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Well, someone had to take the first step.

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Yes little one....ready to be controlled and fall deeply in love with mistress?

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I will definitely sit on your face bitch

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Oh Oh Tumblr...

My girlfriend found out I had a Tumblr account, and was extremely curious when I wouldn’t log in to let Her see it. We had played with chastity and tease and denial a bit. But only played. She would lock my cock after work, tease me all night, then unlock me for an explosive orgasm before bed…

One night She refused to unlock me. I ranted and raved and She just smiled and laughed. I will unlock you, and let you cum, after you give Me the password to your Tumblr account. That stopped me short. My ranting and raving turned to pleading and begging. I begged Her to take it off. I promised Her I would delete my Tumblr. Delete it… She laughed. Not until I get the chance to read every word of it. With that, She left the room, returned without the key to my cage and told me to shut up and go to bed…

I slept very poorly that night. My cock would get hard and cramped in the cage and wake me up. I had hoped She was kidding and would unlock me the next morning, but not a chance. Laughing at me as I stood naked, but for my cock cage, to get dressed for work, She pulled my “boy undies” from my hand and gave me the panties She had worn all of the previous day to wear under my pants at work. That set the tone for every day after that. I was kept locked, no chance for release. Each day I wore Her used panties from the day before. To add to my arousal and frustration I would use my tongue to please Her when She got horny. She enjoyed watching my cock harden, then get trapped and pinched in the small cage. Several times a day, as She grabbed the cage and twisted it, She would remind me I could be released, and even allowed to cum, if I just gave up the password…

Finally, after two weeks, I caved. I blurted out the password, even offered to long in for Her. Anything to get my cock free and to cum. She stretched out naked on the bed with Her laptop, slowly going through my whole account. The postings I had made, the “likes” I had collected. It was even more humiliating standing next to the bed watching Her, knowing the depths of depravity that my account showed. Knowing that She would now know my deepest, most perverse, fantasies. Things that excite me but that I would not really want to experience. Finally, looking up at me and grinning widely, She said, forget that orgasm I promised you slut. You are going to be denied for a lot longer until I see just how many of these disgusting things I can actually make you do. Now get behind Me and lick My ass as I go through this again to find the first thing I want to watch you do…

Thanks to Websissy

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Orgasms Are For Girls!

Female orgasms are far more valuable than male ones.

This is evident in our biology.

When we watch what happens to a man post orgasm, his body is drained, and he gets tired, and often loses all sexual appetite.

He may not even want to be touched. He loses interest in cuddling, romance and intimacy.

He may even feel slightly depressed, like cumming was a promise that didn't deliver.

Sure it felt good for a few moments, and then just ike that, that euphoric feeling disappears, and he's snapped back to reality.

Orgasm didn't benefit him.

It actually made him worse off than before he started. Waiting for his body to recharge to get back to that point where he feels alive with passion again.

He also loses his desire to take risks, and also enters sub drop for a time. What good has come from his orgasm? Female orgasm on the other hand.... Is a completely different story.

Her orgasm, immediately relieves her of all stress. It's one of the best things a woman can do for stress relief. Not only that, but orgasm especially from oral, actually charges her up, making her feel more alive.

A sense of fulfillment comes with it, A relaxed euphoria follows, that can sometimes last the entire next day. Her orgasm helps to balance her emotions, while also filling her with more confidence, in her body, and in life.

Her orgasms can be used as a way of creating motivation and ambition. The more often she orgasms, the more empowered, and happy, her life will be.

That's why it's the goal of submissive men to make her happy, because when she's happy, he's happy. Well coincidentally, or perhaps, by design, our natural biology compliment each other.

Men who are denied orgasms, tend to give up their orgasms to the women in their lives.

Almost as if that's the natural order of things.

As if that's how it was always meant to be. Because men experience the same euphoria that women do, when they're kept in denial, and under her authority.

Male orgasms, are meant to be given up for women. That's why she gets so horny when she has him locked in chastity, it's an actual exchange of power.

She's picking up his excess sexual energy, and feeling horny like him. It's also why when he makes her orgasm, he enjoy and feels, her pleasure, almost as much as she does. Because he's in subspace, in surrender, giving his energy up for her.

Male orgasms, really have no benefit for him or her. That's why he can never think of a good reason to be let out of chastity. Because there isn't one!

He's meant to serve her.

That's why FLR's are an amazing way to live, because it's in natural harmony with each other, the way nature intended.

Create the FLR of your dreams with my Practical FLR book series!

https://books2read.com/b/The-Submissives-Journey

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Reality of FLR, vs. Fantasy

Reality of FLR, vs. Fantasy

The other day I was asked by a follower to share my thoughts on the reality of FLR since most of what is written on the subject is “session” based and centered around play.  While I am not currently in one. (still searching) I have been previously.  

My other Domme friends and I often make a joke that if people knew how normal our lives where they would be bored.   We all have good days and bad days, as we are human first and foremost.  We have to pay bills, deal with annoying co-workers, crazy in-laws, debate over what to do tonight, and where to eat, and the normal goings on of moody spouses just like any other couple.  

So what then makes it an FLR?    Rituals, Routines, Respect, and Obedience!

Daily rituals:  I like rituals, be it waking me with pussy worship, or a cup of tea.  Kissing my feet when I enter the house after a long day of work.   Things like drawing my bath, turning down the bed, asking permission to sleep in the bed, being naked around the home whenever it is possible.  Rituals such as weekly inspections, measurements, journal checks.   Having to say certain thing when doing certain thing.. e.g.  (when putting on a collar, or Chasity cage have them say “Mistress mine, thy will is mine”.)

Routines:  While I love the element of surprise and think there should always be spontaneity in a relationship.  There are some things that must be constant.  Aftercare, the freedom to talk freely about what happened, or what is to be done. Routines related to hygiene can be easily incorporated in the FLR, without it being a “scene” per se.  “Come shave me” or  “Come here so I can manscape you”  are both reinforcing roles, and place, but serve as reminders of who’s the boss.  These “rules” must be discussed and mutually agreed upon, within reason. However, I’m not one for discussing them ad nauseum.  Some things are just things that make me happy, and I’m not up to negotiating them. Other things are mood dependent, and negotiable. There is however a typically division of labor, and chores. I expect you to keep the house clean to my standards, and I am a huge proponent of the “Subbie-do” list.

Respect:  This is paramount in any relationship.  The Domme should always respect the sub, and vice versa.  Please note that I started with the Domme.  So many think that a person’s gift of submission is an excuse to be disrespectful and dismissive.  In an FLR that is not so.  Yes, you can humiliate, and at times degrade, but it is imperative that the submissive know that his submission is cherished, valued and brings your pleasure. Otherwise, you will end up with a shell of person, and neither of you deriving any pleasure.

Obedience:  If I lift my skirt and tell you to kiss my ass at any given time I expect you to do so. Even if it’s Thanksgiving dinner and your family is in the other room.  (keep in mind that a respectful domme isn’t going to out you to your family, but would do such a thing discreetly) If we can’t agree to a movie we both want to see then deference should be to my wishes.   (again with respect. you should be free to express your wishes).

Obedience and Compliance are two different things.  One is done willingly, and the other is done for fear of retribution.  I do not want my submissive to fear me.  I want them to worship me and work for my happiness and thus earn rewards. I want this to be voluntary, not done out of fear of punishment.  Yes, punishments will happen, as will “FUNishments” because no one is perfect, and there is always room for improvement. The key to it all is the mindset of the servitude from both the giver and the receiver.

In a perfect world, here are just some of the “rules” I would ask from the slave in my life, should I be lucky enough to find him… There are many more, but they would be private.

1.      Thou shall not cum without permission, and if you are told to eat your cum you will do so willingly, without hesitation.

2.      Thou shall wear chastity cage if and when I request it, and if  it is possible to do so.

3.      Thou shall not ask for release but be appreciative of all intimate contact you are given.

4.      Thou shall never take sleeping near me for granted and always ask permission to do so.

5.      Thou must always wear some marking of ownership, be it a cage, panties, a collar, or a decorative piece of jewelry.

6.      Thou shall always greet me on your knees in the morning.   Unless instructed otherwise.

7.      Thou shall always be thankful for any release or attention that one is given

8.      Thou shall not top from the bottom, but one can always journal their thoughts

9.      Thou shall be subjected to weekly inspections for things such as:  Measuring, grooming, journaling, cum volume, etc..

10.   Thou shall worship whatever I give you to worship, be it my toes, my ass, my pussy, and do so as if it is you last meal.

Xxoo

Ms. Eden

11/6/16

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Mmm if this isn't how you are helping me end the day, I don't want you.

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How I need her to be 🥀

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"Are you ok?" I'm actually tired bro. From the bottom of my heart I'm tired

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Chastity to Train a Male Sub...

Here is my chastity training philosophy, in a nutshell:

There is no more effective way to train men than through their cocks/orgasms.

Yeah, yeah…there will always be exceptions. But seriously…this is it. Men are incredibly easy to train if you understand what drives them…

Some women and men have the opinion that keeping a male sub in constant, long (or very long) term chastity is the most effective way to train. I completely disagree. The reason for this is simple: if a man knows his cock will never be allowed to come, then the orgasm ceases to become a motivation, or a carrot, if you will.

So here is what I do. I use the cock/orgasm to reprogram and condition my slave. So what follows involves using chastity as a training device rather than as a punishment or way of life. Basic steps look something like this:

1. The chastity device…

There are many versions out there, but for this to work, this needs to be a device that is secure and lock-able. I must have the key. I have the power over his cock and he cannot escape. This is an enormously powerful and symbolic message.

2. Putting it on…

Eventually, wearing the chastity device will become second nature – but you must set the example, set the stage, the first few times that you put the cage on. The manner and words and attitude that you adopt when you put this on him for the first time will stay with him as he wears it, and going forward, how he feels about wearing it. The first few times I make sure that he knows how meaningful this is…that I am purposefully choosing to take control of his body, that I am taking his cock, his symbol of masculinity, away from him. Owning it. Controlling it. Mine. For as long as I wish. I make him beg me to put it on. I make him watch as I lock it. I make him thank me for doing it.

3. The Rules…

Now, I have him. He’s mine. Seriously. What will a man not do to have his cock, his pleasure? Both are now mine to command. It is best to have thought this out very carefully before locking him in. Chastity training is very powerful and making mistakes here isn’t desirable.

For the best results, these three components are essential:

# Begin with (potentially) brief and clear-cut stints in chastity… # Make the things he must do to get out of chastity and/or earn his orgasm very straightforward and obtainable… # Keep Your Promises…

If you want chastity to be an effective tool, he must see that his behavior is directly tied to his release. At first, the cause/effect correlation must be very clear. Most importantly, you must keep your word. If you say that he will be allowed release from chastity after he has made you breakfast in bed five days in a row, then you must keep your promise. There are lots of memes out there depicting women changing their mind about allowing their men out of chastity. For initial training purposes, this is an absolutely horrible idea. If your sub loses faith in the cause and effect nature of chastity, he will ultimately cease to trust that his behavior will have any impact on his release – thus lessening the power of your ‘threats’.

Now, once his brain has become re-wired and he realizes that he must behave…your timelines can become longer, the tasks more complicated, and you can occasionally change the rules. But I repeat – this should only be done after you have effectively broken him and trained him.

The benefits of male chastityThe benefits of male chastity

My rules tend to force him to focus on my pleasure – to force his brain to begin associating my pleasure as a prerequisite to his. Example: He must give me a certain amount orgasms before he is released. Now, I don’t need chastity to have him do this. First, he’s happy to lick my pussy at any time. Second, I could just tell him to lick my pussy at any time. So… why connect this to chastity? Because this is more than him deciding, or me giving an order. This is my choice to literally re-wire his brain to associate my orgasms to his own pleasure. And I don’t keep what I’m doing a secret. I want him to know what I am doing. I want him to know that his body is just the tool I’m using to control his mind. Of course, I add other things on as well, but my pleasure should always come first.

4. The Reward….

Any time the chastity device is taken off, it should be clear that it is a kindness that you are bestowing upon him. Before it is taken off, the rules of his behavior should be crystal clear to him. Is he allowed to have a full orgasm immediately, or at a certain time? For the most effective training, I recommend that immediately following his release, you arrange for an incredibly powerful, satisfying orgasm. One that YOU take part in– either directly, or indirectly. This intense pleasure will reinforce how desirable it is to be out of chastity, and how hard he should be willing to do whatever it takes to earn his freedom from it.

Later, once he has been conditioned and well trained, he will be grateful for a ruined orgasm…for being allowed to touch his cock at all. But for initial training, the orgasm should follow as soon after release as possible. Again, this is quite literally re-wiring his brain to associate you and your control of him with pleasure.

Important Tips:

- If you keep your sub in long term (longer than a month at a time) chastity, it is important for his health that you milk his prostate monthly. This can have the added bonus of highlighting your absolute control over his body.

- Be sure that you understand how to properly fit and install a chastity device.

- An improper fit can cause un-fun pinching or cause un-fun bruising or blood flow problems.

- If you intend to keep your sub in chastity for longer than a day, make sure that you are using a device that will allow for air, and proper hygiene.

Thanks to FemaleSupremacy

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Oral Pleasures

FLR Tips is the sister site to FLR Info, where you’ll find introductory information about Female-Led Relationships. If you’re new to this, you should head over there. This site is about the practical, day-to-day aspects of FLRs. It is much more explicit and quite sex/femdom-oriented. Consider yourself warned.

Cunnilingus is pretty much a staple of FLRs. Our men love to perform it on us for hours on end, and we just lie back to receive orgasm after orgasm, night after night. Right?

For lots of FLR couples, this is indeed the case. Most men who are drawn to FLRs and properly starved of orgasms, are extremely happy campers when they get to put their head between their woman’s legs. And there’s no doubt that many women thoroughly enjoy it, too. Properly done, many of us will agree that it feels wonderful and can be extremely satisfying, both physically and mentally.

For others, it isn’t quite so simple. Some women enjoy it as foreplay, but not as the “main course”, at least not night after night. Others enjoy it when they are able to relax, but have certain issues preventing that from happening most of the time. Finally, there are those who feel plenty relaxed, but just get nothing out of it. 

The premise of the rest of this article is that you’d like to enjoy oral sex more, since it is a very practical and natural expression of the power dynamics in an FLR relationship. If you’re happy about not caring about oral sex, that’s perfectly fine - go read another article.

Let’s say that you generally enjoy oral sex, but you don’t find it particularly interesting, and you’d get bored pretty quickly if it was the main ingredient in your sex life. In my experience, this is the most common attitude among women who are new to FLRs, and it’s a perfectly reasonable attitude to have! Here are my tips for you:

Revel in the power your pussy holds over your man. Even if you don’t find it particularly sexually stimulating, you might find it very satisfying as a ritual. Speaking for myself, I feel that being on the receiving end of very frequent and utterly one-sided oral sex is the symbol of feminine rule in our household. And I know my husband feels the same way.

Think of it more as pampering than sex. It certainly doesn’t have to be the main ingredient of your sex life, even if you do it on a daily basis. It can be something you do as a ritual, because you find it pleasant, because you feel it is befitting your type of relationship, because it makes your man happier etc. Whenever you feel like having a different kind of sex, just do so.

Having an orgasm is not necessarily the goal. There are countless things your man can do while he is between your legs, and licking you to orgasm is just one of them. This applies to you as well - you don’t have to stop what you’re doing just because he is down there performing his duties. In fact, it probably has a stronger “FLR ritual effect” if you both treat it as nothing our of the ordinary. So continue reading your book, play with your phone, or even do a little bed-side work. If it becomes pleasurable enough that you want to just lie back and enjoy an orgasm, then you should of course do that, but only if that’s what you feel like.

If you do have an orgasm, you certainly don’t have to end things. You’ll probably be extra sensitive right after you orgasm, so he should learn to ease back to gently kissing you or whatever for a while, but feel free to go for another orgasm or a nice, long period of post-orgasm oral pampering.

Don’t worry about his comfort - at all. If you feel more comfortable being covered in sheets or a duvet, have him crawl under it and stay there for as long as you want, nevermind if he gets hot. If you want to lie on your side or your stomach, go right ahead, nevermind if it forces him to maintain an awkward position to reach you properly. Not only does this free you to be as comfortable as you can, but he will absolutely love you for being selfish and demanding like this. Trust me.

Make the oral sex about power play. Sit on his face, rub your juices all over it, restrict his air flow, have him lick your ass instead. Many women, myself included, enjoy this part at least as much as the actual licking. Using your pussy and ass as “weapons” can be an immensely powerful and enjoyable feeling.

If you don’t actively dislike it, use oral access to your pussy as a reward for your man. Conversely, if you do enjoy it frequently, take it away for a period as punishment.

Focus on other aspects of it. Surely, there’s a certain psychological pleasure to be had from knowing that you have a man who would love nothing more than to go down on you every single night, when your vanilla girlfriends are lucky to get it once a year?

Understand that for a lot of men it’s not mainly about the licking, it’s about having their faces close to the “holyest” of anatomical places. The smell, the wetness, the warmth, the opening up of your legs, serving your needs, the mere symbolicm of it.

Don’t feel obligated to learn to love it. If you do, great - your man will be pleased. If you don’t, there are plenty of other things to enjoy in a FLR, and you can still get it whenever you feel like it.

To me, it’s all about seeing the possibilities rather than fretting about whether you find oral sex satisfying enough.

OK, let’s turn now to those who enjoy (or think they would enjoy) oral sex when everything is just right, but who can’t ever seem to relax enough for it to be just right. This is also quite common, I believe, and can be caused by a multitude of reasons, mostly psychological. I don’t want to trivialise the issues these women are experiencing, but here are some general tips:

Explain the issues to your man and try to resolve them together. He will be more than happy to take it slow if it means there’s a chance he can get more “facetime” in the future.

If you worry about how you smell or look, consider taking your man’s enthusiasm at face value. He most likely doesn’t care, or positively loves how you look and smell.

If the intimacy bothers you for some other reason, try taking your mind off it by doing something else while he is occupying himself. Read a book, browse Facebook or Instagram, play a game, watch TV.

If you feel like you always have to be fresh out of the shower when enjoying oral sex, please don’t. Our type of men generally enjoy quite a bit of muskiness, just don’t overdo it unless you’re sure your man is into that.

See a doctor if you think you have some issue that really does makes your vagina unpleasant to be around. It may be easy to fix.

Beyond these simple tips, I don’t have much to offer. The types of issues that cause some women to find oral sex difficult can be complex, and I am not a professional counselor. Just remember that your man is your partner in this, and he can be a big help if you let him.

Finally, let’s turn to those who find oral sex just plain boring or downright painful. Again, it’s fine if you don’t feel the need to start liking it, this is for those who see the appeal in frequent, enjoyable oral sex, and would like to get there.

If you find oral sex painful, give your man clearer instructions. Have him steer clear of your clitoris, have him gently kiss instead of lick etc.

If the issue is a lack of physical stimulation (not enough friction, a preference for rougher sensations etc.), try giving your man clear instructions. He can use his tongue more forcefully, he can expose your clitoris more fully, he can move his head more vigorously, he can rub his beard against your most sensitive areas and so on. Also see the point about vibrators and toys.

If you need to be filled to feel any enjoyment, have him bring a dildo of your liking on his excursions. He doesn‘t need to move it a lot, it could just be used to get you in the mood.

Make it more interesting. Have him bring a vibrator, a butt plug or whatever else you enjoy, and tell him how to use what he brings.

I believe most women can find enjoyment in oral sex, it’s mostly a matter of finding ways to do it that suit their preferences and temperaments.

Personally, I find oral sex the most fitting expression of my husband’s deferrence to me as a woman. I also find it highly pleasing sexually, so we do a lot of it.

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it’s the subtle domination throughout the day for me

pushing him against walls whenever we walk through hallways only to drag him down to me and kiss him

grabbing his cheeks, pulling him into a kiss whenever i want

him asking me if he’s allowed to do anything or if it’s okay for me if he does this or that

not having to discuss who makes decisions, him doing everything i ask for without thinking twice because he trusts me

just being in charge of his cute little brain and small kissable lips while he has nothing to worry about

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How We Got Started

I never knew our lives would turn out this way. I never thought that I could enjoy dominating my husband so much. I grew up with the standard view that the man should take charge and that the woman should be the good housewife and submit to her man. But the man I fell in love with and married wasn’t very dominant. In fact, he seemed happiest when I took charge in the bedroom.

He was a great lover, always concerned about my pleasure more than his own. He shared his fantasies about being dominated by a woman and I tied him up a few times when we made love but it never went very far. We had a good sex life and tried a few different things in the bedroom but I soon got pregnant. I went into mother mode after my daughter was born and the sex died off somewhat. 

After a couple of years it picked up again when my sex drive increased but I had no interest in anything kinky. My husband ensured that I was properly pleasured and it was rare indeed for me to not achieve orgasm usually having two or three each time we made love. He never tried to force his kinky fantasies on me and rarely mentioning them. Until recently this was our routine.

Then my daughter moved off to college and suddenly we were alone with the house to ourselves. I had devoted the last 18 years to raising her and now that she was gone I was lost and didn’t know what to do with myself. After being out of the workforce for so long and being in my late 40’s, I had no interest in trying to find a job. We were quite comfortable living on my husband’s salary.

I felt a strong need to nurture someone now that my daughter didn’t need me anymore and so I decided to devote myself to my husband’s needs. At this time I started to get more sleep and had a lot more energy. As a result my sex drive increased substantially.

I loved the feel of his erection deep inside me but as i have gotten older, his tongue on my clit was what I mostly enjoyed.  My orgasms were so powerful when he licked me down there and he could give me a rolling orgasm that seemed to last forever that way. When I fantasized about sex it was always his mouth that I dreamed of and ached for.

He was always giving me what I needed but I felt like I never returned the favor. I started thinking about the fantasies that he had that I never fulfilled. It was time to pay him back for all of the pleasure he had given and rarely taken for himself over the years.  It was his turn to really enjoy sex. It was time to get kinky for him.

My husband had a penchant for bondage that i didn’t really understand. The few times I did tie him up in the past, his erection was usually harder then. I didn’t understand why he liked it though. I decided to ask him about it.

One night he had just finished licking me off for the second time when I asked him, “Honey, why did you use to like being tied up? What pleasure did it give you?” He was quite surprised at the question. I think he had given up hope years ago that I would show any interest in anything like this. It was totally out of the blue.

He thought for a moment then answered. “Well, I guess it makes me feel very wanted. Like something precious to you. It makes me feel valuable. People tend to lock up their most valuable possessions so they will be there for them. I also have always loved the idea of being controlled by a woman. Especially physical control. I guess it’s kind of like a role reversal. The man traditionally is in control of the household and makes the rules. I like the idea of it being the other way around.”

I was quite surprised at the answer. I could understand the role reversal aspect to some degree, but never would have guessed about making him feel valuable. People locked up their valuables, so if you locked him up it made him feel valuable. Wow. It actually made sense to me. He was the most valuable thing in my life and I wanted him to feel that way.

“So Honey, you still feel that way? You still like the idea of me taking control of you and making the rules? If I chained you up would you feel that you are precious to me?”

He told me that it was just as exciting now as it was back then for him. I encouraged him to tell me more. I noticed that just talking about it made him get harder than he already was. I gave him a few gentle strokes, teasing him and asked how much control he would like me to have over him.

“Well you could control me as much or as little as you like Dear. It wouldn’t be right for me to tell you how I want it. The whole idea is for you to get what you want out of it and for me to accept and adapt to your needs. There is no wrong way to do it unless your needs aren’t being met. The right way is to always, always put your own wants and needs first.”

I thought about what he said for a few weeks and then I decided I was going to do this. I liked the idea of pushing his fantasies on him. This blog is about sharing information from the experience I gained over the last few years since I began dominating my husband. It has been a wild, fun and exciting ride for both of us.

It started with me just wanting to please him for a change and to my surprise I enjoy this lifestyle just as much as him. We have always had a close and intimate relationship, but now it’s much better than ever. We now live for each others’ needs and pleasure.

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