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yeah im into bdsm Be Dozing So Much

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this is a sign to update your wips

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i wish people would stop making well-intentioned positivity posts for stone bottoms/pillow princesses that begin and end with scolding people for ‘not respecting our boundaries.’ like yeah it’s partly about boundaries but it’s way more about how sex- topping in particular- is viewed as labor, and therefore must be a reciprocal or somehow equal exchange. the same way one might talk about household chores. shit-talking pillow princesses is so common within sapphic spaces because it is perceived to be a MORAL stance. treating this problem as if it’s purely an interpersonal matter of respecting individual boundaries is not gonna get us anywhere.

sex is only work when it’s sex work. if you think topping is a chore, you shouldn’t be doing it. if a satisfying sexual encounter for you involves taking turns, or trading orgasms, or whatever, of course that’s completely fine and good! the problem arises when people assume that’s the default, natural, moral, correct or only way of having sex as a queer person. when people assume that it goes without saying. stone folks exist in defiance of that. and everyone benefits from shedding normative, restrictive ideas about sex. which, by the way, is a value-neutral 100% optional activity with infinite variations. we need to work on tearing down any moralizing about how it should be done, beyond risk-aware consent, which is really all that matters.

people feel justified in disregarding, mocking, belittling or shaming stone folks’ boundaries because they do not think those boundaries are morally or socially correct. i know these positivity posts mean well, but shouting ‘respect boundaries!!’ over and over is missing the bigger picture.

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This has been a topic in one of my discord groups today and I’m so curious what everyone’s approach is as a writer.

Writing linearly means starting at the beginning of the story and writing each scene in chronological order from beginning to end.

Writing non-linearly means you might start midway through the story and write the beginning later, or you might write scenes at random and join them up later, or you add in placeholders as you write to go back to later (like “add action scene here”).

Outlining means coming up with a sequence of plot points to guide the story - i.e. planning/mapping out what the main story beats will be throughout it.

Personally I’m a linear writer, and I don’t outline. I have a loose idea of where the story is going to go, but that’s it. And I can’t skip scenes or use placeholder text — my brain starts shrieking at me lmao.

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why is everything so hard but not actually that hard just i cant do it

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first base is ripping each other's throats out second base is fucking and then pretending it didn't happen after it's over. third base is falling unconscious from blood loss in the other's arms

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(hears a song lyric) this would make a great all-lower case fanfiction title

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its important to write fanfiction no one cares about 👍

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allow yourself to be a beginner

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"you're romantasizing problematic behavior" actually i'm doing something worse, i'm sexualizing it

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when i say “that reminds me” & theres zero connection you just have to take my word for it theres no time to explain

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The author 's barely disguised

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you have a disgusting storytelling addiction

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Constantly remember how full of choices life is and how if you let your guilt or shame lead you instead of joy you truly will have no one to blame but yourself when you are living a life that feels heavy and constrained instead of happy and free

When you are not a child anymore you have to make decisions based on your own beliefs and no one else's and if you can't then no one is gonna save you - it's something you do for yourself regardless of how it looks to people around you and no one is gonna tell you to choose yourself

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Always the writer, never the reader.

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Dog that is also a cursor. Or perhaps a Cursor that is also a dog.

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A comic I posted last night for patrons, but I wanted to share here too! This has been the time lately 😂😩😔👏✨️

But in seriousness, capitalism worms are rough! But try to ignore them and shoo them out! Take care of yourselves and rest, babes 🥳💖