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You can’t think for yourself.

I’ll make all the decisions.

What shall you wear? I’ll decide.

When shall you eat? I’ll decide.

When shall you sleep? I’ll decide.

When shall you go out? I’ll decide.

Who shall you talk to? I’ll decide.

What is your role? I’ll decide.

What title you shall refer to others? I’ll decide.

Can you play? I’ll decide.

How to play? I’ll decide.

Do you need punishment? I’ll decide.

What to think? I’ll decide.

When to think? I’ll decide.

You need rules and structure.

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She kneels for me

She kneels for me because I inspire her

She kneels for me because she desires to

She kneels for me because I protect her

She kneels for me because I lead her

She kneels for me because I respect her

She kneels for me because I love her

She kneels for me

@fantasies-of-a-dominant

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Conditional Orgasms

Some people are happiest and at their best with complete orgasm denial. But orgasm denial isn't for everyone. Some people get stressed or unhappy when they're on denial, and some just have no interest in it. For those that want some kind of control imposed on them without doing complete denial, here's another option you can try: conditional orgasms.

The idea here is that you have to satisfy a certain condition or set of conditions before you are allowed to orgasm. Below I have begun a list of potential conditions to be satisfied. The list is created with women in mind, but other gender/sexual identities are encouraged to adapt them for your tastes or identity. Feel free to add your own ideas to the list.

You decide what your level of engagement is, but I offer these achievement levels: * Acceptable: One condition met that does not include direct sexual stimulation. * Good Girl: Two conditions met that do not include direct sexual stimulation. * Waifu Material: Four conditions met. * Total Fuckdoll: Six or more conditions met.

Conditions

1. Tits out, completely uncovered.

2. Completely naked.

3. Legs spread and cunt exposed.

4. Kneeling, on all fours, or face down ass up.

5. Rubbing your lips with a finger.

6. One or more fingers in your mouth.

7. Fucking your mouth with a dildo or other toy.

8. Actively drooling, as in it's coming out of your mouth.

9. Pinching, pulling, or other intense stimulation of your nipples.

10. Stimulating your clit with fingers or vibrator.

11. One or more fingers in your cunt.

12. Fucking your cunt with a dildo or other toy.

13. One or more fingers in your ass.

14. Fucking your ass with a dildo or other toy.

15. Let at least one other person watch you (Skype or other streaming services acceptable).

16. Live blogging your playtime for others to follow along.

17. Watching explicit or extreme porn videos.

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👌👌👌👌

[incontrol1980]

mouth-training !! slip a finger or two into my mouth and let me absentmindedly suck on them. press down on my tongue, pull at my cheeks til I'm drooling and then, push your fingers further, deeper, until I gag. don't stop even when I grab at your wrist and whine, even when tears fall down my face, let me gag until I'm used to it <3

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10  things a Dom expects a sub to know without being told

1. He needs to be the priority. Make him your priority regardless of how horny you are. A true Dom/sub relationship extends beyond sex into all other aspects of the partnership.

2. He has emotions and needs them acknowledged. The internet (and Tumblr is especially egregious in this regard) has created the toxic stereotype of the Dominant as this calm, cold, unemotional Olympian figure who is always as in charge of himself as he is of his submissive. Accept that your Dominant is human, and it is only normal, and that he will occasionally have a moment of weakness, or self-doubt, or — horrors! — shedding a tear.

3. Know him better than others. If your Dominant is having emotional difficulties, or even something as “insignificant” as a bad day at work, you should be sensitive to that, just as he needs to do likewise for you. It’s a mutually-caring relationship after all.

4. Let him control things (including you). That is his responsibility. Yours is to obey.

5. Abide by the rules. Your Dominant constructs various rules, tasks, rituals, etc, for a purpose. That purpose may not always be obvious to you. It doesn’t have to be. Trust that he knows what he’s doing. If you’re not willing to put in the work, then you should do some soul-searching and evaluate how deep (or even genuine) your submission really is.

6. Remember that he is yours. This is always reciprocal. Just as he expects your total devotion and commitment and fidelity, you have the right to expect those things from him. To be clear, this is not the same as taking your Dominant for granted. Just as he has to earn those things from you every day, so you also have to earn them from him every day.

7. Appreciate the work he puts into you, and let him know that you appreciate it. Being a dominant (especially in a day-to-day rather than sporadic relationship) is hard work. Let him know how much it means to you that he considers you worthy of all that work and direction and energy.

8. Be mindful of your respective positions in the D/s relationship. He is your Dominant. Can you be affectionately playful and impish? Yes; any Dominant who doesn’t  relish such from his submissive on occasion has some significant self-confidence issues. Sarcastic or willfully bratty? No way.

9. Give the same respect you get. If he shows you that, despite the way your relationship might look to the vanillas, he holds you in the highest respect, then return that  respect. If you come to the conclusion that he does not hold you in the highest respect, you might want to reevaluate your relationship and possibly move on.

10. Above all else: he expects your submission to be whole and complete and without reservation, save for those things that the two of you negotiate as equals before you offer him your submission (and renegotiate from time to time as the relationship evolves). You don’t get to submit just when you’re in the mood. There are no half-measures.

And on the flipside

10 things a sub expects a Dom to know…without being told

1. She needs to be the priority. She doesn’t want to compete with others. If every woman is hot, she’ll find it hard to stand out….and she needs to stand out.

2. She has emotions and needs them acknowledged. Probably more than you bargained for.

3. She needs you to know her better than others do….if her friends notice she was in a slump, you should notice first.

4. There are some things some of us just can’t physically do…don’t expect her to do something just because your last sub could or you’ve seen another sub do it. Not every sub can take a dick all the way down her throat.

5. Don’t compare her. She’s her own individual. She’s unique. That’s probably why you chose her in the first place. She may not be the hottest sub or have pics of her pink parts spread out for the world to see. But she goes out of her way to be the best in your eyes. Show her that she is.

6. Let her control things. ( wait, don’t let your heads explode here). If you’ve delegated certain chores to her…give her the control to do them. If they are getting done, does it really matter that they weren’t done in the exact way you would’ve done them?

7. Enforce the rules. All the time. Not just when it makes you feel Domly. After all, she’s in this D/s relationship because she needs the structure of the rules. She might sigh or grumble… but rules are partly why she’s here.

8. Remind her she’s yours. Every day. Even if you haven’t collared her, she’s given herself to you. She wants to hear and see that you own her. (Example: a hand full of hair while firmly kissing her will remind her of that…and get her wet in the process ;). )

9. Appreciate the submission she gives you. It takes more for some to submit than just the act of doing what they are told. She might find that she has to submit herself every day.

10. Be hers. Just as she is yours. Let her know that you aren’t just a Dom…you are HER Dom.

These are two separate blog posting yet fitting for one. That way everyone that needs it has both  to understand both sides of the coin. 

[incontrol1980]

Hi sir i messaged you, as you said in ur discription but it didnt go through :( <3

Maybe try again or send me another ask and we might be able to chat somewhere else. Tumblr messager seems to be working for me.

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Kept baby pet.