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by the way, anybody who says “if you ask me if i’m TME you’re just asking me what’s in my pants” really just has a problem with being conceptualised as somebody who can benefit from transmisogyny.

obviously asking somebody whether or not they are TME isn’t actually asking them their genitals (because. you know. bottom surgery exists? there are trans women with vaginas? i wonder why yall keep forgetting that 🤔) or their assigned gender (because cis men are also TME) — the only problem people have with it is that they can no longer mask their relationship to institutional transmisogyny.

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so, just for the record, staff's blatantly discriminatory rules enforcement practices are only half the story. like, if you ever find yourself wondering why trans women are always getting termed right after their posts about transmisogyny start getting numbers (and mysteriously start getting mature content flagged for seemingly no reason), its bc there are a couple of specific circles of people who mass report tgirls who talk about that sort of thing too loudly (or, y'know, they're just generally annoyed by). there's at least one discord server more or less dedicated to the practice to my knowledge and i wouldn't be surprised if there were more.

staff, of course, can perform the tied hands routine bc of this - they're just responding to reports! and now that the first ban is served, any subsequent attempts to rebuild one's social life are read as Ban Evasion. girls are left with the non-choice of permanent exile or starting over from scratch, trying to be quieter this time so they don't get found. this is the point, and its being done with purpose by people who, funnily enough, spend most of their time talking about the importance of Community. lol and lmao

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i know this sounds incredibly obvious but. people really like it when you respect their genders???? like yeah cis people gender affirming care BUT in my experience your average trans genderqueer person is going to have a nuance to their gender that rarely gets seen or respected, a label that seems contradictory, a xenogender like "cat" or "doll", a neopronoun, so on. and if you pay attention to and respect these and mention them people notice and they appreciate it. the queer community is full of people who are so rarely seen the way they want to be seen, and if you take just a little effort you can perform acts of incredible love and kindness.

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i fear the battle is lost at this point but i still flinch every time i see "gay panic" used as a cute positive phrase. Like let's go on say wikipedia.org for a second and try typing that one in folks

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Transfem self defense zine above

Good articles on transmisogyny and transmisogynoir for a more comprehensive and intersectional look at things. You can follow the author of the final one of these three (Position of Guilt: Black Hot Allostatic Load) on tumblr at @/storyweavingspider

PDF download link for an essay on transmisogynoir.

An actually good resource on transfem healthcare and HRT

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"Oh yeah I thought this was a transmisogynist portrayal of a transgender woman but then i learned that the orientals have a special identity word called [extremely violent slur that is the cultural equivalent of tr@nny] and they're a kind of feminine man and actually not trans women. so actually i think this is really awesome and it's super fucked of you to say that he's a trans and also it's super fucked to take issue with any of the creators involved in this work."

I'm fucking sick of this jesus h christ. seriously?

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incredibly funny how "oh no baeddel doesn't refer to transfems!" happened only when someone noticed that WE were re-reclaiming it, not when every transmisogynist on the site used it against us. you seemed perfectly fine with it referring to trans women when it's derogatory, funny that.

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I truly think being transgender is genuinely one of the most powerful things you can ever be, especially with the fact that you can mold your body or appearance into whatever you want that represents your gender.

I'm a trans man but I reclaimed my breast and non op body and celebrate it around, mainly in my artwork. it's the happiest I've ever been like they were not kidding there is a subtle happiness and excitement when you accept your true self and explore your gender and or transition.

taking hormones, getting surgery, or not, all those things to make you feel happy are just so cool and beautiful to me. ,,,

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PLEASE dont forget the incredibly racialised aspect of transmisogynistic murders and violence i am begging yall to not forget the incredibly racialised aspect of transmisogynistic muders and violence. the trans women being murdered are most often black women! they are often sex workers! the murder problem exists at an intersection of yes transphobia and misogyny, but also racism and classism! transmisogynoir is a violent killer! PLEASE im begging yall to not forget the racialised nature of transmisogynistic murders and violence!!!

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FACT: trans women experience greater rates of violence, homelessness and unemployment than trans men. mentioning that transmascs do in fact experience a privilege in comparison to their transfeminine sisters isn't "transandrophobic" nor is it "dividing the community" or "infighting", and the only reasons to suggest that are because you want to dismiss transfeminine attempts to describe & analyse their own oppression.

it would be nice if "we were all oppressed equally" or if the state truly did see us all as faggots, but Trump's executive order specifically highlights trans women, and many of the anti-trans bills specifically focus on "boys in girls' sports" and make no attempt to stop trans boys from competing alongside cis boys. so when you say shit like "we're all oppressed equally" or "they don't care what flavour of trans you are" just know that you are denying institutinal transmisogyny and are fundamentally no different to any other conservative antifeminist.

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"I deadname Twitter and the gulf of mexico" is not a joke I'm comfy with a cis making tbqh. ever since I saw that cis guy say "making egg jokes about me is bad for the same reason as misgendering trans people is bad" I've realized that these people really have a second grader's understanding of the world and if we let them get away with that joke for too long they might start deadnaming Blaire White or some shit

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Crazy how many people want characters in fiction to speak and act like they’ve had 20 hours of intensive therapy. Could NOT be me I want these bitches fucked up insane

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come the fuck on. you know what a tranny is you're just pretending you don't because you think reclaiming slurs is fun and "punk radical queer" or whatever. stop pretending or don't be surprised when transfems don't feel safe around you.

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lowkey something that irritates me w the common belief that "estrogen has less effects than T" or "estrogen is slower than T" is that, like. thats only because doctors don't give trans women the proper dose!

trans men get the correct dose of testosterone to take their levels to similar to a cis guy, but trans women are systematically underdosed because the medical establishment has a vested transmisogynist interest in ensuring we can not pass, and in making TME people believe estrogen is *weaker*

yeah it’s utterly fucked. this is one of the number one reasons why people shouldn’t believe all the fearmongering about DIY imo

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It’s crazy how much patriarchy is winning it’s even got the transgenders on board