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2010. A Japanese woman sits down to take photos of her shiba inu dog for her blog. Suddenly, a man leaps out of a time portal. "Sorry, I can't let you do this. I cannot tell you why." She asks: "Is it forbidden knowledge from the future?" He sighs: "No, it's just too fucking stupid to explain."

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Remembering my Afghani American best friend from my islamic elementary and middle school whose dad would get drunk every night and beat the shit out of her mother. She begged and begged for sleepovers because strangers in the house would make him leave, and I never told my parents about the situation (I lied and said she had no father or brothers) because I loved spending time at her house and staying up the whole night doing all the things we weren’t allowed to do that was “haram”… watching rated r movies, playing horror computer games, dancing to music videos on YouTube, cat walking in heels and makeup, scaring ourselves with creepypastas.

I remember we had a million stupid ass discussions about who the purple guy from five nights at Freddies was, or what a slenderman proxy meant, or if there were illuminati signs in Katy Perry music videos, or if emo drawings of Jeff the killer were hot. We’d whisper fight if Beyoncé or Lana del Rey was a better singer, or if teen wolf or maze runner had cuter boys. She was team Beyoncé and teen wolf.

We had to constantly be separated in school for talking, and we hated the creepy janitor and would throw wads of wet paper towel on the bathroom ceiling for him to clean up later. We got into so much trouble together, and would always smirk at each other in detention when we got yelled at. We’d shoplift lipsticks from the mall, and throw away expensive Quran transliterations from school, and sneak into the teachers break room and steal handfuls of ice and throw them on the imam/principal’s desk when he was gone to ruin his paperwork.

I moved away like I always had to do with my constantly migrating family and we lost touch. The last time I saw her in person was when we were still kids at her brothers wedding. I was laughing while I tried to ask her why the bride kept changing into different brightly colored dresses throughout the night. She wasn’t listening, and she burst into tears and cried about how her brother was just like her father and did every horrible thing he did. I held her and squeezed her so tight I thought her bones would break.

I recently tried to reconnect with her again but she’s already married, pregnant, and has abandoned social media and texting because it’s “haram.” Trying to talk to her was like speaking to a stranger… she had no interest in any of the things we would spend hours playing with before. “Islam is important to me now, I’m a new woman. We were messed up kids, it’s time to grow up.” She told me to never contact her again and hung up the phone.

Sometimes I feel like I failed her, and sometimes I understand that I was a girl trying to survive too.

One day I’ll save money to travel back there and talk to her in person. I’ll snap her out of it. We’ll spend all night up together again doing every terrible thing our teachers and parents and religious leaders warned us against, and laughing the whole way through it. We’ll get kicked out of bars and get into trouble and snicker our way through it all, knowing we’ve already won. I still have her dirty, worn, my littlest pet shop horse she gave me when we first met. I hold it in my hands when I see news of the what’s happening to the women of Afghanistan, and I feel like I’ve failed her again. That I’ll forever be stuck an immature child and her a miserable adult, both of us doomed, unable to be saved from our fates in the end.

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Women can't speak to each other in Afghanistan

Women can't speak to each other in Afghanistan

Women can't speak to each other Afghanistan

Women. Can't. Speak. To. Each. Other. In. Afghanistan.

No conversations

No hearing another woman's voice, no hearing her speak or pray

No way to share experiences no way to ask questions no way to organize

And if you ban education then they can't communicate by writing either

Women can't speak to each other in Afghanistan

Women can't communicate with other women in Afghanistan

People can't communicate with other people

That's how low we've gotten

Please don't forget about them.

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reblog to give your mutuals a djungelskog

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the bdsm normalization is soooo fucked like several years ago when I was trying to date men (epic fail lmao) I was afraid to get close to one bc like what if they try to strangle me to be sexy? I read all those articles about 12 year olds strangling their girlfriends during their first kiss because they saw it in porn and I was like damn I don't want that to happen to me. tbh that fear kept me from actually making contact with many men and more women should keep fear alive I their hearts to keep them safe god bless

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I want more lefties to critically think about the topic of kink.

- Do you really think it’s a topic of consent when it’s used to defend rapists and pedos in court?

- Do you really think it’s okay or do you support it because right wing people don’t like it?

- Does kink actually subvert the status quo when it IS misogynistic and racist and violent?

- Also does kink even need to be shown out in public if it’s so ‘consensual’ and explicitly about sex?

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in my opinion it is essential to make a "right to garden" law that means no one can stop you from growing whatever you want in your yard.

I think it should even apply to renters so a landlord is required to allow you to have a garden

And I think this can become a reality

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whateverr

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women please take self defence classes and do not listen to men that tell you it’s futile to fight against a man. learning to defend yourself from men is not the same as when men fight each other, you are not trying to beat the shit out of him, you are trying to hurt him just enough so that you can get away. you can learn techniques to prevent a man from grabbing or choking you or how to escape a grip on you. men can knock you out or kill you if they land a proper punch but you can reduce the chances of that happening. even if you’re very small, it really doesn’t hurt to be able to dodge a punch from a man but it’s something you have to practice. it doesn’t matter how strong he is if he misses.

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god bless

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saw this absolute king at the Paris Miku Expo

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this is actually a collective nightmare and tomorrow we're all going to wake up in 2007 and it's a snow day so we don't have to go to school

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everyone calls themselves a feminist. I think most of my friends would call themselves feminists. I think my mother would call herself a feminist. in reality, she's probably closer to a men's rights activist. she tries but she is so interested in protecting the interests of men, its hard to even talk to her about feminist topics. she's probably less feminist than my father, even. but everyone calls themselves a feminist. a woman I know who used a surrogate to get her son calls herself a feminist, and is quite proud of being a feminist. everyone calls themselves a feminist, but no one knows what it means. I think this is the real issue with liberal feminism. It waters the movement down so much that you don't even know someone's real beliefs when they tell you that they are a feminist. feminist used to be derogatory, but at least you knew what you were getting. now, real feminist beliefs are still looked down upon, but other people who call themselves feminists look down on you too, for being too radical, for being a terf/swerf. Which, the word swerf especially is absolutely crazy to me, because it forces normies to decide that they support "sex work" because its just a normal thing, and anyone who doesn't is crazy and radical and not a real feminist. when in reality, the only real feminists are the ones who actually think about women's issues and how to improve the material state of women worldwide, not the randos who think women are pretty cool I guess. anyways, the watering down of feminism has made it so hard to tell who irl is actually a feminist and who thinks prostitution is empowering

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right and all of a sudden its college isn't for everyone!! there are more important things in life!! like be so fr right now

sorry i do think it's pretty funny that men for thousands of years were like "women just aren't very smart... :( their poor brains can't handle real education" and now women are doing better than men in all levels of schooling to the point where it's some kind of crisis that boys don't learn good... sucks to suck

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It's my 1 year anniversary on Tumblr 🥳

thats kinda crazy bc I was definitely reading radblr posts way before I made this blog lmfao