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Part of my journey out of sexual shame was removing myself from the toxic purity culture of the white evangelical church. I have become a harsh critic of white evangelical churches for a few reasons, but purity culture is by far the biggest. So many churches love to claim that they are welcoming to visitors and essentially bribe them with potlucks and free gifts to try and convince them that the place is warm and inviting. But it’s only inviting if you can get approved by the community. If it’s predominantly white, and you are not white, you may automatically feel unwelcome or unsafe. If a pastor preaches on unapologetic truth and does not attempt to be sensitive or mention the grace that comes with salvation, they will scare many away. If they preach on the dangers of “homosexual activity” and frame it as We are the Good Guys and Homos are Bad, they will traumatize anyone in the congregation who may be closeted and lose them in the future. 

Personally, there was one old man that liked to invade my personal space at my parents’ church. I told my parents he was scaring me and that I had nightmares about him, they told me to suck it up. He was at church to learn and grow as a person and I was part of that process for him. I was a training exercise for a dog - the dog is supposed to sit and wait until the trainer tells him he can have the treat on the other side of the room. They had completely neglected that he could pounce any moment. I had to continue to go to church with the while I was living with them and had to learn to be a tool for someone else’s personal growth. No one asked for my permission. No one asked what I thought. 

This is perpetuating rape culture. This is traumatizing to far too many people, male and female. It protects the perpetrator rather than the victim, ignores justice, ignores the trauma of the victim and focuses solely on the redemption of the perp. I’m not saying we shouldn’t try to help redeem sinners - we must walk with them through difficult times in life. But we must not do so at the expense of others within the church. Even to remain neutral in the face of blatant injustice is to choose the side of the oppressor. We cannot be neutral on anything. We must protect and love the victim in these situations and fight for justice and pray for the heart of the oppressor. 

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Hey straight guys, if u only like women when they are exposing legs and boobs the u are attracted to boobs and legs, not women.

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I don't need your permission, and I DEFINITELY don't need your approval.

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Encourage #boys to ask for permission before showing physical affection. Teach them to respect the power of the word "no," that when someone tells them to stop doing something, they need to immediately cease their behavior.

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An incomplete list of reason why my religious econ professor is fucking feral:

-Wears a 3 piece suit, pocket watch chain, cowboy hat, and cowboy boots every. god. damn. day. (possibly JJ Bittenbinder?)

-Writes every slide in papyrus font and is very proud of this

-Told us “the department sends around an email every week asking what everyone has done so they can put it in the weekly news letter. Most of my colleagues talk about how they gave a talk and Harvard, got published in a prestigious journal, etc. I like to tell them about how I had a really good steak at a tavern just so they don’t think I’m dead and give away my seat.”

-Has dunked on almost every member of university administration to his ~200 student lecture. It is only week 4.

-Impersonated the pope by putting on a long stocking cap OVER HIS COWBOY HAT and gesticulating with a dollar store scepter

-Makes movie posters for his research papers:

I will probably update this as the class goes on. We’re not even halfway through the quarter yet lol

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Listen up. There is literally an app that can help you avoid self harm and I don’t know why we aren’t talking about it.

Calm Harm can be tailored to your needs and will provide strategies to help you get past those crucial moments of wanting to harm.

It’s also totally FREE.

once again, it’s called CALM HARM

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sex education season 2, episode 4

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People who think “being nice” means not calling people on their bigotry but have no issue with the actual bigotry because that’s just “people expressing their opinions.”

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how they gon be mad at something they came up with? 💀💀

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