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“E” is for existentialism. (via bretjturner)

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By Anders Røkkum

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Balazs Bercsenyi

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By Anders Røkkum

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Try to remember that your partner might need more explanation for your thought process than you think is necessary, especially if it’s a “negative” thought.

“I disagree with you” –> “I disagree with you, but I’m not angry at you, and I’m not going to yell at you for not agreeing with me.”

“I’m hurt by what you did” –> “I’m hurt by what you did, but I don’t hate you, and I don’t think you’re a bad person. I just want to discuss it.”

“I’m frustrated” –> “I’m frustrated, but it doesn’t mean I don’t care about you.”

What feels obvious to you–the underlying asumption that of course you still love this person, of course this is just a single feeling–is not obvious to someone who has been trained to flinch at every criticism. Take the time to explain your feelings and their meanings to ease both your fears.

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look: the right people will get it. the right people will see you and appreciate you for the person that you are. the right people won’t require you to dilute, censor, or edit yourself in order to be worthy of their time and affection. you don’t need to waste your time on people who are committed to misunderstanding you 

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#rollerderby #rollerderbyphotography

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By Anders Røkkum

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Friendly reminder:

When poc say they hate white people, they are expressing frustration from living in a white supremacist society. Don’t take it personally. If you are white and say you hate poc, you come from a place of more power and you encourage violence. Context matters. As such, poc cannot be racist because the systems they live in don’t allow them to hurt white people.

This has been a psa

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Stop chasing people. If they block you, cut off contact, ignore you… Let them go. Let those who naturally gravitate to you enjoy your energy. We spend so much time begging for those who wouldn’t blink twice at the thought of you. Cherish those who are there by choice, and not there because you chased them every time they decided to escape.

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But I wait no more

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