emilysthoughtsonthings

[emilysthoughtsonthings]

Do not have only one friend-- EVER

Howdy folks, 

Have you ever struggled with a friendship that seems incredibly... odd? Well personally, that seems to be the only type of friendship I can have. I have had a series of either very controlling, or very manipulative friendships. I’ve noticed that within these relationships you end up only speaking to them. You ignore the rest of your friends and family and become utterly consumed by your friendship.  When your friendship turns toxic, you barely notice. You go on, business as usual even though you’re being taken advantage of. There will be instances where you will be terrified, confused, and sad. You’ll think the dysfunction in the relationship is your fault and you’ll do anything to try and fix it. News Flash: you won’t be able to fix it. Because it’s not your fault. You’re not the reason the relationship isn't working. 

Friends are hard--really freaking hard. But you’ll figure it out and you’ll be lonely.  It’ll work out though because you’ll be able to find people that won’t gaslight you into thinking you're the problem... You just have to get there. 

All the best,

Emily