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It has occurred to me that they know she doesn’t want to, they just don’t care. Every day I realize men are worse than I thought. And trust me when I say the bar was already in Hell.

The thing that makes me wildly uncomfortable isn’t only the fact that men continue to pressure women for sex after they’ve already said no, but the fact that they feel it’s okay. Not only that, but if she’s said no multiple times and then after you pester her about it for 15 minutes, and she says yes, it’s not a real yes. Does that not bother them? Does it not cross their minds that the only reason she said yes is because you wouldn’t let her say no? Does it not occur to them that this isn’t sex that is wanted?

I don’t get it. If I were ever in that situation (which I wouldn’t be because I wouldn’t pressure anyone to have sex with me) I would know that they don’t actually want to have sex with me. It’s not a mutual thing. How can men still follow through with it or feel okay bothering their girlfriends or women they know into sex and not have it cross their minds than after 10 no’s, the yes is only because they want you to shut the fuck up.

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Pardon my french but how the fuck did sex positivity go from "sex isn't inherently shameful" to "it's normal and healthy for kids to watch porn and teenage girls should be encouraged to sell nudes on the internet"

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don’t try to date a woman you’re not ready for. if you can’t give her what she deserves, leave her alone

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do people really not see the irony of habitually telling women to choke and die, then turning around and calling them violent just because they want to have a space where they don’t have to interact with the people who are regularly telling them to choke and die?

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“Feminists fuck better.” Please stop. Men still hate you. “Watch me smash patriarchy while reverse cow-girlin’ you.” He still thinks you’re a bitch. “I only fuck feminists.” Thanks for letting me know nothing’s really changed. “Feminists can be sexy and cute!” I don’t care for mollifying feminism; you’re only trying to make it palpable for men. “Some porn stars are empowered by porn!” Individual empowerment doesn’t speak for macro-social repercussions of the very same industry; the majority of actresses in pornography go through shootings with the help of alcohol and drugs in order to numb the physical and mental abuse they suffer. Much of your individualistic understanding of empowerment and agency is very much complicit with patriarchal violence. So. 

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“women can be just as bad as men!!” yeah but in literally every context they are not

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Every woman who is unfeminine still experiences misogyny because misogyny is not hating femininity.

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I periodically feel so fucking sad for women in history. I feel like birth control in countries where it is widely used has made women forget an aspect of male cruelty and sociopathy that is now less apparent (giving the illusion that men have improved when only women’s defences against men have)—the fact that for most of history men could live with a woman for decades and not care that they were slowly killing her with endless back-to-back pregnancies which not only resulted in early death more often than not, but also in a total smothering of the woman’s spirit and talents. I saw a quote by Anne Boyer the other day that called straight relationships for women “not only deadly, but deadening”—as I was reading Jill Lepore’s Book of Ages, a biography of Benjamin Franklin’s sister Jane, who was bright and loved reading and wrote some poetry, but had little time to make anything of her life in between her 12 pregnancies. Benjamin Franklin’s mother had 10 sons and 7 daughters. What could they possibly accomplish when their husbands kept impregnating them year after year after year throughout their entire adult life? 

Charlotte Brontë eschewed marriage longer than most (writing to Ellen Nussey that she wished they could just set up a little cottage and live together) but she finally married at 38, became pregnant, and died before her 39th birthday. If she had married younger would Jane Eyre exist? I was reading that biography of Charity & Sylvia last month and comparing their life together in their little cottage to the life of their married female relatives, which was honestly hell on earth. One of Charity’s sisters had 18 children. Charity’s mother had 10 living ones, and probably some additional stillbirths. She gave birth to her first child age 19, in 1758, then to a pair of twins in 1760, then another child in 1761, another in 1763, another in 1765, another in 1767, another in 1769, another in 1771, another in 1774, another in 1777. Charity was the last child and her mother had been sick with tuberculosis for months when she became pregnant with her, and she died soon after giving birth.

I wish people would call this murder—this woman was murdered by her husband, like countless other women who do not ‘count’ as victims of male violence because straight sex is natural, pregnancy is natural, childbirth is natural. But when after 20 years of nonstop pregnancies this woman had tuberculosis and suffered from severe respiratory distress, severe weight loss, fever and exhaustion, and her husband impregnated her again, her death was expected. He must have known; he just didn’t care. This woman’s sister—Charity’s aunt—remained a spinster and outlived all of her married sisters by several decades, living well into her eighties. (Ironically, male doctors in her century asserted that sex with men was necessary for women’s health. The biographer quoted from a popular home health guide which said that old maids incurred grievous physical harm from a lack of sex with men.) And this aunt had the time and liberty to develop her skill for embroidery to such an extent that two museums still preserve her embroidered bed drapes. She accomplished something, she nurtured her talent and self. Her name was also Charity, and I find it interesting that Charity’s mother named her last daughter, whose pregnancy & birth killed her, after her childless, unmarried sister.

When I see women reblog my post about Sophia Tolstoy’s misery with her 13 children, adding comments like “thank god marriage is no longer synonymous with this”, I wonder if they realise that men have not magically become any kinder or more concerned about their female partner’s health and fulfillment, it’s just that women now have access to better ways of protecting themselves from their male partner’s indifference to their health and fulfillment.

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if a vagina isnt female why do transwomen want them so bad

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Comparing two strictly cosmetic procedures to own the terfs 😎

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this is downright narcissism

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kinda funny how i’m seeing everyone on twitter bringing up the judgements and decisions ruth bader ginsberg made during her judicial career that they disagree with (going as far as to call her a white feminist) and using this as a reason why she shouldn’t be mourned but any person who dared to bring up the fact that kobe bryant was a rapist got hounded off social media after his death 🧐🤔

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LOOK. IT’S EVERY SINGLE STEREOTYPE ABOUT MEN’S RIGHTS ACTIVISTS PUT INTO ONE HANDY-DANDY DEMOGRAPHICS SURVEY SO IT CAN BE STATISTICALLY VALIDATED!! [x]

THANKS R/MENSRIGHTS!!

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the like kneejerk hostility y’all reserve specifically for women associated with second wave feminism, which i would say like arguably was the most productive wave. and the feminism you love the most is literally the least productive and antithetical to the actual core values of feminism. hm

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