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I hate when something simply throws you off guard and it takes days to pull yourself out of the deep abyss of depression... It's sunny. I should be outside hiking but I am laying on my bed crying and wishing life was a little less cruel....

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Hell No

Ingrid Michaelson Ingrid Michaelson and Greg Laswell divorced in February of 2015. Laswell released his album… read more » HELL NO LYRICS [Verse 1] I should've known better I saw her wearing your sweater Nice glasses, fake red hair, just like me Stop crying, stop crawling Can't you see that I have stop falling We were good at faking forever I get it, whatever Am I gonna miss you? [Chorus] Hell no Baby watch me up and go Mama said that the boys like you never work any way (Boys like you) Girlsfriends say "are you gonna be sad If you calls you up you're gonna take him back?" I say Hell no, oh, hell no I get it, whatever [Verse 2] Straight up, don't blame you You’re not the Cash and I’m not the June Never be the one to make you better Whatever [Chorus] Hell no Baby watch me up and go Mama said that the boys like you never work any way (Boys like you) Girlsfriends say "are you gonna be sad If you calls you up you're gonna take him back?" Hell no, oh, hell no [Bridge] In my bed late at night Thinking of how you held me tight Will I be lonely when I wake? Did we make a big mistake? [Chorus] Hell no Baby watch me up and go I always know that a boy like you wouldn't work out any way "You gonna take him back?" Hell no Baby watch me up and go Mama said that the boys like you never work any way (Boys like you) Girlfriends say "are you gonna be sad If you calls you up you're gonna take him back?" I say Hell no, oh, hell no [Outro] I get it Hell no (I'm not gonna miss you) Hell no Whatever Hell no You gonna take him back? Oh hell no

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This shirt is finally leaving my closet. I have held on to it for 9 years… Hopefully the memories go with it. My bachelorette party for a marriage that should have never happened… to a man that called me sweetheart unless he had someone else on the side. Then I was babe… I actually thought we were going to make it… But he wasn’t even trying.

Goodbye shirt, please take your memories with you…

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Inside thoughts

I never wanted to be a statistic. I didn’t want to be one of those that would be counted divorced. My parents were divorced. The people they loved after their divorce, were also divorced. That word seemed so ugly. I have now come to the realization that everyone is already a statistic. We all are already counted on one side or the other on everything. I was already something I feared being… And I had been my whole life. I wanted to make it, I didn’t want to fail, I didn’t want divorce. Holding on to a marriage that should have never even happened in the first place is where I became a negative statistic, it wasn’t divorce. A hopeless miserable Married life… Or an amazing, wonderful new experience, without fear, without negativity, endless possibilities divorce… I was already a statistic, I already was what I feared being.

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Sad Beautiful Tragic Taylor Swift Lyrics

Long handwritten note, deep in your pocket Words, how little they mean, when you're a little too late I stood right by the tracks, your face in a locket Good girls, hopeful they'll be and long they will wait We had a beautiful magic love there What a sad beautiful tragic love affair In dreams, I meet you in warm conversation We both wake in lonely beds in different cities And time, is taking its sweet time erasing you And you've got your demons, and darling they all look like me 'Cause we had a beautiful magic love there What a sad beautiful tragic love affair Distance, timing, breakdown, fighting Silence, this train runs off its tracks Kiss me, try to fix it, could you just try to listen? Hang up, give up, for the life of us we can't get back

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Fml

That moment you reach out for someone in the middle of the night that hasn't been there for a year and a half... Fml.

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I thought I was just the fool around side chick. I thought I was just someone to come over when you felt lonely. I thought I was someone that was just... Just... A take it or leave it. You dropped me faster than most... No one has ever said anything like this to me before... You are amazing with words. I won't ever forget you... And to be honest, I missed you more than I should have. I missed you more than you ever let on you were missing me. You were just supposed to be a casual whatever. I miss you and your dog. :-(

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It wasn't lipstick. It was a sweater. Domestic violence isn't just physical.

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Love yourself

Cause if you like the way you look that much Ohhhh baby you should go and love yourself And if you think that I'm still holdin' on to somethin' You should go and love yourself When you told me that you hated my friends The only problem was with you and not them And every time you told me my opinion was wrong And tried to make me forget where I came from And I didn't wanna write a song Cause I didn't want anyone thinking I still care, I don't But, you still hit my phone up And baby I be moving on And I think you should be somethin' I don't wanna hold back Maybe you should know that My mama don't like you and she like's everyone And I never like to admit that I was wrong And I've been so caught up in my job, didn't see what's going on And now I know, I'm better sleeping on my own 'Cause if you like the way you look that much Oh baby you should go and love yourself And if you think that I'm still holdin' on to somethin' You should go and love yourself For all the times that you made me feel small I fell in love now I fear nothin' at all I never felt so low when I was vulnerable Was I a fool to let you break down my walls? 'Cause if you like the way you look that much Ohhhh baby you should go and love yourself And if you think that I'm still holdin' on to somethin' You should go and love yourself 'Cause if you like the way you look that much Ohhhh baby you should go and love yourself And if you think that I'm still holdin' on to somethin' You should go and love yourself And I think you should be somethin' I don't wanna hold back Maybe you should know that My mama don't like you and she like's everyone And I never like to admit that I was wrong And I've been so caught up in my job Didn't see what's going on But now I know I'm better sleeping on my own

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Truth

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But what if I really am wrong? What if I am lazy and worthless and I never amount to anything? What if I really am stupid and a burden? What if there really is nothing to me? What if under all this doubt, they’re just right?

thoughts induced by gaslighting / it’s normal to doubt yourself after you’ve had insults shoved in your face for all your life. (via furiousgoldfish)

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What is emotional abuse? Like what is classified as being emotionally abusive?

Emotional abuse is abuse that targets a person’s emotional health.

Some forms of emotional abuse include:

Gaslighting and invalidation of feelings, experiences, abilities, etc

Guilt tripping

Public humiliation

Isolating from friends and family

Victim blaming

Constant criticism

Certain forms of negative reinforcement, such as neglect or threatening abandonment, to control behaviour

Refusing to allow privacy or personal space, monitoring and controlling forms of communication and self expression, including destroying these things

Destruction of significantly personal items

Love Is Respect has this page about different forms of abuse.

This article describes 30 common emotionally abusive behaviours or actions.

This article details emotional abuse, how to recognize it and how to handle it.

Some of our posts:

Emotionally abusive parents

Tactics used by the gaslighter

Possessiveness 101

Pie chart of what a healthy relationship entails

Signs of emotional abuse

Abuse is about control

- damegreywulf

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honestly gas lighting is so harmful because even years later you question if you’re even allowed to be upset with people and you completely doubt your perception of situations

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Empath vs Narcissist

empath: taurus, cancer, leo, libra, sagittarius, pisces

narcissist: aries, gemini, virgo, scorpio, capricorn, aquarius

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How to Deal with a Narcissist

1. Don’t expect empathy, understanding or praise and recognition from a narcissistic person. Keep your private thoughts and feelings close to your heart, and don’t open up and make yourself vulnerable. 2. Expect them to be rude and to say offensive things. 3. Don’t be offended by the things they say and do as it’s not about you – they treat others the same way. 4. Make a lot of their achievements and praise them publicly as they’re always looking to be noticed and affirmed. 5. Don’t try to get a narcissist to see things differently as they’re not going to change, or be influenced by you. 6. Understand that a narcissist is going to drain you dry – and will guilt you into think that you haven’t done enough. But it’s actually not true. They just can’t be satisfied. 7. Don’t push for a meaningful relationship with them as it will always be one-sided … look for love from someone else.

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People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that’s holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then they leave. And thank God for it.

Richard from Texas, Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat Pray Love (via i-lay-reading)