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(by Rose Clements.)

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FFXIV JOBS  ▶  WHITE MAGE

↳ White magic, the arcane art of succor, was conceived eras past that the world might know comfort. Alas, man began perverting its powers for self-gain, and by his wickedness brought about the Sixth Umbral catastrophe. Although the art subsequently became forbidden, it is now in the midst of a revival at the hands of the Padjal, chosen of the elementals. Those who would walk the path of the white mage are healers without peer, possessed of the power to deliver comrades from the direst of afflictions—even the icy grip of death itself.

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5 ingredient triple decker chocolate peanut butter bars

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S’mores Cookie Cups

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If we keep taking that next step forward, there’s a chance we’ll find a way to save you.

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Just getting ready to have my heart broken by 5.3, you know how it be

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The 14th

A speedpaint video of this will be availabe at my Patreon on august 1st! 😊

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Being the Warrior of Light the experience [Major spoilers for.. pretty much every expansion]

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i need you out there to hear this.

sometimes your abuser didn’t mean to abuse you.

they still abused you.

sometimes your abuser was doing the best they could. their best wasn’t enough. it was harmful. it was cruel.

they may not have known better. they may not have realized the effects of their behaviors and actions and words and choices. they may not have had that understanding.

it may have been how they were raised.

it may have been normalized for them.

they still abused you.

it’s not the intent but the effect that matters. their differing perspective or altered recollection does not change what was done. to you. 

your abuser may have changed over the years. they may have learned better, or calmed down, or heard you and realized they hurt you.

they still hurt you.

“i didn’t mean to” “that wasn’t how i saw it/meant it/remember it” “it’s how i was treated and i was fine” “i tried, i didn’t know better, i did my best” “that was so long ago and i’ve changed”

these are explanations at most generous, excuses in bald face.

don’t confuse them for apology. for amends. for repentance or changing of ways.

explanation, excuse, context. they frame a situation, but they don’t rewrite it.

forgiveness is your choice. yours only. you don’t owe it. it’s only healing or worth a damn at all if it’s what you choose, what you need. frankly, forgiveness isn’t even earned. it’s yours to give or not, based on whatever standard is right to you.

but if you’re looking to give forgiveness to the sorry, make sure they’re saying sorry, and not just explaining themselves. 

they’re not the same thing.

make sure they’re not trying to explain that, in fact, they didn’t abuse you at all, because of their perspective, because of context.

your scars don’t get erased in the right slant of light.

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Link ~~~

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Sooo... I switched Val from a Rava to a Veena, and also decided to give the “fluffy” ears and face 3 with its Victorian-style tattoos a try. I always kept her pale prior to becoming a Rava at the launch of Shadowbringers early access, and I kinda wanted to go back to that. Although now I miss Rava Val and might have to switch back at some point 

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If you have a cat please reblog this with its name please and thank you