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"narcissist", "sociopath", "psychopath"...

it would be nice if more people, rather than using like... diagnostic language, instead said what they meant

like, for example

instead of "narcissist", if you are talking about someone who is a self obsessed asshole, you can instead say... "self obsessed asshole".

or instead of "sociopath", if you are talking about an asshole who doesn't care about other peoples feelings, you can say "asshole who doesn't care about other people's feelings"

or, yknow, just... call them an asshole.

like. rather than basically medicalising "being an asshole" and essentially framing "being a horrible person" as an innate part of having certain neurodivergence stuff, if someone is being an asshole, you can just. call them an asshole.

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can you fucking imagine

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what i like about airports is that once youre in there theres no going back. I mean youre there until they let you out

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tony soprano privacy rights activist

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Y’all! The Em Dash has finally delivered a public statement regarding the AI allegations.

And it’s glorious!

Read the full article on the McSweeney’s website here!

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don't say "empathy" when you mean "helping others."

don't say "empathy" when you mean "moral values."

don't say "empathy" when you mean "taking people's problems into account."

don't say "empathy" when you mean "stand up for people who can't stand up for themselves."

don't say "empathy" when you mean "sense of justice."

don't say "empathy" when you mean "doing right things."

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There's nothing more punk than being kind. Hygiene is metal. Universal healthcare is goth. Being afraid to talk to girls is shoegaze. Indoor plumbing is emo. Nothing is more grunge than having a bisexual trans wife.

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strong contender for best book cover

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im gonna be honest gang i really don't care if a 16 year old sees porn. i think the circumstances & context around your first interaction with sexuality is a lot more important in whether or not it will be traumatizing in some way than the sex itself. like i think the first time i ever looked up porn i was 12? which is a very normal age as well. and i was also on tumblr where i saw a lot of people saying "hey porn isn't realistic" so when i watched porn i was like hmm interesting, maybe hot, but i's not good advice. and that was that. watching porn didn't lead me to engage with any adults, it didn't make me upset, all it did was help me visualize things and later explore my own sexuality. and im not saying there's no rules i couldn't get behind regarding minors and sexual content because we do have these concepts for good reasons. but i keep seeing people be like well OBVIOUSLY we should keep minors from watching porn! and im just like idk! do we really need to be majorly concerned with preventing teens from accessing porn as much as we need to make sure there is bountiful, educated and compassionate sex ed, workers rights for sex workers, and awareness around abuse? maybe the solution is better positive than negative

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Whatever I'm curious.

If this gets any notes, don't make it a competition of who's into the most niche stuff, but definitely do tell me about your particular rare pair in the tags?

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"3D printing clothes so they can be custom made to fit you" TAILORS THEYRE FUCKING CALLED TAILORS AND THEY DON'T NEED TO WORK WITH MELTED PLASTIC

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wolf hunting

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“hes a woman to me” IS HE? or are you equating women with submissive character traits you've arbitrarily put on a random man

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it disturbs me that a significant number of people think that the issue with sexual violence, gendered violence, and misogyny is sexual desire rather than dehumanization, so they are relentlessly suspicious of others' (and their own) desires while simultaneously never at all interrogating others' (and their own) dehumanizing beliefs about other people, both within and outside of sexual contexts

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i love when fic writers who have clearly never tried any kind of alcohol in their lives try to write someone drinking bc they're always like

"he ordered a tall glass of hard liquor. after three large glasses he was feeling tipsy" like babygirl i can't be sure but i think u just sent this man to the hospital