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Types 5, 2 and 9

Hello, it's me, your favourite mess. So I'm a type 5 on the enneagram and it took me forever to figure that out. But the weird part about that is that I thought I was type 2. So here's my little rant about the similarities between types 2 & 5 and how type 9 comes into the mix.

Type 5s (especially social 5s) have a need to be needed, similarly to type 2s. A type 2 wants to be needed because it proves that they have value and are loved. A type 2 wants themself to be needed, not their abilities.

On the other hand, type 5s want their abilities to be needed, usually their knowledge. When people want their knowledge, it is solid evidence that they have knowledge in the first place. This is important because they tie their knowledge to their self-worth.

An easy way to tell the difference between these two needs is how they feel about being used. Type 2s hate being used because it proves to them that they aren't valuable, only their actions and that nobody really cares about them. 2s like to be in control. They don't want to be used, they want others to need them.

5s are very different in this aspect. The concept of being used tells them that they have enough value to be used in the first place. Now a healthy 5 obviously doesn't want to be used, they want to be useful, but an unhealthy 5 would gladly accept being used.

in all honesty im kinda sick of writing this so ill continue it if I get motivation or if people read this

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love how mbti/16 personalities is all "omg ur amazing" while the enneagram is "haha lmao ur traumatized"