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F/o(s):Ya know what?!Frigg it!

*unlows your self-esteem*

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Ways to feel closer to your f/o(s)

Feel free to add to the list I’d love to see some of the ideas my fellow selfshippers have (´∀｀)

Watch/Read/Play your f/os source material

Look at fanart of you f/o

Read/write some fanfiction of them

Cook/Order their favorite food/drink and if they don’t have one guess one up (bonus points if you enjoy their source material whilst eating/drinking)

Dress up like them or wear clothes that look similar to their outfit(s) and imagine them gushing over you

Dedicate an accessory to them imagine it’s a gift from them to you and wear it

Clean up and imagine them encouraging/praising you for keep your shared space tidy (even if it’s something small do it)

Cuddle/hold a pillow/stuffie and pretend it’s them (bonus points if you put cloths on the pillow/stuffie)

Draw/Print a picture of them out and frame it for your enjoyment (put it anywhere that makes you feel happy)

Do some serious contemplation about your life together with your f/o like take maybe 5-20 mins and just get into your head

(Be careful with this one)Learn to lucid dream and spend time in your dreamscape with them (but don’t let your insecurities get to you while doing this cause your dreams can/will turn into nightmares)

Or if the last bulletin wasn’t for you thinking about your f/o before sleeping can increase chances of them showing up in your dreams

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Hey,selfshippers who don’t like canon x canon or don’t like sharing and are getting flack or feel guilty remember...

Humans are naturally territorial of those the love.

And

Jealousy is a normal human emotion.

(Just don’t hurt anyone...please)

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Hello friends!I have a special message to deliver to all of you!

If you are a minor selfshipper you aren’t a cringy/stupid internet kiddo

If you are an 18+ selfshipper you don’t have to “grow up and stop acting childish”

If you are POC selfshipper your race doesn’t determine whether you can self ship or not

If you are a religious selfshipper you aren’t doing the work of evil/going to hell or gonna be divinely punished for selfshipping

If you are a selfshipper for coping reasons you are valid

If you are selfshipper for kink or 18+ reasons you are valid

If you are a selfshipper for fluffy non 18+ sfw reasons you are valid

If you are a hetro/straight selfshipper you are valid,you exist,and not homophobic for not reading lgbtq+ character x character

If you are a lgbtq+ selfshipper you are valid, you exist, and not homophobic for not reading lgbtq+ character x character

If you are a selfshipper in a “problematic” fandom and aren’t hurting anyone you are valid and exist

If your fandom is dead you still exist and are valid

If you are a selfshipper who doesn’t like lewded/doujinfied/“fixed” art of your f/o you are valid

If you don’t like violent or angsty fanart/fics you are valid

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When you realize fuj*shis(the toxic ones),”art-fixers”, l*lions and sh*tacons have been pretty much normalized but oc’s and self inserts are still ”cringe”, disturbing and “ruining the source material”:

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Look.

Self shippers who read cheating or Toxic f/o fics/Headcanons,take a seat.

👇🏽

H o w? h O w? HOW?! Do y’all read them without getting hurt?!?!

(ps you are totally entitled to make and/or read whatever headcanons you want just as long as it’s not cp)

What type of feeling armor do you have,where did you get it and,why aren’t you sharing?!?1?1

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F/o(s):*exist*

Us:

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Y’all ever just hug a pillow/plush/something and pretend it’s your f/o...

What if the reason it sometimes feels like something is holding you is them hugging their own item wishing it was you

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Hnggg I really wanna g*sh and p*st about my l*ve for one of my f/os but he’s too popular to selfship (safely) and too obscure to find hcs and fanfic

(Can you guess who he is) Feel free to reblog with a pic or silhouette of your way too popular yet way too obscure f/o~

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Looking for content for your f/o(s) can either go like this

This

This

Or this...

Which one are you~ ˚✧₊⁎❝᷀ົཽ≀ˍ̮ ❝᷀ົཽ⁎⁺˳✧༚

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having obscure f/o:  sucks because no content

having well known f/o:  sucks because tons of content but 80% of it is shipping art or ship preaching so their tag is peppered with things that make you want to pluck your goddamn eyes out 

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Finding 18+/R-rated doujinshi of your f/o

Seeing it’s your minor familiar f/o

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Pick your poison (and death!) Popular f/os or obscure f/os??

Popular f/os

Pros:

Lots of content

People are more likely to know them so they aren't scared from sending stuff in fear of it being ooc and you won't have to explain the lore every time you gush about them

Cons:

Way easier to run into canon x canon in tags

If you are uncomfy with sharing, you'll probably be blacklisting lots of mutual's tags AND THE TEMPTATION OF CLICKING ANYWAY OH MY (Or just, not being able to follow so many other selfship blogs if you don't wanna interact even blacklisting tags, which isn't my case, but I guess I should include it anyway)

Obscure f/os

Pros:

Not being bombared with canon x canon content

If you are uncomfy sharing, you're still probably safe because almost nobody knows them, less much f/o them

Cons:

WHERE IS THE CONTENT

WHERE IS THE CONTENT

THERE ARE 5 FICS IN ARCHIVE OF OUR OWN AND THEY ARE ALL WRITTEN BY YOU

YOU ARE SAVING THE SAME FANART ON YOUR PHONE OVER AND OVER BC YOU CANT FIND MORE

Alternatively, if you are feeling brave, do both :)

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fic readers when there’s no x reader fics

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Selfship stands for...

S.imp over my F/o’s

E.ndulge myself

L.ove myself and my F/o’s

F.all in love with media

S.hipping myself with characters

H.arming no one by shipping myself with my

f/os 🔪🙅☝️

I.nevitably getting my heart broken💔

P.raying that they exist one day 🙏

Gif not mine~