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then don’t comment terf shit on my post 🥰

hot take i don’t need a reason to not want to be called q*eer. i don’t need to have past trauma with the word or whatever. it’s a slur and i don’t like it and i don’t want to be called by it and people need to stop requiring some sort of Special Reason lmao

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what ideology. quickly.

hot take i don’t need a reason to not want to be called q*eer. i don’t need to have past trauma with the word or whatever. it’s a slur and i don’t like it and i don’t want to be called by it and people need to stop requiring some sort of Special Reason lmao

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😭😭😭 i haven’t touched this blog in forever idc anymore idc!! white demons get your hands off

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these posts are from 3-4 years ago get a life 😭

hot take i don’t need a reason to not want to be called q*eer. i don’t need to have past trauma with the word or whatever. it’s a slur and i don’t like it and i don’t want to be called by it and people need to stop requiring some sort of Special Reason lmao

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op is a nonbinary man and terfs should go die fr <3

hot take i don’t need a reason to not want to be called q*eer. i don’t need to have past trauma with the word or whatever. it’s a slur and i don’t like it and i don’t want to be called by it and people need to stop requiring some sort of Special Reason lmao

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i'm kinda confused about a post i saw the other day and i was hoping you could clarify? i thought all of us trans people had dysphoria, but someone said this isn't the case? i don't really understand how someone can be completely comfortable with their gender assigned at birth and still be trans?

dysphoria is a state of extreme dissatisfaction to the point where it becomes debilitating. being non dysphoric does not necessarily mean that you identify with your gender assigned at birth, just that the dysphoric aspect isn’t there. for example, one can be nonbinary and not suffer from debilitating dysphoria about it. i’m sure someone non dysphoric can explain it better from their own experiences!

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we need more women. 3,822,561,000 isn't enough.

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it's up to an individual person if they want to reclaim a slur or not. You might feel uncomfortable with the word (And that's totally ok!!) but others might use it as a term for themselves. Basically, your experiences are not universal, and let people use words they personally like for themselves.

who am i stopping

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this post is not for terfs go die

hot take i don’t need a reason to not want to be called q*eer. i don’t need to have past trauma with the word or whatever. it’s a slur and i don’t like it and i don’t want to be called by it and people need to stop requiring some sort of Special Reason lmao

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I think it's very stereotypical for you to think all twinks are gay. In the same way I know several women who are butches and are not lesbians. My father is a bear and he is not gay. Those are just words about personal style, not related to sexual orientation.

HELLO?????

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hot take i don’t need a reason to not want to be called q*eer. i don’t need to have past trauma with the word or whatever. it’s a slur and i don’t like it and i don’t want to be called by it and people need to stop requiring some sort of Special Reason lmao

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@thisstudentdreamer i didn’t ask

The problem with aphobia as a form of oppression and the terms people use to the describe it is that using “allosexual”, a word which also has no clear defition, to name your oppressors is claiming lgb people ARE your oppressors. It’s garbage to even imply lgb people hold any sort of privilege over aces/aros.

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Reminder:

Demisexual was made up on an roleplaying forum as an excuse for why a character would fuck around with some people and not others.

It was then ‘imported’ to Tumblr by one of their users at the time, FactualWiley, as a joke.  People then began using it unironically, not realizing it was entirely made up.

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it’s not like gay men go fuck women because “you can have sex with people you’re not attracted to” that’d be wildly unhealthy and toxic to both people involved, yet for some fucking reason you all don’t think this applies to asexuality? having sex with someone when you don’t want to have sex with them at all isn’t okay what’s wrong with you!!!!!!!!

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Faces of Protest: The Fight for Hong Kong  Photographs by Adam Ferguson 

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an absolute mood

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A Complete Guide to How the Ace Community has lied about the Pathologization of Asexuality and Fearmongered Young Aces into thinking Anti-Ace Conversion Therapy is a Thing

So, after being in discourse hell for a long time and I’ve seen a bunch of stories (which I 100% believe and think are valid) where people have been afraid of being forced into treatment for their asexuality or have even been told to seek said treatment. And those stories are then used to terrify young ace people into thinking that treatment is a real threat. But, as far as I’ve seen, not a single one of those stories have ended with actual coerced treatment.

And that is because… there are no institutions that coercively treat asexuality. In fact, there are no institutions that treat asexuality, period.

Asexuality is not and has never been in the DSM. There is no recommended treatment for asexuality. And there is not a single institution that advertises that it will treat adults to “fix” their asexuality, let alone literal minors.

On the flip side, that simply isn’t true for LGBT conversion therapy. Stories don’t end with “I was afraid this would happen,” more often than not if someone is talking about their experience with conversion therapy… it actually happened. It was a fear made real.

LGBT Conversion Therapy is legal FOR MINORS in 45 states. It is legal for adults in every state. Institutions like NARTH (now ATSCI) brag about successful pray away the gay programs.

Asexual Conversion Therapy is not a thing. Conversations that imply it is real:

Do not understand what conversion therapy actually entails

Confuse HSDD (Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder) treatment with conversion therapy

Confuse the definition/symptoms of these illnesses with asexuality

Harm survivors/actually ill people by implying seeking treatment for  HSDD is anti-ace and a product of internalized aphobia when HSDD does not deal with asexuality at all

Aces are spreading these stories to convince people that aphobic oppression is real and it has another side effect: it ends up scaring actually ace people and creates a toxic environment where young people feel unsafe and can easily be manipulated. This is dangerous for people who are trying to figure out their identity and feel secure in it. You are hurting ace people by implying your irrational fear of treatment is based in a lived reality.

So, below the cut, I am going to:

Clarify what conversion therapy actually entails (trigger warning for medical abuse, obvs)

Compare that to the treatments of HSDD

Clarify what HSDD actually is

Talk about the timeline of asexuality becoming more known in the mental health field and how quickly the APA accommodated the ace community’s concerns

WITH! all my sources cited

so that instead of spreading stories where ace people (who have genuinely hurt by their parents and maybe do not know this fear of treatment is unfounded) only ever FEARED the POSSIBILITY of conversion therapy, people can understand there is no coherent reason to insist there is systemic medical abuse against aces. Spread this knowledge instead.

TL;DR:

To sum it up (you don’t really need to read below the cut, it’s just clarifying information): no one is lying when they say their parents maybe forced them into therapy or even to see a doctor for their asexuality. That may even qualify as abuse in and of itself in some contexts. But there is no medical treatment for asexuality and especially no forced treatment for asexuality in minors. Convincing young people it’s a real threat is harmful and doesn’t prove ace oppression anyways. It hurts aces and it hurts actual survivors of conversion therapy and it hurts people with certain conditions who need to be diagnosed so they can have treatment.

Anyways,

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