex, theyre Palestinian AND their house is destroyed AND their child is dying and, and, and? scam. one thing, maybe two is a reasonable number to include in a message to someone you know, but the more urgent they make it sound the less real it’s likely to be

3) tries to get you to use a payment method that doesnt make sense - Paypal and GoFundMe don’t service the Middle East, so if this message points you to one of these services be EXTREMELY careful to check who the payee is for those accounts. if the names dont all match up, steer extremely clear. if the payee is different but not mentioned in the GFM link, avoid. If the payee is different but doesnt have proof that they have the ability to transfer the money to the designated recipient, avoid

4) the images attached to anything are commonly reused and/or AI generated - if you can reverse image search any of the images and theyre on several different pages, then they are more than likely not actually attached to the user noted and you should avoid donating to that person.

And here are some tumblr-specific red flags:

5) contacts blogs who dont have any posts about donations or who have no provably large following - why would they want someone who gets 3-4 notes on their own posts to share their needs? how did they even find you in the first place?

6) if they are reaching out in the replies of a post? avoid. theres no logical reason to spend limited time and internet access posting in random popular posts, esp when they aren’t related to Palestine

7) wording to other messages that are materially similar - you have to start reading the messages, but you’ll start to pick up on common phrases in the bulk messages that start to pop up, almost like they’re typing off a script - think: if these are all supposed to be different people, why are they all sending materially identical messages?

i have been on tumblr since 2011, so i have seen a lot of scams on this website. back then it was sick pets, then p0rnbots, and now those have all but disappeared and requests for donations for Palestinians have exploded in popularity.

its good of you to want to help people! it speaks well to your character and your heart, but there are a lot of people trying to get money out people who have little to give, and they arent nearly as well meaning as you are. they benefit greatly from scams like this - maybe your $10 isnt much, but when they can trick even 1% of tumblrs users into donating, they make a TON of money - 1% of 3M users is 30k people, and at $10 each that’s $300k. Even if they only get an average of $3 per person that’s $90k. To convert to the countries mentioned above, that’s the following amounts:

Cambodia: 300k usd = 1,201,435,291.26 khr, 90k usd = 360,430,587.38 khr

Myanmar: 300k usd = 1,312,881.07 myr; 90k usd = 393,864.32 myr

like i said, its really admirable that you want to help those in need. but its better to actually help than do what makes you personally feel good, and large charities with good charity navigator scores have the ability to help at a much larger scale than any individual can, and they usually help in immediate material ways - food or medical care etc, instead of giving money and hoping it’s put to best use.

I miss when I would get Tumblr asks that actually said things and weren't just digital panhandling scams.

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Perhaps this will be thought of as being too woke but it's really discouraging that people are constantly inventing new reasons to think of people with slow reaction times or who misunderstand instructions as evil or idiotic or soulless. Like complaining about older people having a blank stare while they try to process what the barista said or whatever. Oh, they have the evil bad people lead poisoning. They're brain damaged. They have Facebook brainrot. They're NPCs, whatever, etc. As someone with bad sensory processing from psychosis and ADHD (you people can't do anything haha I know omg disabled person is disabled) I so often end up lagging there trying to understand what I'm supposed to do. I have trouble reading the instructions on the keypad, I have trouble processing the push or pull on the door, I have trouble processing the words being said to me and following instructions. You can still think I'm a piece of shit customer and that's fine but going online and seeing people act like this behavior makes you subhuman and non-concious is soooo depressing

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are you loud in bed?

you could say that

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"we shouldn't fight to improve [small thing] because it's just a symptom of [big thing]" okay well big thing is too big to fall on it's own, so I'm gonna start by fighting to improve small thing, and once enough small things have fallen that people have the time and energy and bandwidth to fight then we can fight big thing, because until then all of the small things are weighing every potential fighter down to the point that they can't get out of fucking bed, let alone fight big thing.

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u/HiddenMacchine

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so when straight people ask me why I say I’m “queer” or “gay” instead of sharing my actual identity as a panromantic demisexual non-binary sapphic queer I just tell them “ok look, when you’re talking to someone who isn’t local and they ask you where you’re from and you either say the name of the largest city nearby or ‘town name, suburb of large nearby city’ so they can get some geographical context of where you’re located right, bc they’re probably not going to know the name of the little town you actually live in.”

but if you’re talking to a local you can say the name of your actual town bc they have a greater chance of knowing where/what that is.

ok well when I’m talking to a straight person I start with queer bc chances are they aren’t as familiar with the context of all the little towns in that big queer city and need gps (gay positioning system) to find me.

if I’m talking to another queer person and I say I live in a suburb of gay city in a town called panromantic on the demisexual side of the tracks which is in the county of queer and I live off the intersection of non-binary and sapphic, they’d probably be able to find me with little to no problems, make sense?

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the other day one of my coworkers halfway referenced the spiders georg post but stopped before he actually reached the spiders georg part. like. I can't be sure that that's what he was doing but one coworker said "yknow. people swallow several spiders every year" and my other coworker said "well that's just- it's not true. it's a- no, you'd wake up" and just. there was a look in his eyes. I just know