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Me and who? 😇

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Me and who ? Need

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basic i know but sucking on her tits while she strokes my cock and calls me a good boy would actually fix me

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This is your place, your destiny and your deepest desire.

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Tell me your deepest desires. I want to hear the words that make you throb for me. Remember, every confession brings you closer to your release. You know you want it.

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FemLit 973 - 48 Ways to Please Your Cuckold…

1. Regularly make comments to your husband about other men you find attractive.

2. Remind your husband that you prefer larger dicks during sex.

3. Tell your husband about things your lover/s do better sexually.

4. Tell your husband whenever you have thoughts of sex with someone else.

5. Have your husband watch as you prepare yourself to go out looking for other men, or on a date.

6. Shave your pussy and tell your husband it’s because another man asked you to.

7. Have your husband bathe you, shave your legs and pussy, or pick out clothes, jewelry and perfume to get you ready for your dates.

8. Get a discreet (or temporary) sexually suggestive tattoo.

9. Get a body piercing and tell your husband it was done for your lover.

10. Buy and wear a Hotwife ankle bracelet when you go out.

11. Wear sexy, revealing clothing or high heels in public.

12. Stop wearing underwear and make sure your husband knows.

13. Openly flirt with other men in front of your husband.

14. Socialize with other Hotwives or join a Hotwives group.

15. Require your husband to give you cash for your dates in case you need to get a hotel room.

16. Have your husband go out and get a hotel room for you and your lover to use, and then bring you the key before your date.

17. Have your husband go out with you and make him watch from across the room as you meet, flirt and maybe even pick up men.

18. Have your husband drive you and your lover around while you have sex in the back seat.

19. Have your husband drive you to a motel to meet your lover, and return to pick you up afterward.

20. Have your husband help find men for you.

21. Have your husband accompany you to a bar to meet other men, and have him wait inside while you and another man adjourn to your car in the parking lot to get acquainted.

22. Make your husband watch you have sex.

23. Deny your husband the privilege of watching at other times. Never let him know which it will be.

23. Travel out of town on a business or weekend trip with another man.

24. Call your husband on the phone during sex with another man and let him listen in.

25. Fuck another man in your marital bed.

26. Fuck another man while your husband is at work or out of town, then let him know.

27. Fuck another man while your husband is in the next room.

28. Fuck another man, film it and let your husband watch it later.

29. When your husband watches you have sex, openly express how good it feels.

30. Do something with another man you haven’t done with your husband then tell your husband what you did.

31. Tell your husband every detail of a date afterward and get off on it together.

32. Or deny your husband the details of your date, but let him know it included enjoyable sex.

33. Fuck your husband’s boss.

34. Fuck one of your husband’s friends.

35. Fuck a black man.

36. Fuck a much younger man.

37. Fuck someone rich and powerful.

38. Fuck an authority figure like a police officer.

39. Tease your husband by reminding him that you might let yourself get pregnant by your lover.

40. Go to an XXX adult video booth together and suck a cock through a glory hole.

41. Go to an adult theater with your husband and a lover. Have your husband sit elsewhere and watch you and your lover make out.

42. Accompany a lover to a local swingers club as a couple.

43. Join your lover and a friend of his in a threesome (male or female).

44. Have sex in a semi-public place with a lover, then describe it to your husband.

45. Have your husband clean something in the house while you’re out on a date.

46. Have your husband pick out and pay for lingerie you will wear for your lover.

47. When your lovers call, take the call in another room and close the door for privacy.

48. Have phone sex with a lover, and have your husband watch as you masturbate and talk on the phone.

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Best Props for BDSM

It’s your Gentle Domme Kalita here, excited to explore an essential aspect of BDSM that can elevate your experiences: BDSM props. Having the right tools can transform your sessions from ordinary to extraordinary, adding layers of excitement, trust, and intimacy. Whether you’re a curious newbie or an experienced player, this post will guide you through some of the best props to enhance your BDSM play. Let’s dive in!

1. Bondage Gear

Bondage gear forms the backbone of many BDSM scenes. Here’s a look at some popular options:

Ropes: Soft cotton or hemp ropes are perfect for bondage, offering flexibility and comfort. Ropes can be used to create beautiful body harnesses or traditional ties. Remember to learn a few basic knots to ensure safety while creating stunning effects.

Cuffs: Padded cuffs are an excellent choice for beginners and seasoned players alike. They offer comfort while still providing a feeling of restraint. You can find them in velcro, leather, or chain variations for added style.

Hogtie Straps: These versatile straps allow you to bind your submissive in multiple ways. They can be adjusted to fit comfortably and securely, providing endless opportunities for effective and exciting bondage.

2. Blindfolds and Hoods

Sensory deprivation is a thrilling aspect of BDSM that can heighten arousal and anticipation:

Silk Blindfolds: A classic choice, silk or satin blindfolds are not only comfortable but add an element of luxury to your sessions. They can amplify sensations and allow your submissive to focus solely on touch, sound, and smell.

Hoods: For a more intense experience, consider hoods that cover both eyes and mouth. These add an extra layer of sensory deprivation and can be a thrilling addition to roleplay scenarios.

3. Impact Toys

For those who enjoy sensation play, impact toys can add a delightful sting to your sessions:

Whips and Floggers: Floggers made from soft materials are a great place to start. They offer a thuddy sensation rather than a sharp one, making them ideal for those new to impact play. As with all props, ensure you understand how to use them safely.

Paddles: Wooden or silicone paddles provide a solid thwack! Start with lighter paddles and gradually work your way up to heavier ones as your partner becomes more accustomed to sensation play.

Canes: If you and your partner are ready for the next level, consider using a cane. They require a bit more skill, so be sure to educate yourself on safe practices before introducing them into your play.

4. Sensory Play Items

Incorporating sensory props can elevate the connection and experience:

Feathers and Fur: Using feathers or soft fur can create an enticing contrast to the more intense sensations of bondage or impact play. They can be used to tease sensitive skin and provoke laughter or gasps of pleasure.

Ice Cubes and Warm Oils: Experiment with temperature play by incorporating ice cubes or warm massage oils into your scenes. The contrasts in sensation can awaken the senses and enhance pleasure significantly.

5. Roleplay Props

Roleplay can be a fabulous way to explore different dynamics within BDSM:

Costumes and Lingerie: Invest in a few costume pieces or alluring lingerie to embody your character fully. Whether it’s a police officer, a teacher, or a pet, the outfits you choose can enhance the entire experience.

Accessories: Consider using items like collars, leashes, or cuffs that match your roleplay theme. These elements can add authenticity to your scenario and deepen the power exchange.

6. Aftercare Tools

Aftercare is a vital part of any BDSM experience. Consider these items for a nurturing environment post-play:

Blankets and Pillows: Create a cozy space where you can have your aftercare discussions and snuggles. Soft blankets help in making your partner feel warm and protected.

Hydration and Snacks: Stock up on water, herbal teas, or light snacks. Staying hydrated and nourished is crucial after a BDSM session, especially if it has been physically engaging.

7. Communication Tools

Effective communication is key, even when it comes to BDSM props:

Consent Forms: For those diving deeper into BDSM, consider having a consent form that outlines what will occur during the scene. This can foster trust and clarity.

Notebooks for Reflection: Use a notebook to jot down thoughts, feelings, and preferences after your sessions. This reflection can guide future play and enhance both partners’ understanding of their desires.

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FemLit 136 - FLR: How often to make him clean (chores checklist)

HOW OFTEN TO CLEAN! Daily

Make bed

Laundry (if needed)

Wipe kitchen counters & sink Wipe dining table

Sweep kitchen floor

Wipe bathroom counters & sink

Dishes

Weekly

Mop hard floors

Vacuum floors

Clean mirrors

Change linens

Clean microwave

Clean bathroom

Dust

Throw away old food

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Monthly

Vacuum vents

Dust light fixtures & ceiling fans

Dust blinds

Clean dishwasher

Clean washer & dryer

Clean vacuum

Wipe down baseboards

Seasonally

Clean out refrigerator

Wash shower curtain & clean liner

Clean under & behind furniture

Wash comforter & pillows

Vacuum mattress

Clean garbage disposal

Clean oven

Wash curtains

Clean carpets & rugs

Yearly

Clean gutters

Clean windows inside & out

Purge clutter & unneeded clothing

Clean behind fridge

Power wash home exterior

Throw away expired medicines

Reseal grout

Wipe out cabinet & drawer interiors

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You know what happens when you step out of line... I’ll make you wait longer, tease you mercilessly. Are you prepared for the delicious torment?

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Controversial opinion: whimpering/moaning audios (specifically, the ones where they say please🫠)are hotter than nudes. I said what I said.

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Mental Safety in BDSM

It’s your Gentle Domme Kalita here, and today we’re diving into an incredibly important topic: mental safety in BDSM. While the physical aspects of BDSM often receive a lot of attention, it’s crucial not to overlook the emotional and psychological dynamics that play a vital role in creating a safe and fulfilling experience. Whether you’re a seasoned practitioner or just beginning your journey, understanding mental safety can enhance your experiences and build stronger connections. Let’s explore together!

Understanding Mental Safety

Mental safety refers to the emotional well-being of all participants in a BDSM dynamic. It encompasses feelings of trust, respect, and the ability to freely express thoughts and boundaries. Feeling mentally safe is just as important as physical safety, and both should be prioritized for a genuinely enjoyable experience.

1. Open Communication

The cornerstone of mental safety in BDSM is communication. Here’s how to cultivate an open dialogue:

Pre-Scene Conversations: Before you engage in any BDSM activities, have a thorough discussion with your partner(s) to talk about desires, limits, and expectations. This dialogue helps to establish trust and ensures everyone is on the same page.

Discuss Aftercare Needs: Talk about what you might need emotionally after a scene. Some people prefer cuddling and reassurance, while others may want a bit of space. Understanding your partner’s needs fosters safety and connection.

Check-Ins: During a scene, establish a method for checking in with one another. This can be verbal, using safe words, or through non-verbal cues. Continually affirming comfort and consent is essential.

2. Setting Boundaries

Boundaries are crucial in maintaining mental safety:

Define Limits: Clearly communicate what is acceptable and what crosses a line. This step may include discussing hard limits (non-negotiable) and soft limits (areas that may be explored with caution).

Create Safe Words: Establishing safe words is fundamental. Use a straightforward system like "red" for stop and "yellow" for slow down/check-in. This clarity helps alleviate stress, enabling everyone to focus on the experience rather than worrying about crossing boundaries.

3. Understanding Consent

Consent is not just a one-time agreement but an ongoing conversation:

Enthusiastic Consent: Ensure that consent is given enthusiastically and willingly. Everyone involved should feel positive about participation and the activities planned.

Revoking Consent: Teach participants that it’s okay to change their minds and revoke consent at any time. Understanding that it’s not just the scene but the emotional state that is constant means feeling empowered to speak up if something doesn’t feel right.

4. Aftercare: A Key Component

Aftercare is essential for mental safety and emotional recovery following BDSM activities:

Nurturing Connection: Spend time together post-scene, engaging in cuddles, sweet words, or any comforting activities that reinforce trust and intimacy. Aftercare helps to settle emotional highs and lows after an intense experience.

Discussing the Scene: Talk about what went well and what could improve in the future. Sharing feelings and experiences can provide closure and understanding, enhancing the connection for future sessions.

Self-Care: Encourage practicing self-care routines post-play, whether that involves winding down alone, journaling, or bathing. Engaging in self-love reinforces mental well-being.

5. Recognizing Emotional Triggers

Understanding emotional triggers is crucial for maintaining mental safety:

Identify Triggers: Before engaging in BDSM, participants should discuss any personal emotional triggers they may have. This knowledge ensures that certain situations or actions do not invoke unintended distress.

Create a Safety Plan: If a moment comes when someone feels overwhelmed or triggered, having a plan in place—like a trusted safe word—helps mitigate potential emotional difficulties.

6. Education and Exploration

Knowledge is empowering when it comes to BDSM:

Take Time to Learn: Engage in readings, workshops, or discussions focused on BDSM principles. Educating yourself about different dynamics enhances understanding and emotional intelligence.

Attend Communities or Forums: Participate in local BDSM communities or online forums where you can openly discuss ideas, experiences, and concerns without judgment.

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