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✌🏼✌🏼 for Season 22! Yesterday was the Fob Squad’s last day of work, and frankly, I am emotional. I feel immensely lucky to have not only gotten a full time job during a pandemic, but one that I genuinely enjoyed going to everyday. I am so thankful for all the wonderful humans I met and worked with, and can’t wait for the next one! (at New York, New York) https://www.instagram.com/p/COTCLvTjstc/?igshid=wqt0cinmdxfx

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Fob Squad has the most fun🤙🏼 #werk #fobsquad #setlife 📸: @daniwonkers (at New York, New York) https://www.instagram.com/p/CNdyZ83jemL/?igshid=2vpdmtole4c6

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Fun Fact: the last time either of us was at Yankee Stadium was the last home game of the before times, but we didn’t know each other yet! Boy was it nice to be back! 😁⚾️ #7thinningstretch #sportsball (at Yankee Stadium) https://www.instagram.com/p/CNQppXyjJEH/?igshid=f69y48poyhfq

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Sometimes you show up for coffee and end up with a beerspresso - a South Beach Diet #happySaturday #trashisland 🎥: my love (at Trash Island) https://www.instagram.com/p/CLkDUHUjv2c/?igshid=27dt53j30don

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On March 12th (yes, the day that Broadway shut down), I worked my first day as a PA in TV. While this is neither the show nor the episode that I was working on then, the first episode of SVU that I’ve worked on has aired! After 8 months of unemployment, it has been so fulfilling to be back on set and continuing to start this new career! I feel lucky to be working at all, much less with such a great crew full of wonderful humans! Also peep the last pic that my lovely @mollymmaynard made 😂 (at New York, New York) https://www.instagram.com/p/CKU5ZD9DXhX/?igshid=1i7jiffpd4e8e

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5 years. Today marks 5 years of calling this wonderful, devastating, city my home. I don’t know how to address the last 9 months here. They certainly haven’t been easy, and I doubt that the next few will be either - but I am so excited to see how we come out stronger on the other side. Getting to live the life that I have made here, makes every gross smell, unruly tourist (or businessman), even quarantine in a tiny apartment, worth it. Cheers to the next five and more🍻 (at New York, New York) https://www.instagram.com/p/CH_bVTKjKcU/?igshid=mnrhwil3jg09

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I’m a couple days late to the party, but what else is new🤷🏻 I saw that it was Non-Binary People’s Day, and felt like sharing some experiences that I’ve had as a non-binary human! For the first year or more that I identified as genderqueer or non-binary, when asked about my pronouns, I would say “they or she, whatever’s easier for you”. Naturally, “She” was easier for most, so that’s how I was predominantly referred to, even though that really didn’t define me anymore. Then I met Molly. I’m sure I gave her the same spiel, but this time, she used “they”. She incorporated these new(ish) terms into her life without a second thought and made me feel seen in ways that I never had. I would meet her friends for the first time, and they would already be using “they/them” to describe me. It was like a whole new world opened up for me. I had never felt worthy of taking up the space to ask people to get uncomfortable and learn something “new” for me. I’m still not great at advocating for myself or my pronouns, especially in situations where it seems easier to just let the “she’s” roll off my back. It’s often easier to make something into a joke, than to accept the fact that the world wasn’t set up for you. When we got married, I claimed the role of the Broom. It’s funny, it’s already a word, and if people get uncomfortable about it, we can just laugh it off. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve come to love the term Broom for what it really was, but the fact that I had to “make it up” didn’t make me feel very validated. I love who I am. I’m so thankful to be non-binary and to live in a city that accepts me for who I am, and doesn’t make me fear for my life over it. I’m thankful to have so many loved ones who have done the work, even when it’s hard, to learn and get my pronouns right. I’m truly so lucky and loved. I’m not sure if this post has a point, other than bringing more awareness about one human’s non-binary experience. I do hope that anyone reading this will extend a little more patience and kindness to the next gender nonconforming human that they encounter💜 PS, my pronouns are they/them, and Black Lives still Matter🖤 (at New York, New York) https://www.instagram.com/p/CCtVxEgj8Zr/?igshid=rm07b9mxdemd

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•5-10-20• A day anticipated for so long, was absolutely filled with so much love, despite the current state of the world. We are lucky to have so many wonderful humans join us in celebrating our love💜 Here’s to forever, my love🥂 (at New York, New York) https://www.instagram.com/p/CAEiO5Ujs7b/?igshid=xton8846775z

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Today marks 2 years without my sweet baby. She’s still on my mind daily, but these nuggets and their love, help ease the pain. I’ll love you forever, little bean💜 (at New York, New York) https://www.instagram.com/p/B48DCbpjg9Q/?igshid=rhd2cvjtv50y

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We have added two adorable new members to our family. The most perfect (early) birthday present 🥰 The first two pics are Ash, and the last two are Cosimo😻 #andtheirheartgrew3sizesthatday (at New York, New York) https://www.instagram.com/p/B25igtTjUnq/?igshid=1vaw6amotvv87

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When in Cincy #mawwiage #dougputaringonit (at The Summit Hotel) https://www.instagram.com/p/ByN2qrRD6D8/?igshid=vbeqad15lkos

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Sometimes you need a break from the city....and to pet a bar cat😻 📷: @emmaehogan (at Peekskill, New York) https://www.instagram.com/p/Bv0ApKOh8hK/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1unvjryqq7h4

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🐒 (at Steep Rock) https://www.instagram.com/p/Bn10UN6gEjn/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=lkunfcf0viz0

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Brunch, Beer, and Breweries🍻 (at Grimm Artisanal Ales)

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Pride is my favorite color🏳️‍🌈 (at NYC Pride)

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Somehow more sportsball¿ #goteam (at Citi Field)

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Sportsball🎾 (at Houston Astros vs. New York Yankees)