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Financial Abuse Story - Male 37 Sydney

I thought I’d share my story of the extant of abuse that I have received as an ADHD disability male adult in Sydney.

Up until now being the bottom end of my disastrous story I am at whits end because effectively there is no help for my issue as when you read my story you will understand that I have undergone much fatigue in the process and suffer huge PTSD as a result.

The issue that is most concerning is that all the problems started when I was diagnosed for my ADHD and I underwent mental betterment for my mental health whereby it was basically thrown in my face and I was used and abused for it. It’s a silent form of adult attack that I wouldn’t wish for anyone.

Post rehabilitation in a time where I was unwell and suffering from depression, I had recovered from a banking disaster whereby I had a large amount of money stolen from my account in 2015/16. During my time of self-betterment my mother had taken control of $200,000 of my money whereby I had given faith in her with a joint account to help me save.

During this time 2016, a former girlfriend aware of my self-betterment engaged in coercion to make me bankrupt by defrauding and advantaging from my situation whereby I had been in the U.S.A LA, at a recovery retreat to control my diagnosis of ADHD and undertake treatment, though during this time action was pursued against me by default and when I had returned to an already too late outcome I had been made bankrupt when I was solvent and furthermore when I was unable to fight the claim due to my mother and father using my funds and controlling my funds whilst I was in treatment.

7 days after the bankruptcy had taken place and completely distraught as to what had transpired, I had received a call from the now successful creditor (former girlfriend) asking to meet with me as she was apologetic as to what she had done and I was wanting answers as to why she did what she had done.

On the 19th of June 2017, my former girlfriend now creditor had pre-meditated an assault and attempted murder attack whilst I was ambushed by two men in black attire existing my vehicle with my small pet dog. The ambush resulted in 10 days hospitalisation though the story does not end here. Post this attack that had left me with a collapsed lung broken jaw and over 100 wounds, nerve damage and fearing for my life, my former creditor had fled the scene with two accomplices and later issued a false statement saying that I had attacked her and subsequently two men appeared from thin air to save her.

The evidence was not substantiated by her misleading actions though the concern was not of her lies, though was the police when an ambulance nurse had written my medicinal influence at the time for ADHD as amphetamine. Police due to the fact that there were no witnesses and as she had fled the state of NSW in an effort to deter criminal charges, I was left without any justice as the creditor to whom made me bankrupt not only did so in spite and illegally, I was brutally attacked and almost died that evening and to date have not received any justice. ( The testimony by my former girlfriend was false and at a later date came to fruition when she had been attacked by her current partner to whom had attacked me on this evening and wanted to seek redemption for the pain she caused, out of tiresome and being let down already by police I didn’t bother to show them)

Now bankrupt and recovering from nearly being killed and having to cope with post mental fatigue, further undue influence arose when on the 26th of August 2017 my mother had called the police at home where I was still in recovery, she had refused to provide me with money that had been rightfully mine and denied access to my medication whereby I required to have my medication for ADHD. As a form of control and abuse of power that had been restraint on me by my family, I had completely retaliated whereby destroying personal belongings of mine in anger. The same police that earlier were there when I was nearly dead on the street on the 19th June 2017 were now at my parents’ home. All 9 police officers armed and in force this time to attack and engage me as a “Violent” aggressor.

I was arrested and charged, and that evening made homeless as I was restricted by AVO and was in heavy need of medical attention whereby further refused inside custody by officers. At the time I had made a call to my psychiatrist and also lodged a discrimination case against the police for misleading my mother and father to charge me with fictitious claims and that police had also promised my parents that the charges could be dropped when they wanted to do so, the police insisted to my parents that they thought this would be a good idea to teach me a lesson, though as the records showed at a later date when all charges were dropped that the police engaged in unlawful behaviour as they crossed the lines of the law to satisfy their personal understanding without properly investigating the facts. As a result of this fatigue and anguish leaving me virtually mentally unsound. My parents at the time aware of there wrongs assisted to ensure that no charges were made and that the police acted unlawfully and were simply tying in my previous police incident whereby I was the victim. In a nut shell, they wanted to have me charged as a “Drug” induced aggressor, because that’s the norm, though disregarded all ADHD medication and disability rights.

Determined to seek justice from my assault and discriminative treatment by NSW police and undue hardship having to deal with a bankruptcy made by a former partner and now living under a roof of my grandmothers house without any financial capabilities as my parents continued to use financial restraint over me, following a discussion with my father such comments as “Just move forward and forget the past events and come and work for me” growing up I had never wanted to work for my father’s construction company, I gave in powerless and agreed to commence working for my father on the 20th September 2017 as I was a whits end.

As a bankrupt the creditor whom assaulted and hospitalised me now had right to 50% of wage, and as my father refused to support my wishes in taking this matter to court I was cornered into a powerless position whereby I had agreed for my father to save my wages per week to get on my feet. The deal was that he provided me with $300 in cash and save $1850 into an account set up in his name so that I could one day again start to see my life had taken the turn for the better, boy was I wrong.

Work was great and I was instantly promoted within the 3 months and engaged in turning my fathers’ company around for the better. During my employed time from the 20th of September 2017 to 28th September 2018 I had worked on average 70 hours a week and was undertaking serval if not multiple roles, being my fathers’ company, I took much pride in my work as it was family.

During August 2018, on the instructions of my father and his business partner I was told to check on an existing employee with street gang ties to whom assaulted and intimidated me taking advantage of my disability at the time of employment knowingly. On two occasions I was hospitalised at Randwick hospital for being assaulted by this employee, though out of fear and under duress I had not contacted the police as my father and business partner had laughed off these events as cowardly.

Towards the end of August 2018 when I was heavily over-worked and under stress, I had been physically  abused and then taken advantage of to cover for the same abusive employee whom I had feared whereby a situation that occurred had then fallen onto me as I had been subjected to losing my job of having to support this employee whom to date still currently works for my father, I had been fired unfairly and without justification and blackmailed.

Following the events of ongoing abuse and now unemployed for which I had not had employment agreement, my father refused to pay me my money that had been saved. What was owing was in excess of $100,000. The company vehicle and apartment were stripped away, and I had resorted back to my grandfathers place where I had been stationed previously following my parents AVO and now faced without income or money again. I had not been aware of the time allocation of making a complaint to fair work as I was in a position of moving without assistance or the help of family members. The mental fatigue was ever so climbing and reaching ridiculous levels of instability. Causing issues with sleep, anxiousness, stress and nervousness.

Now left abandoned and taken advantage of again financially by my father and using the abuse of power without any help from extended families wanting to be involved, I no doubt believe that many would have scene this as a issue of problem intense and many simply did not care and stayed away from involving themselves. Luckily, my father’s cousin from Italy arrived, being a doctor he had scene first hand the hardship as I was admitted to mental hospital for nervous breakdown and suicidal thoughts as no luck had seemed to be going my way when my relative from Italy tried to assist and recover my money with the idea of helping in good faith and for the idea of advising my father that he would agree to pay me in excess of $200,000 when I left Australia and I was on the plane to Italy. Again, under duress and financial control and without possible way of escaping the “Hell of earth” situation, I had agreed and on the proviso of my relative from Italy having an undertaking that my father would transfer the money when I was in Italy. Was yet again another blow when promises had again not been met. Furthermore, during the course of this process I had sent four boxes of all my belongings overseas with the intentions of never again coming back. Though I had been over my head with the thought, I was again a victim of abuse by way of control whereby my father had failed in the agreement made prior leaving Australia on the 4th of March 2019 and I had suffered overseas without income and to the behest of power that he continues to have over me. Both family members mother and father had in dishonest power over my life again deceived me.

Now returned to Australia, living out of a suitcase back at my grandfathers place and not knowing what to call home or not knowing who I am or if this is all one big great nightmare and dream that I will wake up from. My grandmother during these incidents maybe out of stress fell and hit her head and ended up with dementia and my grandfather in hospital as I left Australia, died whilst I was overseas. Now, living in a large five bedroom home, neglected, no food, no income, no car, no concept of reality or idea of what to do next and the feeling as though so surreal and foreign that I dare say or request anything from anyone as I am that mortified of being abused and that scared from life itself, I literally am in a frightening position and can see the lights caving in heading straight for a mental breakdown.

I write this story of events to maybe help others that are out there and maybe if there is an angel or someone out there that I can hear say “Hey, I can help you” you don’t have to be afraid anymore, you don’t have to worry because you are normal and you have every reason to fear these people as they are narcissistic and psychopathic hurtful people and this is not the norm out there, there are good people out there. Is this my reality ? is this life worth living? Having understood the array of complete destruction spanning nearly 4 years, one would agree one of the incidents above would be enough for a successful suicide attempt. Though, I am not strong anymore, I cannot take the continual abuse of power and to be treated unfairly due to my disability or be under duress to even dare say that I agree to one more lie that my father and mother or anyone wanting to involve themselves to try and mitigate the situation, because I can longer and will no longer agree to hand over the keys to my sanity away to abusive financial soul sucking gas lighting family. And I will not, I refuse not to give in to the people that say “but this is your family” they love you. This is not love? Whilst my father and mother live the luxury in a waterfront prime house in Sydney and my father drives around in a half a million dollar vehicle, his son whom he has reckoned the life of is rotting away without hope due to the system and violence of silence that goes unnoticed and undetected by anyone.

This is the most lethal course of violence one could be held under because it is not only an attack on my mental status having ADHD and having been subjected to the issues of my disability, the silence of torture by way of stealth is the most gruesome torture of all.

Hope this story can shed some light, and now you can start to see why this country has a high suicide rate. Because I doubt people can live to tell the truth or even live to tell their story of what happened. There is no justice for this. The alarming abuse of power for people such as me with ADHD / Autistic spectrum that are vulnerable to this type of abuse goes vastly unnoticed and undedicated. The real murderers are not jailed, the real attackers are not charged, and the gifted and honest caring souls are wasted and used by the likes of people whom feed of these talents and abilities to satisfy their own ego and power. They are the ones then sighted at the funeral when all goes pear shaped and someone that does suffer to the likes of something similar above takes his or her life. Its sad but true as you are mourned and saddened by those who inflict the pain by hosting a large funeral and church procession for when you are dead, saluted off with flowers and songs and the priests heart felt talk about the deceased and why it’s a lesson to all etc etc, when the deceased was alive no one cared, no one gave a hoots second to understand the victim. Funny how the money comes rolling in when its time to die, but when its time to live no one wants a bar of you and no one is willing to help? Life was never this way…

To all that are suffering, fight and never give up your life.