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The radical feminist critique of makeup always seems lacking. Its core issue is not that it's "a waste of time and money" or even that it is "appealing to the male gaze," these are merely symptoms. The core problem is that it is a normalized performance, an extreme performance now. Women do not look like that. Whatever form of makeup, whatever item, whatever style, women do not look like that.

And that alone isn't necessarily bad, but when it is such an extreme normalized performance found everywhere especially in media, it becomes a problem. We are presented performance as standard beauty, as basic femininity. With plastic surgery and filter and retouching added on top (and bras and shaving) This leaves women not knowing what other women really look like. It wounds women's self perception. And it makes men stupid and not know what women look like (and therefore leads women to performing it for the male gaze.)

And you know it's gotten bad when you go back and watch older media, and you see women who would be considered ugly now, be considered absolutely beautiful or a sex symbol then. It's a weird trip to see how far beauty culture has gone. What would have been considered CLOWNISH then is standard now.

And what radical feminists miss is that it is not simply the act of putting colors on the face that is an issue, really. I really see no feminist issue with, like, eyeshadow, lipstick, or even eyeliner. The worst of makeup is concealer, contour, overlined lips, and brow filling to be honest. And the fact you have to be able to do ugly ass Kim K drag makeup to be considered a baddie now is so profoundly ridiculous that how can't you be like, no thanks lmao I don't look like that.

And I understand that makeup is a skill that women work hard on and put so much time and effort into to make look good and that is a talented achievement. It is an artistic skill that requires a steady hand and knowledge of colors and face shape. But that really doesn't dismiss the harm beauty culture has done to women. Just like how coding a filter is talented and skillful but we all acknowledge the harm that is doing to women.

And it's not going to be better until we are no longer "shocked" by those pictures and videos of celebrities/porn actresses/influencers being shown with no makeup and everyone is either disgusted or feels better about themselves. Like ideally the reaction would be neutral. We should KNOW what women look like.

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butch tits. you agree. reblog.

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Fighting for my life trying to find a phone or tablet with a headphone jack. Fighting for my life trying to find a laptop with a cd rom. Fighting for my life trying to get more than one usb port or, god forbid, an hdmi. Fighting for my life trying to find any electronics that haven't been streamlined into flimsy chastity belts with the structural integrity of a sopping sheet of paper which require me to buy 3 extra devices (each with their own separate charging requirements) all because some silicon valley jackass somewhere decided holes were a bad thing.

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i highly recommend for women and girls to be intellectually curious and difficult to shame

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I don’t think humans should be living in studio apartments or little one bedroom apartments you can barely turn around in. It’s like how the minimum tank size requirement for a betta fish is technically 2.5 gallons but you’re a monster if you put them in anything less than 5 gallons. I think people deserve at least one extra room in their house.

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When did we as a society get so afraid of offending people with fetishes? Who cares? Why do we act like fetishists are a constitutionally protected class?

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BDS has updated their calls for consumer boycotts to include: Chevron (and Texaco and Caltex by extension): x

They have also officially called for a boycott of McDonald’s: x

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grabbing every 13 yo girl by the arms and yelling "YOU LOOK FINE !!!!!!! DON'T SPEND UR ALLOWANCE ON CONCEALERS GO SEE A BAD MOVIE INSTEAD !!!!!!!!!!! BEAUTY IS POETRY AND SONGS AND LAUGHTER W FRIENDS AND COLORFUL LEAVES !!!!!!!!!! GO READ A MARY OLIVER POEM AND YOU'LL BE OK!!!!!!!!!"

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"lesbian” is beautiful in any language

lesbiana, lezbejka, lesbi, lesbisch, lesbienne, λεσβία, лесбийка, лезбејка, לעסביאַן, 女同性戀, レズビアン, 레즈비언, лесбиянка, مثليه  לסבית, lezibiyani, lesbiaci, เลสเบี้ยน, ແມ່​ຍິງ​ມັກ​ແມ່, समलैंगिक, lésbica, lesbijka, lesbiaidd

sometimes it’s hard to call ourselves a word that’s been stolen from us and turned into something dirty and shameful. but remember that lesbian is a beautiful word, in every language, and we deserve to be able to call ourselves by name proudly.

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Vent of something I've had on my mind lately. Any advice is welcome.

tw: discussion of sex and sexuality, sexual trauma, kink

I don't have a healthy relationship with sex. Maybe I've never had, and maybe no one does.

First things first, I am in my early-mid twenties, and I am a virgin. The only shame I find in being a virgin is the shame that's be instilled in me by society. I am also sexually attracted to women.

I have been sexualized and exposed to sexuality from a very young age. I have unclear memories of CSA, along with some very strange memories with my sister when we were children. I won't go into detail on those.

I went through puberty earlier compared to my peers and developed breasts earlier than my peers. This lead to comments from the boys in my classes and body image issues I still struggle with, including gender dysphoria and body dysmorphia. When I attempted to vent my struggles online to women who I though could help me, I was instead sexualized and predated on by men, the attention of which I welcomed because I was a young, barely-teen girl.

I exposed myself to porn and misogynistic content against women from my early teens onwards. Kink, especially hard kink in fiction/fanfiction like rape, age gaps and pedophilia, and incest became a major part of my life from my teen years onwards. I was fascinated by these topics, and that fascination was encouraged by my peers. I engaged and consumed roleplay, fanfiction, and hentai on a daily basis. The entire basis of my sexuality seemed to be sculpted around sexual violence, and I feel lucky that I was never taken advantage of during this time.

I continued to be sexualized and pursued by men, especially my male friends since I struggled to make female friends (autism + niche interests + mental health issues). I welcomed male attention but I hated waiting for their attraction to become overt. I liked being pursued, hated being caught. Eventually this culminated in me being severely sexually harassed by one male friend in college, white-knighted by another male friend who proceeded to isolate me away from everyone else int he friend group, and then both of them dropped me when they realized I wasn't going to fuck them. I became actively suicidal and agoraphobic during that final semester of college, and fell back into fiction and hard kink to escape.

Now that I've become much more critical of the content I consume, and have begun to explore my sexuality as a lesbian, I find myself so lost. Any depictions of sex, especially sex with men, make me uncomfortable. I refuse to watch live-action porn for good reason, and drawn porn/hentai seems so alien to me now. I can't read erotica, as I find most erotica male-centric, whether that be because it's meant for straight women, or it's lesbian erotica written by men. And I can't fantasize anything because I don't knwo what a healthy sexual relationship looks like, and I'm so dissociated from my own body I can't imagine myself as a sexual being with agency.

I do crave intimacy. I just don't know what it looks like. I can't even imagine what it looks like. I cna't even talk about sex or pleasure without feeling a gnawing sense of guilt and shame. I feel like I went from drowning to dying of thirst (ha).

I don't know where to go from here.

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having a uterus SUCKS man bc all day you'll be feeling the "hey bestie check your pants 😃 check it right now 😃 you might be getting your period 😃 hey bestie i think youre bleeding 😃" and then when you check if you got your period and your body is like WRONG ❌️ its The Slime

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experimenting with lineart

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ahh, to be a women. payed less, and still you have to find money for tampons, makeup, bras,, pink tax, gender-inflated clothing…

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Women who are seeking/in a relationship with a male partner: Here's a fun game to play called Would He Do It For You?

The rules? Simple. Take an aspect of your life or relationship and ask if your male partner would do the same as you're willing to do. Here's some examples.

You decide to try not shaving your legs, but he asks you to continue your usual weekly shaving routine. He likes the "smooth, silky" feeling of your legs, he claims. Okay, fair enough - you like the way smooth legs feel too. So ask him to shave his for you.

No? He won't do it? Ask him why. And when he spouts off some reason, ask why again. Ask why as many times as you need to.

And then ask yourself if this is the ~only~ area that he's not willing to treat you the same way you're willing to treat him.

Here's another example.

He likes when you keep your hair long. Okay, sure, you're willing to let it grow out, even though you kind of like how much easier it is to shower and get ready when your hair is cropped short. Ask him to keep his hair and/or beard long and groomed for you, since you also like the way it looks on him. Wait, he's not really interested in doing that? Why?

You can play this game with more than just looks and aesthetics. Take this scenario, for example.

He asks you to pick out a birthday gift for his mom next week, since you have such a good eye for it. And you think, sure. You like his mom, you know what kind of gifts she would enjoy receiving. So you go shopping on your own and bring back a great gift. Then, your mother's birthday rolls around and you're busy with a project at work, so you ask him if he would shop for her this week and pick out something she'd like. Would he do the same for you? Or would he whine, moan, make excuses, give in, and then call and text you a million times until you wish you had never asked him to help in the first place?

Another.

You're getting married to a man you truly love! He loves you and treats you as an equal in everything. You've found one of the good ones. Then, it comes time to plan signing your marriage certificate, and he makes a little remark when you say you're keeping your name. It turns out, he wants you to take his name - it will be easier, he says. Matching last names on bills, bank accounts, and of course, the kids. Yeah, okay, maybe the idea of matching names sounds nice - so ask him to consider taking your last name instead. Would he do the same for you?

Ask him why.

Ask him why.

Ask him why.