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For the next four years, if I see any discourse from assimilationist queers over how we need to make queer art "less provocative" or "more acceptable," I am going to put you in the Dip.

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im sorry this is so fucking funny holy shit. me when i define womanhood by whether or not i got some glands in my ass.

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I love when TERFs throw a tantrum about "people with uteruses" because like... is there something about womanhood that's more than just a physical description of your body? Is being treated to as nothing more than a body part dehumanizing to you? I thought your whole philosophy is about wombyn having to have a vagina and uterus and the whole nine yards, but when you're actually referred that way it's appalling to you.

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all the TME people who go on like "oh im on the nth level of genderfuckery, i got a 5d chess gender, non euclidian identity, my AGAB isnt even real anymore, i have my third hole open, im queer as fuck" and then wind up at "im an AFAB trans woman" are both rewlly funny and really insulting. like oh, being a trans woman is gender fuckery now to you? can it not just, yknow, be me? do you not see us as normal women?

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I'm begging on my hands and knees for anyone who writes aro and ace characters in romantic/sexual relationships to at the very least understand what "lack of romantic/sexual attraction" means and NOT accidentally write them as allo.

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Really fucked up that a bunch of transmascs will call trans women TE//RFs (something trans women/TMAs cannot be under any circumstance), b**d*ls (a nasty slur that targets TMA folx that TMEs can't reclaim), and every casual masculine word under the sun (dude, bro, buddy, etc.) only to pitch a fit over being referred to as "TME" as if it's on par with any of that shit.

As a trans man I do not care if the terms TME and TMA are perfect or not. Half the words we've used to describe oppression in the trans and overall queer community over the years are imperfect in some way. A lot of y'all just REALLY hate when trans women use terminology that points out your privilege over them.

The TME obsession with nitpicking, obsessively dissecting, and overly criticizing every single word trans women, transfems, and other TMA folx use to describe their oppression and experiences in the trans community needs to end. And some of y'all need to accept that your griping has a much larger negative impact than you think it does.

Even if TMA folx came up with "better" terms than TME/TMA, I promise you every TME person under the sun (especially transmascs/trans men since for some reason so many of us just cannot accept that we have any kind of privilege) would be relentlessly picking that shit apart and finding "imperfections" in no time before proceeding to demand everyone stop using those terms.

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watching the modern history of the term baeddel unfold in front of me is insane. Like, I don't need other people's testimony, I was there for the first hand experiences with the baeddels (they were nice to me, one helped me figure out diy hrt) and watching it all end so violently and it's like, oh, the baeddels are over. I'll never hear that word again. Just for truscum and terfs to just start calling every trans woman a baeddel and people getting "baeddel" tacked onto their call outs despite none of them being in that original group of girls I tangibly knew. And for the truscum terf useage of baeddel to become this "baeddels have infiltrated mainstream LGBT politics" transandrodorks do it's like. What the fuck is going on.

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jesus no

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There's no way I can reasonably get mad at "egg" jokes when I'm constantly saying certain cis men have "tboy swag."

It's almost as if comparing cis people to trans people in any way isn't an insult or something to be repulsed by if you're cis. Makes you think.

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This is NOT what radical feminism is. Please be so fucking for real there's no way you actually think trans women bringing up their concerns about drag benefiting from a form of oppression they face every day is anything even remotely similar to anti-trans violence committed by a transmisogynistic hate group. You can't be serious.

i just. the spice that makes drag so transgressive and femboys so sexual and calling your favorite fictional man "babygirl" fun is transmisogyny.

crossing the line from "male" to "female" is the ultimate gendered taboo in our society, you know it, i know it, we're all acting on it. but when trabs women say "hey we're actually living that transgression and it makes us, specifically, vulnerable" the fun music stops and everyone pretends they dont know what shes talking about.

you stand here enjoying and celebrating and profiting from the aesthetics of transfeminity, all while ignoring the societal hierarchies that make it so enticing. all while rejecting the people most harmed by that stigma.

if you ever wonder why trans women dont like drag or are so mean to femboys or whatever just sit on this and maybe have the barest minimum amount of self reflection.

[fallen-daughter]

That makes sense! I see what you mean when you say it benefits rather than explicitly perpetuates. Thank you for explaining!

i just. the spice that makes drag so transgressive and femboys so sexual and calling your favorite fictional man "babygirl" fun is transmisogyny.

crossing the line from "male" to "female" is the ultimate gendered taboo in our society, you know it, i know it, we're all acting on it. but when trabs women say "hey we're actually living that transgression and it makes us, specifically, vulnerable" the fun music stops and everyone pretends they dont know what shes talking about.

you stand here enjoying and celebrating and profiting from the aesthetics of transfeminity, all while ignoring the societal hierarchies that make it so enticing. all while rejecting the people most harmed by that stigma.

if you ever wonder why trans women dont like drag or are so mean to femboys or whatever just sit on this and maybe have the barest minimum amount of self reflection.

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She's not "blaming drag queens for society's transmisogyny." If I'm understanding correctly, she's saying that drag perpetuates transmisogyny, something she and all other transfems experience and suffer with directly, for entertainment purposes, and that's why so many trans women feel disdain for it.

She didn't say anything even remotely close to "drag queens are why transmisogyny exists." Transmisogyny exists in MANY forms. It would be incorrect to say drag queens alone perpetuate it.

Also, the supposed overlap means little when you take into account how many of those trans women were closeted and identified as drag queens because it was safer than identifying as a trans woman. Or how many historically important trans women have been labelled as "drag queens" by transphobes who don't want to admit (and actively try to discount) that trans women accomplished anything good for the queer community. I've seen people say that about Marsha P. Johnson more times than I can count.

Even if none of those things are the case, and a trans woman does enjoy drag, that doesn't change the fact that trans women have every right to be skeptical of or even downright loathe drag if they so desire.

i just. the spice that makes drag so transgressive and femboys so sexual and calling your favorite fictional man "babygirl" fun is transmisogyny.

crossing the line from "male" to "female" is the ultimate gendered taboo in our society, you know it, i know it, we're all acting on it. but when trabs women say "hey we're actually living that transgression and it makes us, specifically, vulnerable" the fun music stops and everyone pretends they dont know what shes talking about.

you stand here enjoying and celebrating and profiting from the aesthetics of transfeminity, all while ignoring the societal hierarchies that make it so enticing. all while rejecting the people most harmed by that stigma.

if you ever wonder why trans women dont like drag or are so mean to femboys or whatever just sit on this and maybe have the barest minimum amount of self reflection.

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epic aro sculpture i did for class

the heart is made out of plastic bags wrapped with tape, so it's squishy ^_^ and the knife is qtips hot glued together. the knife is also removable!

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Do you actually care about transmascs or do you just like slapping top scars on fictional twinks and talking about boy pussy

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one trans girl telling you “you’re the reason i realized i was trans which is probably why i’m still alive” is worth more than the mild discomfort of a thousand gnc cis men

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something that the lesbian community is going to have to address is that, sure, transmasc lesbians are “valid” or whatever but there is a reason that non-women (or even men) coercively assigned female at birth are universally welcomed into the lesbian community whilst trans women & transfems are not, and that reason is transmisogyny. “we need to make space for transmasc/nb lesbians in the lesbian community” sure but as somebody who’s been an active part of the lesbian community for over a decade now, transmasc and nonbinary lesbians cafab have actually been one of the most catered to & actively welcomed demographics in lesbian spaces in that time whilst these environments continue to be just as hostile to transfems. if there are more transmascs than transfems in your lesbian spaces then you’ve fucked up somewhere because that doesn’t reflect wider community demographics at all

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Stanley Pines from Gravity Falls is aroallo