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I think we should talk about how one of the core aspects of transandrophobia is ableism. They do not think transmascs are confused girls, they think transmascs are disabled girls. The rhetoric of ROGD and similar revolves around the concept of young autistic and mentally ill “girls” transitioning instead of dealing with their disorders. They lack many friends due to their disabilities, so they easily are “preyed upon” by older transmascs (because the theory is not that trans women make girls trans, it is that other trans men convince them. This is the entire basis of the “social contagion” of transgender identity amongst people AFAB).

The stance that transmascs are “just” treated as “confused” refuses to acknowledge the actual goal of refusing autonomy to what they perceive as girls who are too disabled to know who they are or what they want. It is not nearly as trivial as people make it out to be.

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Thinking about the time a british radfem transmasc told me to stop talking about transmasc problems because their own personal life hadn’t been that bad. Which like, congratulations!! Good for you!!! I’m SO glad you got lucky and can’t relate!!

But also, if you’re a paperwhite queer person growing up in one of the most comfortable nations in the world, please don’t tell a latino queer person that you know what their life looks like based on shared queerness alone. YOU DON’T KNOW, YOU CAN’T.

White queers don’t know what it’s like to be the only racially intersectional person in a “queer/progressive/lefty” friend group. To be the only person of a diff race in the room, and also the only socially excluded person in the room, and wondering if it’s possible that your best friends, who seem idealistic on the surface, may secretly or subconsciously be racist. When they’re planning shit right in front of you and inviting everyone BUT you. Not letting you in on ANYTHING and not even hiding it. Being unwilling to have your back when you express discomfort just because they don’t want a target on theirs. When they’re allowing, enabling, or even encouraging one guy who harrasses ONLY you, then defending him and backing each other up and spitting you out of the group when you take issue.

It’s just wild to me. And I’m jincho! I’m a pale latino, I’ve not seen half of the shit that brown latinos or afro-latinos do. So anyway, don’t let me catch you scolding racially intersectional trans people for advocating for themselves or I’m taking off my earrings and we’re sorting this out in the parking lot

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my maleness is not rewarded by cis society because i am not cis. this should not be such a hard thing to understand.

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People I can't take serious: "Forcemasc is bad because it is just reinforcing toxic masculinity!"

Forcemasc posters:

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ppl on this website will say that those who refuse to learn from history are doomed to repeat it and then recycle the same "This Marginalized Queer Group Is Actually Bad And It's Actually Okay To Bully Them And Harass Them" discourse every year like clockwork

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If my blog gets nuked cause terfs mass report me for being too hot and cool, please know I died doing what I loved: Convincing vulnerable woman to take testosterone for pervert reasons.

Also if my blog gets nuked cause terfs mass report me for being too hot and cool, this is my final message: Trans men deserve better, both in and out of kink spaces, both on and off tumblr, both in queer and in cishet spaces. Treat the trans men in your life with more kindness, listen to us when we speak up about the violence and oppression we face, and hold space in your activism for transgender men.

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“I will not be buying trinkets or little treats during the 2025 recession” you should focus more on not buying into right wing ideology during the recession

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Pretty incredible news to hear during tough times

Source.

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it’s like society will die if it doesn’t refer to trans men as women for like. two seconds.

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Quick reminder.

Trans men have been part of the community since the beginning. So every time you say 'trans men cannot be lesbians' or that 'trans men have cis privilege', you are 100% attacking the groups that fought to give you the right to even argue about who 'deserves' more rights in the community.

Another person's gender identity/preferences only hurts the ones who want to feel 'correct' under the lens of white cishet society.

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It's kind of scary that we've gotten to a point where "suggesting trans people are more likely to be rapists is horrid transphobia" is a controversial statement if we are talking about trans men.

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Anyways did y’all know that only an estimated 4% of transgender men detransition and the top 5 most common justifications for detransition in both binary trans genders are all sources external transphobia diminishing overall quality of life such as family disownment, inability to find employment due to discrimination, harassment from their own communities, being flat-out barred from transitioning, etc?Just an interesting fact I thought I’d share

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you know the objection to "transandrophobia" is not about transmisogyny when you see how overwhelmingly transmisogynistic people are comfortable being towards trans women who say trans men should be able to talk about their own problems. i follow plenty and you would not believe what they get subjected to, for the crime of solidarity with other trans people. all the shit that people would (correctly) riot over in other contexts is suddenly praxis when the target is a trans woman who cares about having an actual trans community with people who look after each other. it is repulsive.

yeah i have seen some unbelievably cruel things said towards transfems from people who are apparently all about liberating and protecting transfems. it's disgusting.

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I wish other trans people stopped thinking trans men are here to be fairytale knights. “Trans men should use their strength to defend other trans people” no, actually. Trans men can do that, if they want to, but it’s not our obligation. We’re also just trying to survive.

If you only want us to exist so we can beat up the first transphobe to mildly inconvenience you but then kick us down and shove us out of our own spaces whenever we try to talk… you don’t want us to exist. What you want is a brick wall.

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Queer masculinity is unwelcome in mainstream spaces for its queerness and unwelcome in queer spaces for its masculinity. Which is not only transphobic and exorsexist, but also, like, really fucking homophobic as well. I'm... tired.

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reject the idea that trans men exist to heal you or protect you or fix your relationship with gender. that’s a whole vulnerable and flawed human being. maybe you should be protecting him

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if your feminism doesn't make space in it's theory, or doesn't have the appropriate language, to integrate the living experiences of trans men, transmascs, non-binary ppl, non-passing and non-transitioning trans ppl, intersex ppl, marginalized men and ppl outside of western europe and north america, then your feminism is bullshit and if u pretend it's intersectional you're a fucking clown

u should be mad at the historical exclusion of all these ppl from academical feminist discourse, not at the fact that the internet made all these ppl capable of creating their own language and sharing their experiences. u should be overjoyed, not mad that now all these groups are debunking your half baked theories and refuse to let u talk for them

feminist theory is expanding. and that's good. it's amazing. the fact that this is not celebrated more let's me know that unfortunately many feminists lost the point of feminism somewhere along the way