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I had a vision part 2

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shoutout to grumpy aplatonics, shout out to aplatonics who don't like having friends, shoutout to aplatonics that fit the cold stereotype, shoutout to aplatonics who are friendless, shoutout to aplatonics who want to be friendless but can't, shoutout to aplatonics that are in romantic relationships, shoutout to aplatonics that are aplatonic because of neurodivergency or trauma or mental illness, shoutout to aplatonics who are objectum and their objects are their only friends, shoutout to aplatonics who don't come out because they don't have the energy to explain their aplatonicism, shoutout to the aplatonics who don't come out because they're scared of others' reactions, shoutout to aplatonics who are only friends are their headmates, shoutout to aplatonics who are only friends with fictional characters, shoutout to aplatonics who can only make friends online, shoutout to aplatonics that do like making friends, shoutout to aplatonics who have a lot of friends, shoutout to aplatonics

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aplatonic. apl. apple. 🍎

Yes exactly

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god I fucking hate posts that are like "reblog if someone can come into your dms to befriend you" "I consider all of my moots my friends" "hey you moot who I've never talked to I consider you my friend"

as an aplatonic, they make me very uncomfortable.

and the many times that people have called me their friend without permission - I'm not mad, just very uncomfortable - make me feel very icky. friendship is a relationship just like others, don't assume we're friends without consent. it's a relationship and it requires consent on both sides

i would talk more but I can't really think rn

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Another recolor of the apl flag I made

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"oh but friendship is so important! everybody needs friends!" HITTING YOU WITH A HAMMER HITTING YOU WITH A HAMMER HITTING YOU WITH A HA-

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yeaaah so uh, we turned all your favourite characters into nonfriending aplatonics, yeaaah its permanent, im not sorry

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The aplatonic flag is pretty !!

Also adding one of my recolors of it I like better here:

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shoutout to aplatonic people with npd.

shoutout to aplatonic people with aspd.

shoutout to aplatonic people with a dissociative disorder (not just didosdd)

shoutout to aplatonic people with psychosis or a schizospec disorder.

shoutout to aplatonic people who are low empathy/no empathy

shoutout to aplatonic people with avpd

shoutout to aplatonic people with ppd

shoutout to aplatonic people who are alloaro or alloace

shoutout to all aplatonic people, we're really cool ^_^

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we have no homo, and we have no romo, i suggest we add no plato that for the aplatonics :3c

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i hate it when people call me their friend or think that we’re friends after two seconds; even people that call me “bestie” ironically make me sick. on top of this, when i ask them to stop, everyone thinks i’m the asshole for being uncomfortable

here’s a reminder: friendship is just like any other relationship, and as such requires consent. don’t call strangers “bestie.” don’t call strangers your “friend.” it’s the same as someone you just met calling you their “boy/girlfriend” or “husband/wife.” it makes me feel sick, makes me feel like my consent doesn’t matter (because to you it doesn’t since friendship is the “lesser than” relationship), and i’d very much like you to dismantle your platonormativity and amatonormativity

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Things To Ask Yourself When Questioning, "Am I Aplatonic?":

What is friendship to you?

What is friendship to the people around you?

How closely do those descriptions align?

Are you satisfied with any current friendships you have (separated from how you might feel about the people themselves)?

How were your past friendships?

Why do, did, or would you have friends?

Do you feel platonic attraction?

To what degree?

Do you know what platonic attraction feels like?

Do you see friendship as an important facet of your life, present or future?

Do you want friends?

What do you see as platonic?

Thinking about each of those things, how do they make you feel?

Is there anything you would want to change or adjust about your current friendships?

Small influx of people in the tag, wanted to contribute. Feel free to add on!

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aplatonic schizoid culture is hearing "apls aren't even oppressed!" and thinking about how all your life people have treated you like you had a very visible disability every single time you expressed disinterest or even distaste towards forming friendships. an ableist-feeling mix of "oh poor you..." and "what exactly is uh.. wrong with you. and how do i force you to fix it to make me feel better."

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♡ fuck friendship ♡

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My take on an Allosexual Aplatonic flag

I know this is the silliest thing to post to a blog about me being non-sam apl, but I think I've said before (or maybe my brain just false memorie'd me again) I still view myself as heavily aligned with aromanticism. As time has gone on the less and less I've identified with asexual as a label, and now I think I'm confident in saying I'm allosexual outside of a non-sam apl context -- all of the posts from International Asexuality Day helped me realize that. It was just kind of an "Oh, I'm distinctly not apart of this group anymore" feeling.

Aannnd then the allosexual apl flag just looks like the aroace flag and I didn't like that because, well...(motions nondistinctly at my username)

So here's my take on a flag for any allosexual aplatonics out there. Anybody who is allosexual and is somewhere on the apl spectrum can use this, regardless of their romantic or other tertiary orientations.

The pink was taken directly from the pink stripe on the original Gilbert Baker pride flag, where it stood for sex and magic. I was initially going to keep the yellow from the alloaro flag, but then read that the yellow there meant the opposite of asexual, so I scrapped it for the colours of the apl flag (shifted a little bit to make them match better.) The lighter pink was initially the same hue as the sex and magic stripe, but I made it a little bit more red to look more like the flesh of certain apples. Anyway, I'd hope that the lighter pink next to the colours of the apl flag would be like a "I can still have an emotionally fulfilled life without friends, and am a whole world outside of my aplatonicism and allosexuality" sort of thing (since it sits inbetween the part of the flag representing allosexuality and aplatonicism. this could both go as a meaning for other tertiary & romantic orientation, or even be things like hobbies and work and such)

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Would it be okay to post in trans tags about how much you find trans people weird, confusing, and other, but still totally support them? Of course not.

How about aromantic tags? No, that's absurd.

So why do I see so much of that in the aplatonic tags?

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Things To Ask Yourself When Questioning, "Am I Aplatonic?":

What is friendship to you?

What is friendship to the people around you?

How closely do those descriptions align?

Are you satisfied with any current friendships you have (separated from how you might feel about the people themselves)?

How were your past friendships?

Why do, did, or would you have friends?

Do you feel platonic attraction?

To what degree?

Do you know what platonic attraction feels like?

Do you see friendship as an important facet of your life, present or future?

Do you want friends?

What do you see as platonic?

Thinking about each of those things, how do they make you feel?

Is there anything you would want to change or adjust about your current friendships?

Small influx of people in the tag, wanted to contribute. Feel free to add on!