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How To Forget Someone You Loved

Maybe the majority of us, if I am not mistaken, have already experienced losing someone whom we loved more than ourselves when we did not even think of the thought that they will be gone in our lives someday. I know that it drives one crazy when someone leaves you unexpectedly with a big question mark why they needed to leave you. Leaving someone without stating the reason why is a selfish and cruel move because someone whom you left will start questioning his or her worth and why did you do what you did. This kind of situation really messes up with our heads and makes us go insane. 

In reality, when you are left by someone, you will feel stuck in that present moment in your life and literally do not know how, where and when to start. After a few days of being left, you can experience having “crying” as your breakfast, lunch, and dinner for the rest of the day. Little things can make you cry like hearing your love theme song on a store’s radio while walking on the street, passing by your favorite places to have quality time with, his/her scent, favorite color, favorite dish, favorite television show, and many petty things that commemorate that someone. 

In the first week, it will feel hell. It will feel like there is no one out there anymore who can give back the love you have got to offer that will never leave you like he/she did. You will feel the darkness of the sunrise and lightness within the night. Dawn will be the bedtime for you because you are stuck in thinking  the promises that he/she made were just words that cannot understand how bad you feel about them being broken by the one who made them. You will eventually lose your appetite even being served with the most delicious dish you wanted before. All amazing things will become plain within your sight, and that is hell. I have been through hell before, that is why I will be leaving a step-by-step on how to forget someone you loved. 

Cry if you feel like crying.

Crying is the first reaction of someone who was left. As they say, “crying is food for the soul” that is why if you feel like you are about to cry because of something you heard and saw, just cry the hell out of it! You have all the full authority to recognize your emotions and to react to them. Cry as hard as you want because it will help you release the emotions that you are holding up from the day he/she left you and it would be bad for you if you will keep that burden in your chest for a long time. Whenever you cry, think of it as helping yourself to cope up from your current situation because in the end it will be you and yourself having your back. Cry until your eyes get tired and unnecessary water will stop dropping from your lovely eyes and that is when you realize that your body is telling you that there is nothing to cry of anymore.

Hide all the memories you have with him/her.

Usually, when someone goes through a breakup they delete all the memories they had with their former special someone, but I advise you to not delete them. Why? Because when the time comes that you are completely moved on from what happened, you will be happy to see how far you have gone and grown. Those memories are still a part of you even if it ended the ugliest way possible. There will be time that you will just smile and feel deep, genuine happiness how you survived losing someone in that certain memory. Do not lose your memories just because of someone not worthy, be better than that.

Block all his/her social media accounts.

Some say that it would make you sound bitter if you block your ex’s phone number or social media accounts but in reality, no, you are just willing to move forward with your life without the thought of having his/her existence because, duh! He/She left you! If blocking is one way to move on with what happened with the two of you, then do it for yourself not for others’ opinions. Doing this will prevent you from seeing updates with his/her life or worst, see posts with his/her new someone. If isolating yourself with that person’s life will help you  fix yourself, then do not hesitate to click that “block” button. 

Fix yourself up.

Next move to do is to get yourself up and fix the broken debris piece by piece. Take time to water yourself with self love and grow individually. Fix your hair, wipe your own tears, buy new clothes, treat yourself with the things you wanted to buy before or food you crave. Start working out or engage in recreational activities which will help you to be occupied for the mean time instead of lying and crying in bed until you fall asleep and wake up alone because that sounds miserable and awful. Do the things you have not had the chance to do when you were still together. Give yourself a break from something that does not exist anymore. Love is not something that will put you up in a cage and hinders you from freedom you deserve. 

Hangout with family and friends.

Open up your circle and meet new friends. Do not confine into something he/she left you. Give time to socialize with your loved ones. Join trips with them, eat with them, have deep talks with them and even have a little drink with them. Do not forget to have a good time with them because they are the ones who were there since day one. 

Accept and let go.

Second to the last step and the most significant one is having acceptance and letting go. After accomplishing the steps stated above, you can feel lightness in your chest realizing that your world does not revolve in that person anymore. Life is a big spectrum to confine yourself with someone who does not feel the same way about you. If you can take a bullet for someone, you can do much more for yourself and letting go is one way. Letting go is like watching a balloon fly from your gripped hands. Acceptance will be hard in the start, it is a gradual process not a one time click. It takes some work to achieve it. Watching a balloon that we held on for a long time will hurt for some time but as you look at it slowly touching the sky, you will realize that there are things in life that really meant to be gone to gain something more. Think of letting go as something you need to do in order to grow strong and face more challenges that life can throw at you. Always remember that letting go is way better than being dragged down by holding on to someone who already gave up on holding your gripped hand.

Love yourself.

Final step is to love yourself. This is the last but the first thing to do when entering a committed relationship because you can never give what you do not have which means if you do not know how to love yourself, you would not be able to give some. Loving yourself is like flying because you will feel the fresh air as you flock your wings without anything hindering you. Being yourself is the best version of yourself. Love someone if they can love you the way you love yourself. After loving yourself and recognizing your worth, you will realize that forgetting someone whom you loved is not that big deal because there is a greater love that equates with that lost and that is you loving yourself.