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i feel like "feminist" anti-kink sentiment is very tail-wagging-the-dog. like male doms playing out bdsm scenes of abuse are not oppressing their female subs that's acting. you're mad at acting. you're those aliens from galaxy quest. same with fearmongering about "booktok". however an eroticized version of patriarchal dynamics being a popular kink DOES speak to the pervasiveness of sexism, bc eroticizing the oppression is a way of coping with living under it. it's women creating a fantasy world where men being menacing to them is sexy and not scary like it is irl, or where it is still scary but in the fun way like a horror movie bc you can tap out at any time by using a safe word or putting the book down. acting like this sort of kink is oppressing women is like if you assumed the thermometer controlled the weather outside. it might be depressing to look at the thermometer and see the impact of climate change, but it's not the thermometer's fault

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Not everyone can be (or should be) the community organiser or leader

But everyone can be the person who smiles and says "hi" to the new person and who dives in and takes part in group activities and shows up each week and gives feedback and engagement

Which is an under appreciated and vital part of community building

People can organise groups but they will fail if no one turns up or someone new turns up and is met with a closed knit group who doesn't welcome them.

Showing up and being nice to the people who join after you are vital parts of community building and don't let anyone tell you differently

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new HSR girl with the jelly torso means new arts of other girls shoving in their arms to fondle her ribcage

like so:

(source)

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REMEMBER:

if you don't understand the post at a glance it's because op wrote it wrong and needs your help

if the post doesn't contain all the contextualising information you need to understand it, op is gaslighting you

if you haven't experienced the phenomenon the post describes, op is making it up for clout

if you haven't encountered the type of person the post describes, they're a strawman that doesn't exist

if the post doesn't address a topic you'd prefer to talk about, it's a distraction, missing the point, and talking over you

if the post makes a good point, it is your duty to contribute to human enlightenment by nitpicking it to be more correct

and most importantly:

every online conversation is a competition and you must win

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Making a post so I remember to draw it. Today I saw four guys in a landscaping truck. Driver clutching the wheel, barely awake. Passenger staring out the window, barely awake. Guy on lap in the middle clutching phone and coffee and sulking about being on someone's lap. And the guy in the middle seat, wide-eyed, desperate, having some ✨️realizations✨️

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so having ADHD means you live in a world of hoping you charged your vibrator (and being wrong)

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Seeing what some other people were taught in church always confuses me.

I was explicitly taught in my confirmation courses that temptation to do bad things isn’t a sin but acting on those temptations is a sin. Jesus was tempted after all. That’s what lent is about.

But apparently a lot of people were taught that even thinking bad things is a sin? Or that if their heart isn’t pure while they’re doing something good it doesn’t count?

Love is a verb, is what I was taught. You can think all the loving things you like about someone but if you don’t do anything that doesn’t really make much of a difference in their life or yours.

Prayer is good but action to help others is also a form of worship. Especially when you act with others. God works through our hands and God uses flawed people because everyone is flawed. If you wait until you’re pure in mind and body to do anything then nothing will ever get done.

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You’re right there are only 2 sexes. the one I had with your dad and the one I had with your mom

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anyone ever: from the get-go

me, nodding sagely: from the gecko…

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I'm a nerd about properly securing cargo--load nets, ratchet straps, tarps, bungee cords, everything designed to transport stuff from A to B. Idk how to describe that category of interest.

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the prince has begun practicing curtseying in the mirror. which could mean nothing.

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what do I have to do to go to events where people are dressed nicely and there are plates of free cheese cubes

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evangelicals being like "god made men to do This and be like This and women to do That and be like That that's just how it is" and it's just a picture of a white man and woman following traditional gender norms makes me so insane like you boring fascist fucks. god made 2 million species of beetles. god made whales, ducks, humans, and 1500 other species capable of same sex behavior. god made fish and amphibians that change sexes. god made more than 30 different intersex variations in human beings. god, in his infinite curiosity. wake up!!! fuck!!

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reasons I'm excited for top surgery:

wearing tops with thin straps or sheer shoulders and not worrying about bra straps

wearing tank tops and nothing showing at the sides

being able to fit a men's L again

graphics not stretching out

removal of all the standard chest and back pain

being able to draw a full deep breath with no bra constriction ever again

dropping food onto the napkin in my lap rather than onto my shirt

lying on my stomach again

lying on my back without everything falling into my armpits

letting my tummy exist more

running my hand down my torso

being able to just. put on a shirt.

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so having ADHD means you live in a world of hoping you charged your vibrator (and being wrong)

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“You think every citizen should have access to free and accessible healthcare?”

Wrong!!!

I think that Asylum seekers and Migrant workers and The Undocumented and Everyone Else should get free healthcare too

I love immigration

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using the traffic light system during a kink scene but shaking my head the entire time so the audience knows i dont support car-dependant infrastructure and its influence on the common vocabulary