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'floral still life (bleeding hearts),' albumen print from glass negative, charles aubrey, french, 1865.

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Robert Mitchum with inmates in jail while serving 60 days for marijuana possession, 1949

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Gena Rowlands

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When all actions and inactions inevitably indirectly lead to some sort of suffering 😀

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Tristan Unrau (Canadian, 1989) - The Demon of Futility (2023)

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It's so crazy how quick people will jump for a chance to be angry at something that makes them feel marginalized and burn all solidarity to do it. This discourse is also deeply multifaceted and rooted in geographical and cultural borders where language can shift in meaning dramatically. The persistence of homophobia necessitated the use of a more popularly utilized label (bisexual) for many to even be understood by people outside the queer community in the US until probably almost to the 2010s. Every celebrity, until way later than it should've been, had to say bisexual because then it would be understood that they did not differentiate amongst genders in attractions, but with the rising visibility of trans communities, new questions were asked by the cisgender heterosexuals who could not conceptualize trans people as anything other an unattractive spectacle which required (in their mind) an explanation which required public advocates, allies, and those who were questioning themselves to understand that Pansexual is not a term invented on Tumblr and it serves practical purposes that have changed over time. ALL labels are just for practical purposes. None of these words really say anything about who you are. You would be reduced to a miniscule fraction of yourself if you lived by a single word. At the end of the day, we use labels for people who do not know us. Not people who do. In-fighting about the completely arbitrary meaning of these terms that changes over time serves no one and is the same as two spies on a mission criticizing each other for having the same or different covers. Like girl, we are in a land that hates us and poses many dangers. People explain themselves in a way that protects their sense of authenticity to others, and that's how everyone does it from they moment they begin to try to figure it all out for themselves. I had always felt the distinctions between Bisexual and Pansexual were culturally semantic more than linguistically. I say that as someone who went from gay to queer to gender-fluid pan over years of internal work. The labels are like clothes. Wear what you want that makes you feel like yourself. None of it matters. There's no one to impress. The labels are just for people who don't know what the hell that alphabet people are.

Bisexuality is often explained as a spectrum of attraction between and around two poles. Pansexual doesn't have polarity. It's entirely based on contextual energies/vibes. Maybe some of you Bisexuals are actually Pan. And maybe some of you Pansexuals are actually Bi. It could depend on where you place attractive-value relative to the bodies of individuals, or it could just not fucking matter because the world is falling apart while people would rather bitch about nonsense than come together in political solidarity with people they find annoying, problematic, or triggering, arbitrarily based on the way they have "experienced" or "analyzed" a community or idea. Your interpretation is arbitrary.

("Your" being literally anyone at any given time. If someone considered the way global systems of oppression impacted people in a contextual moment, then they would see that every behavior from every person is a by-product of some previous thing. This would trigger empathy, compassion, and a drive for solidarity in people who cared. Under that understanding, any analysis rooted in taxonomy and principle/ideaology as praxis for interpretation will be at the whims of a biased individualist-understanding as opposed to using taxonomy and principle/ideology for solidarity to know where others have positioned their lives or have had their lives positioned by their environment. This is because for the latter method of applying analytical skills, in-praxis, the analysis will inherently have an opportunity to be reasonably grounded in the cross-cultural realities of different communities across the world. Simply put, it would be non-judgmental, and judgments are quite literally the biggest barrier across all political spectrums to developing solidarity. Authoritarian American Conservativism appeals to people more than ever because all judgments are reserved for those they feel have judged them first. These violence-inducing judgments have many forms, contexts, and labels. This type of in-fighting in the original post flares up extreme hatred and attracts people seeking revenge for feeling judged or othered by society. This is why it was TERF bait even though OP is obviously not a TERF. Also, to be clear, the reality of if that individualist judgment system is honest (or if it actually applies at all) is irrelevant to the delusional mind utilizing it to protect their fragile psychologies.)

What's more important than some stupid label is to get shit done by saying, "I don't care how you define who you've fucked. We've probably fucked the same people." Because you probably have! This is how you know this is a pointless argument. Everyone knew the differences in the labels when they were giving y'all head. Y'all are living in a perpetually inflamed nervous system and trying to blame others into addressing that for you so you can feel peace. Just go enjoy your day and pour into your health and well-being instead. That's an agenda that serves us alphabet people!

Edit: Just for fun (as it should be), I want to add why I identify as Pansexual. As a gender fluid person, I don't have stable poles for understanding gender attraction as my gender is not static. It always moves me around the spectrum relative to ideas of gender. My framework is always shifting. And, I thought Pansexual gave more "wants to live in a queer, post-capitalist commune" energy. I'm trying to manifest, ya know. Love y'all. Hate social media.

Like imagine if one day someone just came up with a new word that meant "lesbian but will date trans women" or "lesbian but like women for their personalities instead of looks" and randomly decided that the old term lesbian meant you only like cis women, and just for their looks or body parts. And now everyone is either forced to adopt the new term, or keep the original term but have to deal with misconceptions and constantly have to clarify that you aren't what they randomly changed the definition of lesbian to mean. And when you point out "actually lesbian never excluded trans women or implied I don't care about personality" and people respond by saying "oh well I still like the new term anyways its a personal choice and it's not hurting anyone" even though the literal existence of the new word implies things that aren't true about the old term. That's exactly what pansexual did to bisexuals

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courage the cowardly dog is not cowardly because that poor dog will be facing the flayed corpse of god or some shit every episode. courage the reasonably horrified dog

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Is it widely understood that Courage the Cowardly Dog is an allegory for a gay man's rural upbringing being raised by his grandparents after being abandoned by his parents? His grandmother Muriel is partially protective from the abuse (as much as patriarchy teaches her she can be), codependent on Courage for positive emotional interactions, and always doting, while Eustace is most certainly extremely aggressive, abusive, and triggering as much as he is always triggered by Courage's very existence at Muriel's feet. I've been rewatching the show, and there are so many plots, visual gags, and themes that suggest this to be true that it's honestly mind-blowing and I looked up what I could and found nothing about gay cast or crew or theories. Am I just missing it somewhere? It seems so obvious to me that it almost seems like it has to be intentional. Need we mention Kitty and Bunny as queer framework already in canon. How far of a stretch is it to say it goes deeper? The absurdity and symbology act to shield the messaging and to enter into a space amongst present and future gay men, who were apathetic about queer men in rural areas, to be raised with a show that had a lead character they related to on subliminal queer grounds and that said to its audiences someone DOES live in Nowhere and they have a life that's complex and tough and worth mentioning too.

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My pet peeve is when people go, "This weird thing is ridiculous, how can anybody believe it?" when they also believe ridiculous stuff, which they consider normal for no other reason than an inability to view their beliefs from the outside.

I really, really appreciate that you do not do this.

It is important to understand why people believe ostensibly strange things. It makes me mad when people say shit like "I don't understand why he's saying this, he must be crazy!"

People believe things for a reason! You have to understand how people arrived at their current worldview! Otherwise, you're gonna walk around ignorant and scared of what you see as an unpredictable and hostile humanity. Or worse, you're gonna walk around sneering down at a world of ignorant sheep.

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You can't beat this lineup. God is good! ❤️🩷🩵

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Miss Piggy (with Kermit ~waaay~ in the background) on the August 1st, 1981 cover of TV Guide magazine, photo by John E. Barrett.

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My two inner wolves for real

Gunnar Hansen and William Vail taking a break from shooting

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Nothing good exists in The Ideal. All good exists in Reality.

The Ideal: the infinite sea of potential alchemized in thoughts

Reality: the 3 dimensional earth: the body amongst bodies: physical, mental, spiritual

The Spirit World: Home of the spirits and all there ever was and is or will be.

Reality is enough when there is no merit or punishment. That's why many magical traditions draw from the material world or tend to believe that magic is manipulating spiritual energies to change circumstances. The highest good was once visible here. We are to recover it by loving ourselves pure again until the earth reflects our individually distinct divinities. In your magic, know that very little of Reality is far away from you at any given moment. In your mind, you can generate access to feelings from The Ideal sea, and then, you can use those feelings to manifest or work magic in the Reality. In your mediumship, know that all the kinds of energy there ever was, is, or will be is waiting in the spirit realm to be utilized for transcendence in whatever you do.

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Make the sign of the Cross assiduously: it is a wordless prayer. In a brief moment, independent of sluggish words, it gives expression to your will to share Christ's life and crucify your flesh, and willingly, without grumbling, to receive all that the Holy Trinity sends. Moreover, the sign of the Cross is a weapon against evil spirits: use this weapon often and with reflection.

Tito Colliander, Way of the Ascetics

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holding your gay lover ash wednesday afternoon is like. the myth of the ancient martyr wouldn't understand us but I'd die for love too, I would. and I will, we all will.

I'll take my pink eyeshadow off in a couple hours, to be replaced with a smeared cross, a bigger love, a love I'll die into. I'll wash it off when I get home so I won't break out (and so it won't get on my pillow) and it'll still be there when I look in the mirror out of the corner of my eye.

either life or death will separate my butch and I—whether God leads us diverging ways or Sister Death claims us one by one first, I only get this for now.

but God asks us to live for now, to love for however long we get to, and to remember the whole way how fragile it all is. I don't pretend to know the why, but I hope I never forget the way my hand is warmer in another's.

I understand the rib story now, y'know? not in a way that triumphs over the love for my sister or my friend or my grandfather, but in a side ache that means we're slowly becoming made out of each other. I would be complete without it (I have been all along)—and also: the more people I love, the more faces God lives in.

I don't presume to know how love exists after death, but I hope—I know—we all return to the same dust. till death do us part, to become something else that can love easier and forever.

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Teenagers at a party in Tulsa, Oklahoma, 1947

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In 1913, 10-year-old Sarah Rector, a Black girl in Oklahoma, inherited 160 acres of land. What seemed like barren soil soon struck oil, making her one of the first Black millionaires in the U.S