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one thing i dont get is people who clearly loathe or at the very least have very little respect for transmascs but continue to date and fuck them for some reason. its like they dont understand that having sex with/dating someone you barely consider a person will harm that person

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"im a professional funny bitch"

>looks inside

>simply an annoying person

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back at it again with the do as i say not as i do shit lmao

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dont interact with my blog please i dont want people reading the hurtful things i have said in anger on here

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"you know no one is really out here forcefemming cis men right that would be illegal" yeah i dont think a single person is under the impression that you were. the issue is that these pseudoforcefem people on this website are annoying, act like forcefemming is praxis, and regularly reveal that they think its fine/funny to threaten trans men with forcefemming which is obviously transphobic and if you need me to explain why you are beyond help, and then they dont even have the decency to do hot forcefem content. tons of these pseudoforcefem people also act like forcemasc is immoral despite being in the same camp of people who argue that thinking kinks are immoral makes you hitler jr when its something they like. like what a willfully misleading and inaccurate framing of peoples complaints about the behavior of people obsessed with pseudoforcefem lol

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guy whose ringtone is "alice's restaurant massacree" by arlo guthrie and won't pick up the phone until the entire song has played

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its hard for me to be offended by ba*dd*ls, partially probably because i am not the kind of person they typically go after (theyd probably just pity me for being ~self-loathing~ as i do not consider myself to be a woman lol) but also because the things they say are so absurd that its impossible to take seriously. like oh i see. you reaaaalllllllly hate yourself huh

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like this is genuinely a way terfs dismiss the murder rate and transmisogyny existing in reality, by saying its just typical male-on-male violence that isn't a real social issue (1- trans women are not male so you are wrong and also these murders are directly linked to trans womens trans womanness 2- male-on-male violence is also an important social issue imo but whatever)

you know, i think peoples hearts can start in the right place with their defense of transmascs, but if youre defending transmascs so hard that you start denying that the murder rate transfems experience is based in transmisogyny and just another expression of male on male violence is pretty fucking gross actually, especially if you consider the fact that rhe transfem murder rate is largely predicated on race and survival full contact street sex work. it feels like some weird blue lives matter dismissal of intraracial violence and crime as an unimportant social issue and only the problem and responsibility of black people to resolve. feels pretty gross to me tbh

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you know, i think peoples hearts can start in the right place with their defense of transmascs, but if youre defending transmascs so hard that you start denying that the murder rate transfems experience is based in transmisogyny and just another expression of male on male violence is pretty fucking gross actually, especially if you consider the fact that rhe transfem murder rate is largely predicated on race and survival full contact street sex work. it feels like some weird blue lives matter dismissal of intraracial violence and crime as an unimportant social issue and only the problem and responsibility of black people to resolve. feels pretty gross to me tbh

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nosferatu? non. VOSferatu. c'est pas mon problème

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my friend was sanding something and the thought of someone sanding my knuckles popped into my head and unfortunately it made me very horny

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summa cum laude, othersa cum quiete

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i mean there are at least some transandrophobia guys who do at least imply (and sometimes outright state!) that they think most cis men dont have access to male privilege. and i think what theyre sort of trying to get at a bastardized sense of working class solidarity that they ascribe to manhood for reasons that are beyond me but what can you do

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Them: stop posting butch and femme Anthony Bourdain

Me:

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centering experience with suffering from misogyny as the main reason why one can be said to be a "real" woman is very obviously a rake for trans women and transfems to step on, especially in discussions of transandrophobia, the handle hitting them in the face being: like well yeah duh if you use that as your main point of contention as to why you need the support of the trans community or feminists or whatever else thing then trans men and transmascs naturally would have an inroad there too. i kind of dont really understand why this is not completely obvious to a lot of transfems and trans women that this a really stupid road to go down with people who were forced to be women for some amount of their life (possibly even still!) and thus were subjected to misogyny and were and are treated "like women" far moreso than they are treated like men (unless they pass. not every trans man is kratos you know lol but im not gonna deny those dudes exist-- doesnt change the fact that they were not always kratos)

this is also very stupid because it doesnt account for the closeted transfems and trans women who are not, by and large, treated "like women." they may indeed be treated poorly by men and boys around them, but that treatment is because a "man" being feminine is considered to be disgusting, not that everyone around them is like "hmm i sense this person is secretly a girl" do you think boys beat the shit out of girls for being feminine and soft? no. they like when women are that way. they beat the shit out of girls who are masculine and tough, in hopes that they can put them in their place. so no, i dont think being treated like shit by the boys around you actually counts as being "treated like a girl" lol.

ultimately the point of all this is to say that whether one is or isnt "treated like a girl/woman" is basically immaterial to whether they are a "real" woman. their self-identification is where the justifications for gender should start and end!

and yes, trans women do often suffer from misogyny and transmisogyny and its fine to talk about those things, and i think its one thing to have a strange relationship with the expectations that have been placed upon you, especially if you were capable of passing even without trying to pass or even being aware that you are the gender you pass as for whatever reason (which happens!! because gender is quite stupid) and i know that can influence peoples perception of themselves and their gender in a big way and thats valid on an individual level! but also its just like if that all were taken away, if you were to describe someone who was the platonic ideal of a cis man, who never suffered from these things, who fit in on every level throughout their life and it wasn't hard or painful for them, and after they came out as a trans woman they were still perceived as that cis man for whatever reason-- she would still be a woman! and these people do exist, people who were basically fine with being a gender until they weren't, and you can argue that thats just internalized transmisogyny or whatever else, but it doesnt change the fact that they cant access that justification for their womanhood.

i dont know. its frustrating because it seems very obvious that validating trans womens gender through their presumed collective suffering from misogyny AND justifying their need for community on that basis 1) invites people who were afab to discuss their own experiences with misogyny 2) opens the door to exclude vast swathes of trans women?