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okay but waking up in the middle of the night to soft rain and knowing you’ve still got hours to sleep, when you’re toasty warm and comfortable & sleep has made you forget all your worries and responsibilities and u go back to sleep feeling as content as ever

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You put the air in my lungs and I wanted to keep it,

so I held my breath.

Caitlin Sheridan awarmrain.tumblr.com

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For you, Amir A.

I fell in love with my bestfriend. But he didn’t chase me. He had his doubts about me. Means he is careful about who he lets into his life. He didn’t whisper sweet nothings to my ears. He just answers my phone calls when I call him. He doesn’t parade our relationship on social media.  I am not his shiny new toy. I am his hidden gem. He doesn’t put me first. He has his parents, his beautiful nieces and nephew, his siblings, his health, his life. He wasn’t jealous if I talk to my peers or work with other guys, he lets me grow. He didn’t care that I had 2 million followers on Twitter. He knows all the 10 real friends I have and their names.  He can’t remember the title of my songs, but he remembers his niece’s birthday. He didnt forgo his friends for me. His friends were there for him when he needed them before i came into his life. He would never immediately agree to my thoughts. He tells me if im wrong. And when im right, he acknowledges it.

All this time I thought love was all about how a man should profess his love, flowers at my door, letters saying he’s in love, enslaving his entire being to me, but here is this person, who just wants to be sure he is the best man that he can be for himself, his family, and the world. And at the end of the day, he tells me all about it. All these things that he does or does not do, for some reason, he wants to share all of them with me.

I am his best friend. And for that, I am the luckiest girl in the world.

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If you’re marrying her because you love the way her face and body looks; what happens when beauty fades? If you’re marrying him because he makes you laugh; what happens when you start to get sick of his jokes? If you’re sincerely marrying one another because you compliment each other’s lifestyles and you can assist one another in religion with the realisation that you both have faults and mistakes then be patient and be prepared to travel this long road to paradise.

Shaykh Mohammed Aslam (via islamicrays)

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As I look back on my life, I realize that every time I thought I was being rejected from something good; I was actually being re-directed to something better. You must convince your heart that whatever God has decreed is most appropriate and most beneficial for you.

Imam Ghazali (Rahimahullah)

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You refuse to forgive people, and yet on the Day of Judgment you will stand bare, begging Allah to forgive you.

Yasmin Mogahed (via islamic-art-and-quotes)

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A number of people have come and gone in your life before. And life wasn’t that exciting for you. Suddenly in walk this guy that changes everything. He makes you laugh, smile, happy. He makes you feel alive. He makes you feel more of you after a long time. There’s something special about him that you cannot put into words. When you’re with him, you’re on cloud nine; when you’re not with him, you just don’t wanna let him go. You can feel your biggest fear approaching, like you’re falling in love, terribly terribly in love, hook, line and sinker. Your head knows it’s frightening but your heart says I don’t care, I wanna give it a shot. And well…why not? You have more to gain if things do work out. And you’ll never know without trying. So try you must, pray you must. For now, you have to find ways to make it work. It’s not gonna be easy but it’s definitely going to be worth it. And as a believer of love, the probability of things working out is always great.♡

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Don't be Beautiful

They keep saying that beautiful is something a girl needs to be. But honestly? Forget that. Don’t be beautiful. Be angry, be intelligent, be witty, be klutzy, be interesting, be funny, be adventurous, be crazy, be talented - there are an eternity of other things to be other than beautiful. And what is beautiful anyway but a set of letters strung together to make a word? Be your own definition of amazing, always. That is so much more important than anything beautiful, ever.

Nikita Gill

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Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life; it turns what we have into enough & more; it turns denial into acceptance; chaos into clarity; problems into gifts; failures into successes; the unexpected into perfect time & mistakes into important events. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow.

Unknown

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You are beautiful when your strength and determination shines as you follow your own path – when you aren’t disheveled by the obstacles along the way. You are unstoppable when you let your mistakes educate you, as your confidence builds from experiences – when you know you can fall down, pick yourself up, and move forward.

Unknown

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Literature Review: Based on the novel “Whatever happens, promise me you won’t give up"

Everyone has that certain someone they hope to never let go. That no matter how long, how difficult things get, they will always find ways to make that person stay. It may be the most pathetic way or the sweetest way. Just because something is not meant to be, does not mean it is not meant to be tried. We meet new people every day, and surprisingly not one of them manage to outshine that one person. Keep an open mind that someone new might come in and change everything, but how do we do so if our hearts and minds are only focused on one person, and it is her? The question is why. Here is a short story to better understand this situation. Three years ago, you met this one girl. Of course, like any narrow-minded typical guy - you would say that she’s pretty and she might be the one. But as a well-planned gentleman that you are, you set your goals. First, get to know her and get her to know you, or at least, notice you. Even this process takes about 4 to 5 months of unanswered “hello’s” and constantly being ignored. Until that one point where she decided to say “hi” back. That “Hi” was worth more than you could ever think of. It is a platform to something good, a sign of which that girl might say “maybe I should give it a try”. Like any other guy, she was not the only one you were texting or talking to. To your surprise, she was different. She did not mind long texts as she too, replied with an even longer text. Somehow, she knows how to control your emotions and unintentionally made you open up to her, and soon, so did she. Unlike any other girl, she was the one where you can have a serious conversation, light conversation, funny conversation all in one go. Do not get me started on her intelligence. And as humble as she always is, you never felt intimidated talking to her. You were only worried that she might not want to talk to you because of how different your level of intelligence is. Again, she always knows how to control one’s emotions and that is probably why you have never felt so small nor so big talking to her.

Throughout the first two years of knowing her, she was like that person who leaves you hanging and comes back like nothing happened. You never told her how you felt, so you do not have the rights to scold her or even tell her how inappropriate it was. Like I said, as a well-planned gentleman you are, you never push her away or force her to stay in-contact. Fortunately, that was what attracted her to you. That was what that made her feel comfortable talking to you, and soon she called you her “best friend she never had”. One might say you were being friend zoned, but to you, as long as you are not like the other guys who does not appeal well to her, you are fine. Then came that one time, where you finally confessed to her. It was not an easy decision because, you know where you stand, and you were nowhere within her standards. Chances of getting rejected were higher than being accepted, and you were right. However, the way she turned you down was the nicest way anyone could have done it. It was not a reply of rejection rather, a reply of hope that maybe one day, she will have feelings for you too, just not now.

After that confession, you were not treated as before. Again, she became that person who leaves you hanging and comes back God knows when. You did not take it personally because you understand. You are nowhere within her perimeter of the guys she dated or dates. As much as you say you have moved on, there is always this part of you saying there is still hope. God must have delayed this for a reason. You know that you do not jump into relationships easily because who you choose, is the one you aim to marry. Even since the first time you were in a relationship, that was your principle. Hence, you would not confess or be in a relationship where you know you cannot go far with. Thing is, not only for the past three years but also for the years before that three years, you have never met someone so perfect that you do not need to change a thing about her. She’s very kind, giggles a lot, knows just the right words to say, strong inside and out. Basically, that pretty girl who is pretty at everything. You can say that there is a lot more out there which you have yet to meet, but can you be sure that there is someone out there who has all these perfect traits, yet can still look at you and make you feel that you are no different than whoever you are intimidated with? Someone who is so perfect in your eyes that you are blind to even see all the traits other women have. You have been going out with other girls before her, getting to know them, yet none of them are like what she is. Don’t get me wrong, you were never comparing each and every one of them to her every time you went out with them. She was no longer contacting you that time, so you assume that you are just not the one she wants. The people that you have been going out with, they were okay. But you were the one putting effort to enlighten the situation. As much as you love to make people laugh, who will be there when you yourself fell down so low that you cannot even smile? That was when you realized you are not cut out for a relationship with any of these girls. Finally, after few months of not hearing anything from her, she came back and approached you. The people who were there witnessed how happy you were. She commented on your Instagram picture. One thing for sure, even if there were a million likes, and hundreds of comments complimenting your picture (which is impossible), her comment would outshine others. Why? Because the person who you thought would never come back, the person who you thought you have lost came back. Long story short, you both have feelings for each other, and work your way up. She was everything you thought she would be. She was everything you see in the woman you love. To be honest, when she involved her feelings and stay committed, she basically spelled the word Happiness in you. You know you will not go astray with loving someone so much because, at the end of the day, she will say that no matter what, God All Mighty controls and decides everything. She will put in effort but you must understand that if it is not meant to be, it is not. You took it too serious that instead of making the days talking to her count, you count the days you finally get to see her. You did not live in the moment. You took for granted every word she said, you did not listen as to why she was always mad at you. All you know is that, if things go wrong, you will give it your all to make things right. Sounds heroic, but it actually is what douchebags would do. After numerous of fights and quarrels, she gave up and completely changed the way she looks or even talks to you. Sadly, here you are back to three years ago where you were struggling to get a sincere “Hi!” from her. But then again, she is still that person who tells you that no matter what happens, there is still hope. Things might not go so well from now on, but if you hold on to that hope long enough, if you believe that she is worth everything, every effort of yours, InsyaAllah, you might be rebuilding something even better than what you once had. No matter how many events contradict your beliefs, no matter how many opinions say that you should move on, no matter how many extrinsic factors show you that you should give up if you still don’t give up, it shows that whatever happens, you will always have her back. Even if the world turns their back on her, you will be there right next to her. There is always that intrinsic motivation that drives you. What is the intrinsic motivation? It is the true colors of her which she has shown you, the ones you fell in love with. So, whenever you feel like giving up because of how cold she treats you now, look back and contemplate the person she was when she was happy, when she knows you’re there, when you made her feel that no matter how many people hate her, you will always love her. The reason why your heart and mind keep focusing on one person is her. p/s: No, this isn’t the article that I found, it’s the one that I wrote.

- Syahmi Suhardy, 2016

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الإيمان صبر في البلاء وشكر في الرخاء

Faith is: patience during difficulty, and thankfulness during prosperity.

• Patience: (ṣabr - صَبْرٌ)

• Thankfulness: (shukr - شكر)

both are highly esteemed virtues in Islam

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Care

“Why do you do what you do?” He asked.

“Well, I want to make something special that people will care about.”

“Do you do it so people will care about your work.. or so that they will care about you?”

There is some sort of pretentiousness that comes with creating your craft. When you want to make art so people will invite you over to red carpets. To 2a.m after-parties with other people who truly believed that their art was up for recognition - not them, but truly it was the other way around. ‘Care about me. Not my art. Care about me and maybe I can make more art to fool you, that will make you think that I maybe care about you.’

I thought of my answer carefully. And then I said.

“I want to make something that make people care for them and the people around them.”

“Is that not pretentious? Almost boastful I think.”

“It’s boastful if I start becoming bitter if don’t make it. I don’t want to be bitter. I don’t want to be one of those women who gave up everything for their art, for fame - who gave up their natural curves, nose, lips, innocence, identity. I’ve met them. I’ve seen them living in 400sq apartments after the glamour. I’ve felt their anger and frustrations towards the industry, how they gave it all and the industry only cared about their best years. I’ve decided, if I make art, it is for me, for humans to believe in humanity again, who will love what I make and keep it with them for a long time, and not get attached to my physical existence.”

“I guess you’re right.” “But. If you find me in the future all bitter and broken, you’ll know that I have failed. And I really did what I do just so people will care for me, not for my art. Thats the ultimate test.. let’s hope I’ll pass it.”

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You are loved.

I look at all the questions from my young fans from Malaysia and all over the world & I realized they’re all stemming from insecurity, bullying & rejection.. So many of them asking how to be accepted, how to deal with depression, how to not have suicidal thoughts… All is just to worrying me. I’m sorry for not replying them all, so I’m just going to write this so it will reach anybody who needs it. If someone can translate this to Malay, that will be great and I will be greatly indebted to them.  

My dear young ones, you are brought into this world for a reason. Many reasons, actually. To be the protector of the planet, to care for your family, other people,and to inspire others to do good. You are special.

If you are struggling with studies, you think homework or assignment is hard, think of your country and your neighborhood - what is it about your country that you want to change? Are the schools accessible to all kids? Are the kids getting into violence? Think deeply, and then gain as much knowledge as you can because with all that knowledge, you can come back to change all that, make sure other kids will get the same opportunity as you. If you are already in engineering school, law school, art school.. you are already on your way to serve a purpose to the world. That’s why you need to study. That should be your drive. So go and SOAR and be the best, and go make a difference in the world. Because my sweet young ones, YOU ARE THE FUTURE LEADERS! If you are struggling with love and rejection, think of the people who are always there for you no matter what. Sometimes falling in love and getting hurt is one of the ways to learn how to care for yourself. A good friend of mine always remind me to pray and to ‘take care of your heart’. It is people like that you should keep close, they care only for your well-being. Look around you, if your friends are making you feel less than who you are -they are not your friends. These are people who are sabotaging your happiness.   Keep the ones who drives you to be better, who shares their knowledge with you, who genuinely cares about you, who stops you from wrecking yourself. If the person close to you is telling you you can’t grow into a better, more successful person, this person does not care about your growth, and only wants you to stay at their level. If you feel this, break free. You’re better off alone.

If the person you love leaves you, it is not their fault, it is not your fault. It’s just not meant to be, and it will leave an empty space that you can now fill with all the things you can do for yourself. Start a business, take your parents on a holiday, join a charity group, play sports, go to a music class, dance class.. Its an opportunity to work on your skills, to enrich your character and your life because YOU ARE SPECIAL. And in the future, someone who deserves you will come along. And you don’t have to worry about them being the wrong one - because you’ve train yourself to filter out the negative people in your life. And this person, as God has sent them to you, will love you for who you are. Remember, you are LOVED. 

If you’re struggling with yourself, remember, you are made beautiful since day 1. Good looks go away after sometime, what remains is your heart and how you made people feel.. It’s your choice to be beautiful or not, beauty is not a privilege - it can be yours. Through your actions, through your words. Being attractive is when you enrich your brain and soul with positive things and share them with the world. Real beauty is when you love yourself. When you don’t sacrifice your natural beauty or your identity just so that people will like you. When you take care of your health. Beautiful is when you’re pleasant. When you’re respectful in other people’s space, when you are classy dealing with people who upset you. In my life, I learned that nobody will want to be around you if you’re not a warm person & constantly talking bad about someone. When your heart is black, it is really hard for people to stick around. Being beautiful, is when you nurture love inside of you. It’s not the color of your skin, the shape of your nose, the thickness of your lips, its not the curve of your body.. its how you remain lovely in this cruel world that’s constantly changing and where there are people who are advocating violence in public, you exist to promote love and peace.

If there are things making you depressed, don’t give into it. You have to fight it. Find help, talk to someone, don’t create that dark hole for yourself, don’t crawl into it, you deserve better. Find something you love doing, go out, get some sun, go to beach, get your friends to cook together, share ideas. Pray, you will find peace, you will find acceptance. Just like your body, your brain, your heart, and your soul needs food too. Trust me on this.. IT WILL GET BETTER. You will find your real strength and you’ll realize you’re stronger than you thought you were! Imagine if you get through this, wouldn’t it be a wonderful accomplishment? YOU ARE SPECIAL. YOU ARE STRONG. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. YOU ARE LOVED. DONT LET ANYBODY TELL YOU ANY DIFFERENT. 

-Yuna Zarai. 💜

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It's all about timing

Sometimes you think you’ve met the right one. But things didn’t work out, the whole relationship didn’t turn out right. No matter what you try to do or say, it it’s not meant to be, it’ll never be. The important thing is never to be afraid to lose what wasn’t meant to be. Just let go. Let it go! And don’t be angry, upset, or disappointed with the person who aren’t meant to be in your life. You’ll feel hurt. And you’ll carry that hurt for a while. But you will be okay, seriously you’ll end up okay, eventually. And when the time is right you will finally meet the right person who’s really worthy of your love.

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