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I got The Void.

I picked villain, but more like I would absolutely become some creepy horror character who protagonists constantly invite themselves into my home and when scaring them doesnt work out, I let the void eat them.

And before anyone says I can "talk" to them, I'm severely socially anxious, depressed, and pretty much agoraphobic. There is no talking to home intrudors or getting to know my neighbors. The Void would stop me because it can sense I would rather throw myself into it than talk to strangers. This would be the case of mentally ill conflated with evil becomes a self fulfilling prophecy.

You discover that you have control over a certain thing, as determined by spinning this wheel. We're talking full-on magical girl/superhero/supervillain/your label of choice control.

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I've said it before but the mile long bios where people list every single slogan for any activist movement they possibly can, the vast majority being things they will NEVER actually talk about in any meaningful way, is both performative and deeply annoying but I also just saw someone put "etc" in one of those lists and I don't know how people don't realize how fake and ridiculous they sound.

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@imthemuthafuckingcricket

HoLy FuCk

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also I am sick TO DEATH of the nonsense argument people use to justify their extremely broad, sweeping plans with no safety protocols by saying "Well I didn't LITERALLY mean total prison abolition for every incarcerated person on the planet, I didn't LITERALLY mean we should get rid of the police completely and use mob justice, ~I'm being hyperbolic to adjust the overton window~"

Yeah and you also screamed and swore and threw giant tantrums any time anyone said to "hey, love what you're doing here mostly, just a quick question: how do we keep people safe from abuse and violence?"

This is a method that does not work. "Putting unreasonable demands on the table to negotiate down" is not how you win over hearts and minds to your cause. Also, if you don't actually mean what you're saying, stop fucking yelling at people who ask you to clarify what you actually do mean because they sincerely want to know!

Aggressively campaigning for extremist positions you don't actually hold because you just want to "spark conversation" or "shift the overton window" is still aggressively campaigning for extremist positions. It drives me bonkers that people will do this and then sit there all smug as though they didn't just shoot themselves in the foot by making themselves indistinguishable from aggressive extremists.

If it quacks like a duck, it might just be a duck.

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Hot take but I really do think that some of y’all need to consider how/why/when/how often you’re making fun of straight people for being straight

I do it too, I’m not going to pretend I don’t make jokes about the hets, or the down with cis bus, or whatever

But I recently befriended a cis, straight dude and I have watched him be dismissed, degraded, and unambiguously insulted for the perceived “crime” of being straight — all in queer environments where he is allegedly “completely welcome” and surrounded by “friends”

This guy is not a toxic person! But I have seen him be made to feel so small and like his comfort and safety in those spaces are conditional on his silence and acceptance of being treated like a human dunk zone, and I think that some of y’all have had so much shit from straight/cis people that the second you feel like you’ve got an inch, you want to luxuriate in the perceived catharsis of bullying someone who— actually —doesn’t deserve it

And until he very, very carefully mentioned to me in private that it makes him feel bad, I didn’t even clock that I was involved in doing that, that it had become so instinctive for me to make casual jokes like that, and that— well meaning or otherwise —I had been contributing to an environment that made someone I really really like feel like shit

So, I dunno, I think maybe some of y’all should think about that too

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TFW people plan a mental health intervention for you and then dont show up.

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idk seems like the experience of every "gifted kid" to me.

its funny how stolas is SAID to be like a nerdy bookworm (all the bookshelves in his room, the big library room, yapping to blitzo about his books in the circus episode, getting all excited to read the contract in oops, etc etc) and yet every time it cuts to him hes just watching tv . and in apology tour he references some romcom movie.

like they never show him reading a book in his downtime??? or reference some poems he likes???? not even a hint of distress about losing all his access to his books in sinsmas??? (yeah theres bigger issues to worry about but still)

#makestolasnerdyagain

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If my friends get upset for being the butt of the joke all the time, then I would be a shitty friend to ignore that and they deserve better. Friends are not punching bags, and even if we normally do edgy jokes, the moment they say something is going too far or is too uncomfortable that is all that's needed to be a good friend and stop. If you keep going that is bullying and you are a bully. Them being straight, white, or cis doesnt mean their feelings arent valid or shouldnt be listened to.

i think theres a lot to be said about the queer community online and the echo chambers that are created within it, and i think the fact that "bullying straight people for being straight is in fact a dick move" is a hot take really says more than anything else

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If you want everyone to have a fair trial with the presumption of innocence, you might need to get less hyped about vigilante justice.

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but I dont want the daylight. I like the dark TT_TT

northern hemisphere babes we made it to the longest night of the year. we made it. for the next 6 months, every day will give us a little more daylight than the last. let's go. take my hand. climb out of the darkness with me

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The more I hear about this the more I wonder why anyone thought it would be a good idea to let any one person, developer, or whatever decide what censors a person for bigotry. This always seemed like it would be the end result. I get people want to be safe, but independent thought is becoming a forgotten skill. If you arent there to witness the crime, you're giving someone else the power to name the criminal and if that person ends up being the wrong person to trust a witch hunt is sure to follow.

WHY ARE YOU MARKED RED ON SHINIGAMI, WTF DID U DO

i cant even post moths anymore. because of woke

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hot take maybe, but I feel like punching up is in many cases kind of just stupid. Most of you are just assholes looking for excuses to be assholes, and choose to perpetuate the shit you claim to be against

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Yellow-thighed Brushfinch (Atlapetes tibialis), family Passerellidae, order Passeriformes, Costa Rica

photograph by Carlos Bolaño

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Also, any actor that followed Alan Rickman was going to be hard pressed to do it better, but once again studios have set up a person of color to play a high stakes role in a controversial franchise with insane fans and have set them up to be torn to shreds. I hope against hope it goes better for this dude.

Look, I'm not going to watch the new Harry Potter show, so I have no skin in the game... but that guy they have playing Snape looks too handsome, too sweet, and has too nice of a smile to play Snape's scowling, boney, bitter ass. It isnt believable. He looks like he was cast by someone who wrote SnapeXReader fanfic because you can not convince me that face is going to strike terror into the hearts of students and got turned down by Lily. He looks like the kind of guy who would help old ladies across the street, not abusing preteens.

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Look, I'm not going to watch the new Harry Potter show, so I have no skin in the game... but that guy they have playing Snape looks too handsome, too sweet, and has too nice of a smile to play Snape's scowling, boney, bitter ass. It isnt believable. He looks like he was cast by someone who wrote SnapeXReader fanfic because you can not convince me that face is going to strike terror into the hearts of students and got turned down by Lily. He looks like the kind of guy who would help old ladies across the street, not abusing preteens.

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thank you for the acknowledgement!

You know, I can sit here and do a whole character analysis based on assumptions supported by what little we know. I can say that Stella has never been challenged by other people, never had to be more than pretty, never had to learn any skills because her lot in life is to make an heir, and admittedly, that's unfortunate and crappy. But sorry, she's a wealthy woman of high standing. She had every opportunity to choose to make something of herself if she wanted. She could have learned to be a master of the social game or develop some skill to gain power in her own right, but she doesnt.

In fact, she got lucky as fuck by being paired with the most awkward, self conscious, and repressed goetia in Hell, because if Stolas were more confident, she wouldnt have run the show on the public image of their marriage. She didnt even put in effort to have the upper hand, Stolas didnt fight for it. She isnt planning her own evil schemes now and she had no resistance to destroy her ex husband's image then WHILE SHE WAS STILL ATTACHED TO HIM. Girl legit went telling everyone she was married to the lamest guy as if that wouldnt reflect bad on her too for choosing to stay with him. And yes, choose. Stella is not treated poorly or in the streets after the divorce. She stayed, not out of fear, decorum, or to keep the family together, but because she wanted power.

So if someone wants to empathize or see themselves in the laziest, zero IQ, most abrasive, and toxic antagonist because she's a woman, or a parent, or has a nice design, or whatever that's fine. Couldnt be me. Girl's own brother has expressed how little she brings to the table. They could try to give her depth, but she still wont know what a third dimension is. I would rather they devote scenes to the other large cast of characters or not rushing what we do get, over explaining why Stella is an abusive idiot.

And if you feel like it was a missed opportunity that we didnt get to see a goetia who was told they only exist for an heir, had to repress their own desires in life to do their duty, but then makes something for themselves, well... I have exciting news for you!

It's Stolas.

Stolas is Stella, but he leaned into his curiosity, he kept his wonder, he tries to do better for his daughter than his father did for him, and he chose to risk his position and power for happiness rather than stay in a relationship he hates.

He is who Stella could have been if she had tried at any point to be more than hateful and entitled. Stella was put in the same position but chose all the worst options.

Can the "what if Stella is actually a good mother" people shut up now that we have undeniable proof she happily emotionally manipulates Octavia for her own gains.

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I'd be interested to know what caused this phenomina where people feel like they need to have a moral reason to dislike someone. If you dont like music or a tv show, you dont need to go digging around for reasons the creator is an evil villain or insist that consuming that media is an ethical and moral failing that makes those consumers also evil villains.

Just be normal, admit you dislike them for petty reasons and move on. Nobody is going to care.

I'll start. I cant stand Ariana Grande. Her face gives me the ick and I dont like her music. I will not be watching Wicked because I dislike her that much. Did she do weird shit that add to ny dislike? Yes, but that's not my main reason and I dont care if people like her.