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Just so people know, epilepsy warnings aren’t about, like, purity culture, or online leftists acting as if disabled people are real. It’s about my mom

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Israel has launched violent attacks against the people of Gaza once again, with complete disregard for the supposed ceasefire they agreed to. The death counts keep rising and it's no secret that Israel not only kills Palestinian children, but specifically targets them. My friend Sahar @reallyoptimisticface was separated from her children before the current aggression started, and they have been living in Gaza without their parents for almost two years. She knows that they live in danger, and we both worry for them daily. The area they're currently in is an extremely dangerous zone and the lack of connection makes communication hard. Her older daughter Diana has been caring for her younger siblings, but she's suffered burns and wounds from being forced to cook over open flames.

As more news comes out and we see the extent of the Israeli violence, Sahar worries her children may be next. Please stand by her and support her so she can see her children again, bring them to safety, and be together as a family. No child should have to live through this. Your donations can give them some hope.

Read this post for her vetting info

Sahars campaign has been moving so slow, but her children can't wait on this money. If you are able please donate, it's the most effective way to help them.

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I've heard that the best thing you can do for an abuse victim is to model a healthy relationship. I'd avoid pressuring her to talk about things she's not ready to talk about or leave before she's ready. Try to avoid putting her on defense. I wish you the best.

Hey! I'm in a tough situation and I thought maybe someone here could help me guide a friend that is getting abused but is in denial about it and keeps gaslighting herself into going back to him. (TW) Among other mentally abusive incidents she mentioned like two months ago, that when they haven't seen each other in a long time they have sex so she can prove she hasn't cheated on him (disgusting detail: he's been telling her that men can tell by the tightness of a woman's vagina if something else has been inside). They were fighting and she really wanted space but she said that that happened (having sex to prove she didn't cheat) and I've been very unsettled ever since. She won't budge and is minimizing everything. It's like her brain resets after every fight and she forgets everything that happened. I think maybe I pushed her too hard and she's been distancing herself from me. What do I do? Isn't it harmful to let him isolate her? I've been putting boundaries in place so I'm not getting that hurt by the situation personally but still I'm so anxious for my friend. I don't want this to escalate but she keeps choosing him. I haven't really talked to her about the specific incident because she just brushed it off and I didn't know if I should bring it up again. But isn't coercion rape...? I'm so anxious because her two previous partners also violated her and she didn't even realise it at the time. We're 22 years old. I feel like I'm losing my friend.

I’m really sorry your friend is going through this, and I can imagine how hard it must be for you too. To me, it does sound like coercion. Try not to let him isolate her: just keep being there, spending time with her, and listening. Hopefully, when she’s ready, she’ll be able to see for herself that what’s happening isn’t healthy.

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Hello!

I am the earring cat. Could you help my friend Sami?

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hey bud

nice! now can you share this?

Help my friend Nader!

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everyone is convinced theres some class of people who are ontologically evil and whos sole goal as a person is to rape children, instead of the much worse reality which is that sexual abuse of children is so commonplace it isnt even registered as such

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once you start paying attention to it it becomes really obvious that the average person straight up believes that penises have magic powers

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shocking amount of people on this website literally do just think women hating men bc they’ve had had experienced with men is irrational and evil but men hating women bc they’ve had bad experiences with women is understandable and acceptable

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“I’m much happier at 53 than I was at 23.” (x)

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(guy who isnt beating the ocd voice) i know! maybe if i spend all night ruminating on something i feel guilty about until i’ve considered it from every possible angle and made myself physically ill, then i can finally forgive myself and i’ll feel better! 99% of morally abhorrent people stop self punishing right before they’re Absolved

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my safe clothing items that I wear day in day out for years and years should never break or rip or wear down. the power of friendship should stop that kind of thing

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I think more media should narratively punish parents for not listening to their kids and specifically I think it should punish them in cruel and terrifying ways. I want real life parents to go through life with a healthy fear that if they ignore their children's boundaries a witch might cook and eat them