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I met a girl when I was fresh out of high school in undergrad who frankly, annoyed me quite a bit, but I also had an inkling to continue to be compassionate to her given a few things about her life/background/family

I ran into her two years ago. Last week, her daughter turned 1. This girl, let’s called her “P”, is a really good example of why I never feel comfortable mocking trad wives

Her perfect trad husband, who was a shining young figure in the local religious community, volunteered in all sorts of groups, well loved in his workplace and everything else, beat her up at 1 month post-partum. I reached out to her after seeing her desperately asking for a stroller on a page, confused and slightly concerned knowing both of them came from wealthy backgrounds.

The reality for lots of tradwives living “perfect lives” is this: P was immediately ostracised. All the wealth of her husband and her family meant absolutely nothing if she wasn’t in favour and doing what she was told. Her child and her well-being didn’t matter. P, at 25 years old, was basically deemed an oopsie, and left on her own to figure out how to pay for herself, a baby, find housing, and every other task you can think of.

Having known many of these women (and supported many of these women), another factor most people don’t consider is this: they are intentionally raised to be helpless. When I immediately offered my support to P, she really needed it. This young woman needed to be guided through how to apply for government assistance, how to weigh up rentals and apply for them, how to apply for jobs, how to sign up for childcare. How to sign up for your own power and internet, and how to connect them.

It wasn’t that she was “stupid”, or incapable, or spoiled. While it looks like they’re being sheltered, in reality, these women are practically being held hostage. Sure, they might be allowed to learn things that are expected of them (see: basic cooking, baking, cleaning, child rearing, women’s bible studies, hosting, and so forth) but they are heavily controlled from family life into marriage life, and they are never given the opportunity or the reality of what many of us would consider basic adult tasks.

She’s doing okay now. Her daughter turned 1, is happy and healthy. They live frugally, but they have a roof over their heads and the essentials. I often babysit for her so she can attend counselling, or go to a woman’s support group. She is painfully aware that she has so much to learn about how to live as an adult.

I don’t envy tradwives, but I don’t find any joy in mocking them either. Even when they live the most picturesque lives, they’re also practically living a real life Jenga game. If (and often, when) it comes tumbling down, they’re screwed too, and they often have 0 skills to help themselves or find community (that again, isn’t carefully curated).

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asking what streaming services something is on is like. such an alien and incomprehensible thing to me. it's on 123movies or watchseries or seriale-online.ro

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Relatable, a bop, and instructive of how to pronounce "boatswain"

Watch the full episode on Dropout

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being on tumblr for a long time but never reading homestuck like

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ira, when i first found you i looked at your pronouns and went "it? what the hell, who would want to be an it?" turns out it me. me it. like, you being comfortably it was the catalyst for my own it-ness. thank you 💗

LOVE that for you!!!! rock on bitch we love to see someone get curious abt kneejerk discomfort and come out on the other side having learned something new 💛

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Stuffed Animal dashboard simulator

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pray for me human put me in the wash on fucking hot water im never gonna be the same colors

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got left outside in the backyard but this is kinda nice actually im okay with this (:

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the hawks

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this is bullshit ive been bragging to everyone in the toy chest because my tag says i was made with love but i got torn today and guess what. its just stuffing inside

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lol imagine having stuff inside you lmao

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i literally see you outside the window looking smug. log off

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FELL OFF THE BED HELP HELP HELP HELP

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WHY ARE YOU POSTING ON PLUSHBLR INSTEAD OF KEEPING WATCH FOR MONSTERS THATS YOUR HUMANS ROOM

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lets not spread body dysmorphia on plushblr guys

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op casually ignoring stuffed animals with different colored fabric for eyes

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some of us dont even have eyes!

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i know animals are allowed to see normal plushies moving and talking but whats the rule for dog toys.

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what breed of dog op

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poodle? does it matter?

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no i just wanted to remind you your lifespan can be measured in days

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man come on

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You can replace [ACTIVITY YOU ENJOY] with [SCROLLING] but watch out. This sucks bad 👍

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If you missed the news today: He/Hymn pronouns Dave canon & not just a pun :)

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alright, phil trash #1

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>doing a thing >neurotypical person stops me and tells me the "right" way to do it >ask if it's actually better or just societal convention >they don't get it >show a chart explaining what is actually better and what is just societal convention >"haha it's the right way to do it" >do it their way >it's societal convention

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it's okay to take a break

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A Swedish woman hitting a neo-Nazi protester with her handbag. The woman was reportedly a concentration camp survivor. [1985]

Volunteers learn how to fight fires at Pearl Harbor [c. 1941 - 1945]

Maud Wagner, the first well-known female tattoo artist in the U.S. [1907]

A 106-year old Armenian woman protecting her home with an AK-47. [1990]

Komako Kimura, a prominent Japanese suffragist at a march in New York. [October 23, 1917]

Margaret Hamilton, lead software engineer of the Apollo Project, standing next to the code she wrote by hand that was used to take humanity to the moon. [1969]

Erika, a 15-year-old Hungarian fighter who fought for freedom against the Soviet Union. [October 1956]

Sarla Thakral, 21 years old, the first Indian woman to earn a pilot license. [1936]

Voting activist Annie Lumpkins at the Little Rock city jail. [1961]   (freakin’ immaculate)

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reading progressive sex ed caricatures with accurate and detailed and realistic diagrams of sexual organs + shows their variation, but all i can think about is how there is no discussion of what srs is besides the fact that it exists