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The childless v children debate is pointless when it does not revolve around a womyn's choice (e.g. a womyn being forced to have kids). The real conversation that most people ignore is that most people just should not have children out of respect for the psyche and growth of the hypothetical children they want.

Parenting is not a right, it's a privilege. And it isn't so insane to say that if you are incapable of providing a life for a child that you should not have them. "That's classist/You don't think poor people should have children." If it is any consolation to your and your strawman, I think a lot of rich people shouldn't have kids either. I think most people from every class system should not have kids. And money is not purely the reason.

"I have a hard time showing affection." You should not have kids right now. "I want my kids to be-" the kid is gonna be what they're gonna be. You shouldn't have kids until you can be at peace with that conclusion. "We're trying for a girl/boy-" If you plan on being one of those psycho parents who keep having kids until they have the gender they wanted, you should not be raising kids. The list goes on. It's not wrong to have wishes for your kid like hoping they're successful, happy, rich, healthy, intelligent, etc.. But attempting to structure their life around your "dream child" is going to lead to a lot of pain for the child.

You wonder why so many people say they were abused/neglected? They probably were. Having children has been framed as an inevitable stage of life that many people feel inclined to indulge in to retain a respectable social appearance as they get older. "You're 40 and you still don't have kids?" What a crime. And this obviously is almost entirely aimed at womyn, if not completely.

And to be fair, I think there is more of a respect for this train of thought since so many people of varying ages openly say, "Yeah, no, I would literally be a terrible parent. I'm, at best, the fun aunt/uncle." And what a sensible, selfless, and humble thing to understand about yourself and the gravity of having kids and parenthood as a whole. I know there was this weird influx of videos of young parents (20s) who said, "Having our kids now so that we can party in our 40s" which feels like a gross misunderstanding of the fact that you are a parent forever.

After 18 is when the government stops caring about them, not when you're supposed to.

My parents weren't ready to have kids. They've told me that like I couldn't tell. I spent my life in poverty and dealing with emotionally immature parents and now suffer from MDD and BPD. Mind you, this is the objective truth despite the fact that my mom loved me as hard as she could (still does). When the parent puts the experience before the purpose, the child is the one who suffers the most.

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me talking in the tags on tumblr dot com

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Tracy Chapman for NYT, 2025

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god forbid 5000 year old girls do anything

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"if tumblr dies you can find me on bluesky" "if tumblr dies you can find me on Instagram" if tumblr dies you cannot find me. It's over. I'm free.

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I know this is going to make me sound pretensions but I have to get it off my chest. I feel an unimaginable rage when someone posts a photo and is like "this picture looks like a renaissance painting lol" when the photo clearly has the lighting, colors and composition of a baroque or romantic painting. There are differences in these styles and those differences are important and labeling every "classical" looking painting as renaissance is annoying and upsetting to me. And anytime I come across one of those posts I have to put down my phone and go take a walk because they make me so mad

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Write it shitty, write it scared, write it without a clue but don't you be so spineless and have an AI write fanfic for you.

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Not now honey, mommy’s going feral over pictures of Demi Moore dressed as Gomez Addams again

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"gay or european" also goes for middle-aged women btw. that lady with short hair no makeup and sneakers isn't a lesbian she's just german

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When a fic doesn’t fit my head canons but it’s well-written

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Russia’s abduction of Ukrainian kids and the US cutting funding for the programs tracking them NEEDS to be a bigger story

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Literally any show can be improved by adding more older women. Not many know this, but it’s true.

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university professors love to create the most fucked up pdf ever known to mankind. it's enrichment for them.

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How to vent about the same problem multiple times without people wanting to beat you to death with hammers

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