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but honestly i owe a lot of this to knowing so many trans women and listening to them talk about their experiences and how they navigate the world. it’s not the same obviously but there’s definitely a lot of overlap in the being third-gendered experience. bc i do get frequently treated as something “other” and an “inferior woman” because i perform womanhood in a way people don’t expect. we’re all in this together. i love women

gender thoughts I guess. im definitely comfortable in camp woman at this point. which I guess makes me technically a ���detransitioner” (even though I have plans on going back on HRT for cosmetic reasons. trying to get hairier) but the way I look back on my time as a man is that I fully was living as a man. bc I just was one. i have no discomfort about it and it taught me a lot about myself. but im definitely not “cis” bc my gender is just nebulous and unlabeled. im just a butch on hormones. but I think a lot of that was running from womanhood in a weird way. now i have my own definition that im comfortable with, which is completely unaligned with heteropatriarchy’s definition. does this make sense. i unlocked woman the sequel (butch dlc)

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gender thoughts I guess. im definitely comfortable in camp woman at this point. which I guess makes me technically a “detransitioner” (even though I have plans on going back on HRT for cosmetic reasons. trying to get hairier) but the way I look back on my time as a man is that I fully was living as a man. bc I just was one. i have no discomfort about it and it taught me a lot about myself. but im definitely not “cis” bc my gender is just nebulous and unlabeled. im just a butch on hormones. but I think a lot of that was running from womanhood in a weird way. now i have my own definition that im comfortable with, which is completely unaligned with heteropatriarchy’s definition. does this make sense. i unlocked woman the sequel (butch dlc)

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ive been living under the assumption that ive been doing everything by myself *for* myself. nope. in a way i am still seeking my parents approval. i tell them about my life when i dont have to. i tell them when i accomplish something. when i work hard. both to rub it in their faces and go, "see? see what i've been capable of this whole time?" but also "please be proud of me." and the way i go about it is entirely self-destructive. i overwork myself for approval. i'm constantly proving myself. (to who? idk!) i feel the pressure that if i dont perform at my 200% then people will think im worthless. it sucks. i have problems. i wish i could go to therapy

ok wanting to get good boy points at work might be a sign that im sick in the head

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ok wanting to get good boy points at work might be a sign that im sick in the head

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it was so ass at work today but i can physically feel my friendship points going up with my coworkers and my respect points going up with my bosses. i am getting Good at Job. i got several variations of "You're Good At Job" today from everyone. i did not know i cared so much about being Good At My Job, and also that i genuinely do get a lot out of hard physical (but fun) labor. i'm buff now. it's insane

like yeah i did freak out a little because i had been nonstop fastwalking and carrying heavy shit for 2 hours and 30 mins straight. but damn do i feel accomplished that i was able to survive the struggle. and i get a day off tomorrow anyways so i get time to rest

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Icor, Santa Cruz de Tenerife, Canary Islands.

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this reminded me of your jekyll and hyde art hai :3 just wanted to show

do you see my vision? reminded me of the way you do colors and stuff

oh this fucking rules. THIS IS SUCH AN HONOR. I SEE THE VISION

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okay coming back because nuance not every ed is rooted in appearance but when it is it’s genuinely rooted in bigotry. if you hate fat people so much youre willing to starve yourself you genuinely need to fix your heart or die. or if youre so obsessed with being “pretty” because you loathe people that dont fit an unobtainable and narrow standard you need to fix that. i have sympathy for ed sufferers but not when you refuse to unlearn your bigotry because that’s literally just what it is

skinny people and people who are like “youre just mad because im prettier than you” in response to being fatphobic how does it feel to hate yourself more than a fat hairy butch. if youre going around telling random users that youre better than them in response to being a dick you clearly hate yourself way more than i do and ive been called hideous by my own mother my whole life

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ive never been conventionally attractive bc i don’t shave i buzz my head and fat is my healthy weight. and i love my body bc it’s strong and i try my best to take care of it. meanwhile people who see posts addressing fatphobia and make it about how skinny they are eat dust for breakfast. and i say this because i WAS anorexic and realized how damaging that was for me. so before anyone’s like omg youre bullying people with eating disorders motherfucker i HAD an eating disorder and i simply got better. because i stopped hating myself. skill issue

skinny people and people who are like “youre just mad because im prettier than you” in response to being fatphobic how does it feel to hate yourself more than a fat hairy butch. if youre going around telling random users that youre better than them in response to being a dick you clearly hate yourself way more than i do and ive been called hideous by my own mother my whole life

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skinny people and people who are like “youre just mad because im prettier than you” in response to being fatphobic how does it feel to hate yourself more than a fat hairy butch. if youre going around telling random users that youre better than them in response to being a dick you clearly hate yourself way more than i do and ive been called hideous by my own mother my whole life

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honestly you all are so annoying because motherhood IS interesting but fandom people are simultaneously obsessed with deciding that every woman has motherly qualities and completely disinterested in actually exploring motherhood as a role that informs a character. I do think exploring a character being a mother can be wildly interesting if they are canonically one, but because of misogyny, people just view motherhood as a totally unremarkable naturalized state that all women must inhabit!

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had coffee with my neighbor this morning ^_^ beautiful world

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the fact that so many ppl view slurs and oppression as cool exclusive clubs to claim access to, tells me a lot of ppl have never genuinely experienced violence before.

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same with queer sometimes like. if someone describes me as "queer" im like ok. bc as an umbrella term its fine. but if someone says "a queer" then theyre also getting their nose broken

the r slur discourse is so funny (and infuriating) because lmao if somebody called me that to my face irl and then went "but i can reclaim" i'm still breaking their nose. idc if you think you can reclaim because you have an adhd diagnosis. the internet gives you safety. but trust me you would not get away with that shit if youre up against my steel toed boots

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the r slur discourse is so funny (and infuriating) because lmao if somebody called me that to my face irl and then went "but i can reclaim" i'm still breaking their nose. idc if you think you can reclaim because you have an adhd diagnosis. the internet gives you safety. but trust me you would not get away with that shit if youre up against my steel toed boots

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Are you an advocate for censorship?

is this because i said not to use the r slur