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Do you think cisheterophobia is funny?

yes ? of course i do?

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i really don’t think i’ll ever understand why it’s so hard for people to understand why lesbians experience gender the way we do. like we inherently don’t fit into society’s definition of what it means to be a woman granted that we aren’t attracted to men. so that’s why we have a complicated relationship with gender, and that’s why a lot of us use different pronouns and id as nb, like it’s not that hard to understand.

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Reblog if you believe aromantic and asexuality is a real and valid thing to be!!!!

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homophobia has a body count. aphobia has a blocklist.

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fashion is all we have but yall dont act like it. i take one look at some of u and i can tell youre demiromantic and have a dan and phil furry blog. at least dress like you plan on getting some coochie

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full offense but cis people dont get to call us shemales and trannies and femboys and traps and “its”, and campaign to “drop the T” in LGBT and deprive trans people of resources and beat the shit out of us in bathrooms and make fun of us for having “baby faces” and strip us of our rights and murder us for being trans and joke about how we “identify as an apache attack helicopter”, only to turn around and call themselves “allies” when they police OUR identities, just because they call themselves “cis transmeds”! i cant!! im not fucking allowing it!!!

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someone: what harry potter house are you :)

me: i’ve come to really not like harry potter, because of the way the majority of its fans behave as well as the bullshit jk rowling says and does and im not really comfortable identifying w/ the series anymore

also me: but like, hufflepuff

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Women: It makes me uncomfortable and fearful when men yell or throw things over minor inconveniences.

Assholes: women don’t want men to have feelings smh women are so cruel like why do they want us to be robots who are totally incapable of expressing our manliness this is why people shoot up schools you know damn

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Pedophiles are evil. No discourse, no debate, no further questions. You get off to ruining children’s lives. Die. No excuses.

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hello everyone! i don’t really know how to word all of this, but it’s autumn (tenderlesbian) and i’ve decided to make another tumblr account! i deleted tenderlesbian because of the struggles that were going on in my life at the time, and unfortunately it just became another added stressor to everything already going on. but now that i’m in a MUCH better place, i realized how much i’ve missed the community that i built on here. tenderlesbian was 21k strong and it’s still surreal to me, even now, that that many people used to come to me for advice and comfort. i loved (and still love) every single one of you so much.

this account will have the same concept that tenderlesbian had. i’m here to help, to advise, and to support wlw. and, as you may have noticed, i’ve come to terms with the fact that i’m bisexual. i am currently in a relationship with a man. hopefully that will not deter any of you from becoming my friends and family again, but i don’t think it will 😊

thank you so much if you read this and please, if you have any questions about anything, my inbox is already open!

[PAST MUTUALS: MESSAGE ME AND I WILL FOLLOW BACK]

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a moment of silence for straight people 😔

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One thing that a lot of transmasc people struggle with before they fully realize they’re trans is the question of “do I hate being treated like a woman because women are treated like shit, or do I hate being treated like a woman because I’m not a woman?”

and one method (though not entirely foolproof) to figuring that out is asking “would I be upset if another girl was treated like this?”

like, I’d be just as mad if some dude said “you can’t do math because you’re a girl” to a female classmate as I would if he said it to me

however, I never got uncomfortable at waiters calling my female friends “m'am”, I was only uncomfortable when they called *me* that

and obviously everyone’s feelings are different and there’s tons of variables at play, but if you find that there’s a lot of the second scenario going on with you, there’s a good chance you’re not entirely cis

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people who hate kpop purely because of uncritical bias are literally teetering on the edge of just literal racism against asian people, so much so that an asian person will say something on twitter but they will be invalidated bc someone thinks that a SELFIE of themselves as their avi is “a kpop avi” like do y’all, grasp at all whats going on LMAO?

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guys i got free food for being gay tonight and the receipt literally says “fellow lesbians” on it this is gay privilege

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Nonbinary people should not feel pressured to embrace or discard alignment terminology. You deserve the space to define your own identity.

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im losing followers so im jst gonna say this now so y’all can continue to purge yourselves from the common sense arena but if literally any fucking mogai person ever read one book about lgbt history or watched like literally one documentary and paid attention they would realize how deluded they are, and how little their microidentities have to do with the very real struggles faced historically and currently by actual lgbt people.

lgbt people used to be arrested because their mere existence was seen as pornography. and i am not exaggerating this. i just finished reading when we rise by cleve jones, where he provides an account of the 70’s in san francisco where pictures of two men doing anything that could be even considered sexual (including kissing and hugging) would send the person in possession of those photos or in those photos directly to jail on pornography charges. also in san francisco, during the AIDS crisis, at least 1000 people, usually gay people, poor gay people, gay people of color, and trans people, died every year of AIDS for a decade. A DECADE. that’s 10,000 people dying of AIDS in a mere 10 years JUST IN THE CITY OF SAN FRANCISCO. this happened as a direct consequence of a homophobic government that refused to put government funding into AIDS research, a government that refused to allow anyone into their trials for AIDS drugs except young white men, a government that refused to acknowledge gay people except to villainize them.

so when ace and aro people and lithromantics and sapiosexuals try to align themselves with the lgbt community i ask of them would you have been there? would you have risked losing your job to defend gay rights? would you have marched, or organized, or cared at all? or would you maintain the position that dirty allos were getting what they deserved, like every other straight person at that time? i ask of all you mogai bloggers to genuinely ask yourselves if the so-called struggles you face as an ace person have anything at all to do with the lgbt community, when so much of our history surrounds defending our rights to love, to get married, to have sex and not die from it. to not be beat up for holding hands while walking down the street. to practice PDA safely. because so much of the shit that lgbt people fought and died and were killed and attacked for has nothing to do with being ace, in fact has more to do with being treated like human beings despite having sex or being in love in a way that most people considered “deviant” and “strange” and “queer.” ask yourself if that’s you. ask yourself if that’s even fucking close.