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I really need to know, too lol

the thing about working as a housekeeper is that sometimes I will be called to clean a room that is in such a state that it gives me pause.

The thing about being a housekeeper at a Hospital is that it is not the things that would usually be concerning that leave me with questions.

Like if I go clean a room and it is just covered in blood, I'm not all "where did all this blood come from" that would be silly. It came from inside the patient and they were already in a hospital so they're probably mostly fine hopefully.

In fact "Inside the patient" is where most of the potentially concerning stuff I have to deal with comes from. Vomit? That's from inside the patient. Urine? Feces? Inside the patient baby. Needles full of unidentified drugs? That was supposed to go inside the patient but I guess they frogot.

But when I go to clean a hospital room and it is full of Sand... Did that come from inside the patient? I hope not. Why is there so much sand? Where did it come from? Was there some kind of terrible beach accident?

I have many questions and I'm scared of the answers.

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Yes yes yes! As a second year law student with autism adhd Ed’s and chronic illnesses YES!

But more than that, you can’t expect people to be governed by the laws that they don’t understand and cannot access- whether physically or in comprehension!

How on earth are we out here expecting adults and young people to stop believing things like the earth being flat or how viral loads work when we aren’t making it easy to digest and understand!

It just blows my mind that people are then turning around in these professional communities and have the audacity to sigh at those who didn’t understand. What did you expect?!

laws should be written by simple language.

scientific books should be written by simple language.

studies should be written by simple language.

rules & regulations should be written by simple language.

every information, especially important one, should be written by simple language.

it's basic accessibility. people with intellectual disability, people with developmental disabilities, people with learning disabilities, people with language processing issues/language impairment, people with brain fog/low concentration, and people with other conditions that make comprehension difficult should have access to every information, especially important one.

i'm autistic and have some language processing issues. so i feel very isolated when i can't read studies, articles, books, and other info. i'm really interested in it, but can't process language. so i have to rely on others' interpretations instead of original text.

i wanna have access to first-hand information. i wanna have the opportunity to form my own opinion, not rely on others' explanations.

btw, "simple language" doesn't mean "avoid complicated ideas & nuances", it means "explain complicated ideas & nuances using mostly simple words and short sentences".

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Can we please stop using the phrase 'junk food'?

No food is 'junk' if it keeps you fed, no matter the nutritional content (or lack of)

Your needs, abilities and circumstances fluctuate and change, so sometimes you'll need to rely on foods that are more convenient/cheaper/readily available

Your diet can fluctuate but your worth doesn't

Never feel ashamed of doing what you need to do just to keep yourself going

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dear parents, if your child has "seemed fine this entire time" but is now seeking out diagnoses, mobility aids, medical help, more doctors, and is sharing their pain more. do not fucking shut them down? even if it ends up being nothing, showing them that support through all of that will seriously help them. if it ends up being something and you're a bitch to them, the joke will be on you and that strain on your relationship will never go away because. you didn't listen.

listen to kids. we tell you what we need, it's not that hard.

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Of what, though lol so much what! I have no clue how to read a room. It’s confusing to me, people are confusing to me. Half the time I’m sat wondering how an interaction went so bewilderingly side ways.

People who don’t understand social cues and how to “read the room” I think you deserve so much.

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Friend, I feel you. I don’t know if it’s what is termed selective mutism, either. But I have a similar experience to you, and never known what to call it or how to articulate (I feel like that’s ironic given the topic) the experience to others.

Just wanted you to know you aren’t alone 🩷

I find that sometimes when I enter a situation where I don’t have a script prepared for what to say I just freeze up and lose the ability to string together a coherent situation. The longer I go unable to explain myself and panicking the harder it is to break that streak and try and explain myself. I become unable to communicate well verbally, although I can often still text or show an image with an explanation. The situation is also usually not particularly serious at all- being made to do a presentation, having to ask a teacher something, but there is some aspect of it that makes me get ‘stuck’ on the first step and leads to that reaction.

In the past I used to force myself to stay completely still in this situation, but it’s more natural for me sort of curl in on myself and sometimes stim somewhat for self regulation. I let myself do this the most recent time it happened, which I think was helpful. It also is helpful to have a person I’m comfortable with calm me down and get me past this first sort of hurdle.

I’m not sure if this is exacty selective mutism, as I still can speak, but my verbal communication is definitely hindered for a period of time.

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ngl I thought the puzzle piece as an autistic symbol meant like. I am a vital puzzle piece to your society. humans would never have invented half the things they did without us. you're telling me it means I'm missing something?? buddy. listen. listen to me reeeeaal closely. no human has all the pieces to humanity. no one. no one has all the features enables no one has all the strengths weaknesses or quirks. no one has a whole puzzle. we make the freaking complete picture together. that's the freaking point.

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As an AuDHDer, my favorite thing about being friends with other NDs is that our get-togethers consist of taking turns going “look at this stuff, isn’t it neat, wouldn’t you say my collection’s complete?” Showing off every knickknack and bauble in our mental treasure caverns of movie quotes and niche factoids, and inviting each other to consume every tiny piece of obscure media that has shaped us into our current selves, as a means of self-disclosure and emotional intimacy. I love it so extremely

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"You're making autism your whole personality but you shouldn't, you're not your autism !"

Listen. When I was diagnosed I found out EVERYTHING I thought was my "personality" were actually autistic traits and it messed me up so bad because I didn't know who I was anymore. Literally EVERY. SINGLE. Thing I ever did or thought was actually autism. Then I realized hey, if all of my personality is "just autism", that means all of neurotypicals' personalities are also "just neurotypicality". Actually I can even observe it now that I know all of the traits and it's very obvious ! But neurotypicals are considered the norm, so they don't have to analyze it so they don't know.

My autism is my whole personality the same way your neurotypicality is your whole personality, you just never had to acknowledge it unlike me

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“Don’t let your disorder define you”

Okay but do you support the people whose disorders do define them?

Do you support people with the chronic illnesses who have had to develop whole lives around their conditions? Do you support the intellectually disabled people whose whole way of thinking is defined by their disorder? Do you support the people with personality disorders who literally have a disorder as a personality? Do you support the autism/ADHD people whose disorder you can’t separate from who they are? Do you support the DIDOSDD people who have multiple definitions of themselves because of their disorder?

Or are you just saying that because a disorder defining someone means you can’t ignore it.

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It’s solar and wind and tidal and geothermal and hydropower.

It’s plant-based diets and regenerative livestock farming and insect protein and lab-grown meat.

It’s electric cars and reliable public transit and decreasing how far and how often we travel.

It’s growing your own vegetables and community gardens and vertical farms and supporting local producers.

It’s rewilding the countryside and greening cities.

It’s getting people active and improving disabled access.

It’s making your own clothes and buying or swapping sustainable stuff with your neighbours.

It’s the right to repair and reducing consumption in the first place.

It’s greater land rights for the commons and indigenous peoples and creating protected areas.

It’s radical, drastic change and community consensus.

It’s labour rights and less work.

It’s science and arts.

It’s theoretical academic thought and concrete practical action.

It’s signing petitions and campaigning and protesting and civil disobedience.

It’s sailboats and zeppelins.

It’s the speculative and the possible.

It’s raising living standards and curbing consumerism.

It’s global and local.

It’s me and you.

Climate solutions look different for everyone, and we all have something to offer.

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The two twins…

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Parents of autistic children and adults, please DO NOT film your children!!!

To all the parents who have autistic children whether young or as adults, do NOT film your children. Literally do not film your kids having a meltdown in public or in your home as that’s not helping the situation as well it takes away your child’s autonomy or right to say no. I get you want to be helpful or spread awareness buts it not helping the situation even if good intentioned as well has being literal exploitation. Do not film your child when having a meltdown both against their will or lack of consent even if they’re am children, adults, have a variety of support needs, strengths, struggles and traits, do not film them on a camera as that’s literal child and disability abuse even if you think it’s not, it’s still wrong and a shitty thing to do!!!.

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god I would be UNSTOPPABLE if I was capable of consistently initiating tasks. just you wait. you'll be waiting a while but just you wait

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im going to commit murder violently (there are 5 sounds in my general vicinity)