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“Humans are inherently selfish--" Then why do so many cultures value hospitality, to the point of dictating it in their religions? Why is it so common for hosts to offer their visitors their best food, and as much of it as they can? At some point, multiple cultures decided that they knew what it felt like to be alone and vulnerable, and promised each other to never let those who stay with them feel that way. That doesn't sound very "inherently selfish" to me.

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My girlfriend is a scientist (not even like a microbiologist or w/e) and she wants me to stop drinking raw milk

my girlfriend is an engineer (not even a mechanic or w/e) and she wants me to stop driving through intersections with my eyes closed screaming "WEEEEE I'M GONNA LIVE FOREVER"

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spin this wheel of fanfic tags. this will be the theme of your day tomorrow.

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"porn brain" is a far right conspiracy theory, misogyny in porn is a result of structural societal misogyny and not the cause of it, the way to help sex workers is decriminalization and worker's rights, banning sexual expression is fascist. i will not be taking questions at the time.

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Tragic. Tumblr user made a good point but was unnecessarily condescending about it. Will not be reblogging

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Thought I was getting negative feedback on my art from someone who said they hated one of my paintings but turns out they just hated how uncomfortable it made them feel when that is exactly how it was supposed to make them feel so really it's a compliment

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last time my mom visited I was talking to her about parenting and how I appreciated a lot of the choices she and my father had made about raising me and my brother and she agreed that just listening to the child and taking them seriously was the One Weird Trick to cutting out like 60% of conflicts between parents and children. and she said one time I was about three or four years old and we were all going to the grocery store, and at the threshold of the store I just had a meltdown. i was overwhelmed, I was crying, I was just at the end of my rope like kids get sometimes. and instead of dragging me through the store my mom and dad stopped what we were doing and just asked me what the problem was. and I was able to say I didn't want to be there, I couldn't do it, I wanted to go home. and she says she and my father just looked at each other and back at me and said "okay" and we all went home that day instead of forcing the grocery store trip. and I had so few public meltdowns as a kid despite being pretty autistic because, I think, I knew that if I ever really needed to leave, my parents would understand and back me up. and that was the case throughout my childhood. which paradoxically (one might think) resulted in me having fewer incidents of being overwhelmed in the first place, which then made me better able to handle increasing amounts of stress and so on. it also taught me that expressing feelings and communicating them to my caretakers wasn't going to be punished or ignored or called weird, so unlike many other autistic kids who get judged or rebuked for expressing sensitivity or opposition, I didn't need to constantly blockade everyone and internalize everything all the time.

it's a pretty simple concept whether your kids are autistic or not, but most parents don't seem to get it. their parents taught them to just force everything and let the child deal with it alone so they just repeat the cycle even though they know how it feels.

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Is anyone else just... exhausted?

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Tragic news! The big bad has put up a "DNI if you're an adventuring party or on a quest to stop evil", so it looks like there's nothing the PCs can do about their scheme :(

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Bit of a small nitpick but please stop saying BIPOC when you mean Black. People of colour are not interchangeable with each other; the Black experience is different than the Indigenous experience, is different than the Latine experience, is different than the Pacific Islander experience, etc. Swapping out Black for BIPOC suggests a watering down of the experiences of people of colour, suggesting that people of colour are all the same as each other and all different from white people. It takes away the focus on Black people on a month meant for them

February is Black history month. Not BIPOC history month. Black history month

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the skill of going "jesus i just dont fucking care" and scrolling on

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