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🦖🌿 happy birthday kinich 🫶

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Raiden my beloved 💜

I'm trying to get the hang of digital art and rendering, I'm mostly used to painting so I kinda get it? That and I really wanna get better or venture out to backgrounds there just really intimidating lol

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people who think Nahida has “mom energy” for being nice vs people who think Furina is a “literal teenager” for being emotional: FIGHT !

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So, your deity doesn't match mythology energies huh?

And you've ruled out trickster gods, simple mistaken identity, misinterpretation of texts and you've received so many signs that makes you pretty certain that it's say, Ares but his vibes are more chill and besides you don't seem to match the typical Ares follower vibes?

You're sure it's Zeus but you're getting his more subdued personality?

Well, do I have news for you!

Actual realisation I had recently.

My Ares has been more like a mentor because he's Mars with me.

My Aphrodite has been less erotic because she's Venus with me.

My Zeus is mellow, calmer and less authoritarian because he's Jupiter with me.

Meanwhile Apollo is a combination of his Hellenic and Roman aspects

Then there's Hermes Mercurius aka mf pivots harder than my moonswings

I suspect this is because of my emotional, spiritual, career, and even financial growth (or their Roman aspects triggered this growth, it's a bit chicken vs. egg) but it appears I need to sit down and recalibrate my Polytheistic practice.

I will also start a "compare the pair" Hellenic vs. Roman counterparts deity series when I'm less spoon- deficient.

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The little opening animation for the sabzeruz event graphic is so cute. She’s literally w little tree branch if you care

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People on this site cannot or intentionally refuse to distinguish between systemic oppression and lateral mistreatment and it's a massive problem.

Me talking about how other queer people target me for having masculine traits isn't me saying that cisallohet perisex men are oppressed for being men and feminism sucks and lesbians are evil.

Me pointing out how late diagnosed autistic people treat me like an other for getting a diagnosis early isn't me saying late diagnosed people are privileged and have power over me.

Me saying that aroaces have mistreated me and pushed me out of aspec spaces as an alloaro isn't me saying that aroaces are my oppressors and they don't belong in aro spaces.

"Can the people who are in the same community as me but have different experiences please stop treating me like shit" isn't me saying that I'm the most oppressed person on the planet and no one but me suffers. I'm just asking you to stop treating me like shit. That shouldn't be a controversial statement.

Not everything is about privilege and oppression, sometimes people are just dicks and maybe it's you.

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She is 2 sauce long

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🌂﹕─ 𓈒 ♡̷̷̷ ◟oh no, they made her emo pink

cr to 🎀 🎀

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Excellent tutorial to drawing cubby body types

“Some chubby guide for y’all!”

Source: paggiart on twitter

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Saints aren't nice - Paraskeva Pyatnitsa

Nearly all cultures were affected by their religion. Often by just knowing the religion of the country, you can guess some things that are valued in this society. And it isn't different in Russia. Orthodox Christianity made suffering one of the cornerstones of my culture. I would say that enduring hardships could be a national sport...

Anyway, Orthodox Christianity is rich in a lot of weird saints. Most of them are mixed with old, pagan, beliefs. And today's "guest" isn't an exception. Paraskeva Pyatnitsa can be considered part of the Slavic folklore, combining elements of Christian sainthood with remnants of pagan beliefs. Revered among Orthodox Slavs, she is based on both Saints Paraskeva of Iconium and Paraskeva of Serbia. However, in folk traditions, her role goes beyond Christianity, reflecting aspects of the pagan goddess Mokosh, who was linked to women’s work, fertility, and protection of the household.

Paraskeva became the personification of Friday, a day considered sacred and often tied to prohibitions around spinning, washing, and other household tasks. Those who disrespected these rules were believed to face her wrath, with punishments including illness, blindness, and flaying.

Russians prayed to Paraskeva Pyatnitsa for protection from the death of livestock, especially cows. The saint was also considered a healer of human ailments, especially the devil‘s obsession, fever, toothache, headache, and other diseases. In honor of Saint Paraskeva, there were special prayers worn around the neck and considered to be a protection against various diseases. Flowers, herbs, and other attachments to the image of Paraskeva-Patnitsa were also considered to be one of the most effective medical remedies and therefore were preserved from year to year as an important healing aid. In case of any illness, peasants boiled them in water and used this decoction to drink for various diseases.

In addition to her religious significance, Paraskeva’s folk image is both protective and fearsome. While traditional icons depict her as an ascetic figure in a red cloak, folk stories paint a wilder picture - showing her as a tall woman with loose hair and large breasts, a blend of both nurturing and punishing forces. In some regions, rituals like vodit' (lead) Pyatnitsu involved leading a woman dressed as the saint around the village, seeking her blessing for the harvest or livestock.

This blending of Christian and pagan elements made Paraskeva an important figure in both religious and rural life. Her feast days, especially October 14 (October 27, New Style), were celebrated with church services and the observance of traditional bans on work, particularly among women. In some regions, Paraskeva was also connected to the "12 Fridays" legend, marking sacred Fridays throughout the year for fasting and reflection. Some authors consider the echo of the Slavic pre-Christian beliefs some authors consider ‘idol’ sculptural images of saints preserved in some places even in the XIX - early XX centuries. The most frequent was the sculpture of Paraskeva Pyatnitsa. In Russia, her wooden sculptures were widespread - ‘wooden painted statue of Friday, sometimes in the form of a woman in oriental garb, and sometimes in the form of a simple woman in a ponyova and lapti’. The statue of Paraskeva ‘was placed in churches in special boxes and people prayed before this idol’.

Ultimately, this is one of the saints who is more like a minor pagan deity - she will punish you if you don't follow her rules, but she also can protect you from illness.

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"Accommodations give disabled people an advantage over non-disabled peers"

TW: mentions of ableism, mistreatment of disabled children, and it's effects, mentions of fatphobia

For context, my sisters and I all grew up in the late 90s/early 00s with different disabilities (overlap was acknowledged later in life). My eldest sister has autism with some support needs without intellectual disability, my older sister has dysgraphia, and I have asthma. Looking back, none of us were fully accommodated.

At home, when my sister would have meltdowns due to sensory overload or changes in environment, and my mom consistently chose to scream at her for "misbehaving"/"being difficult". In order to stop the chaos, I was often left to comfort my sister. Often, I would simply offer her ice-cold water and tissues, and things would calm down.

In middle school, I remember she went to an alternative school in order to accommodate her better. While it was very valuable to have her learn the bus system and the self-reliance of getting to school, this program taught 4th grade math to her in 8th grade. She struggled with getting back on track with math for years. Eventually, she left due to difficulties with other students and the lack of consequences for various unacceptable behaviors.

In high school, she was supposed to pass a language course in order to graduate. She took Spanish, since my mom was offering to help with her knowledge of Spanish. However, this didn't help, even with my mom's college-level knowledge of Spanish. Notably, she didn't speak English in full sentences until she was seven years old. ASL was also not an option, but fortunately they waived the language requirement. Graduation was a close call, for other reasons, as well.

My older sister's experience is what is prompting this post. She has struggled with dysgraphia throughout her school years, and it was never accommodated. While she was a prodigy with immense knowledge of history, it would never come across in her writing. She was diagnosed around 10th grade, which she remained in denial about. However, my mom talked to the school regarding accommodations, and they had nothing to offer. Throughout her education, she would fail every writing assignment or writing-based class she was given. This was especially frustrating when classes that didn't revolve around writing paragraphs made her do it, anyways. She only passed 10th grade Physical Science since my mom knew the teacher, and asked that he not account for the lack of writing assignments and explained her situation. What prompted this post was actually my dad finding her SAT results, and me discovering that she had all zeros for her essay score, despite getting a 1170 for the multiple choice portion. (Quick aside: standardized testing should NOT be considered indicative of any student's performance if they cannot properly accommodate disabled students.) She did graduate, but my family wasn't sure the school would let her.

In my case, throughout elementary, middle, and high school, gym class felt like I was constantly fighting for my life. While I was allowed to have my inhaler on me starting in 6th grade or so, I was still expected to do the exercises everyone else had to do. I was not allowed to take breaks, technically, but I did. This was especially noticeable when we would run laps around the gym. Every time I did so, I was harassed by the PE instructor until I kept running. Games weren't much better, either. I was always picked last (which makes sense), but not only that, I was purposefully targeted during games. I was openly mocked as I did my best to participate.

In 9th grade, things hit a wall. When swimming was introduced to the class, I outright refused. I kept "forgetting to bring my swimsuit", when that stopped working I "had to go to the health clinic", and when that stopped working, I got a note from the health clinic excusing me from the swimming portion of gym class.

The PE teacher did not go down without a fight, nor did my parents. I was told that I could have to do it again when we moved schools the next year (that school ended up not having a swimming pool), that I wouldn't graduate without this credit, that I was making the situation worse by singling myself out in this way, and that I would get an F in gym anyways. They eventually acknowledged my excuse, but made me sit by the pool as everyone swam so I could take notes on the same article about what to do in case of a drowning every week.

Peers would acknowledge me from the pool, friends would say hi and guys would mock me. Girls I didn't know would talk about how strange my lack of participation was. Meanwhile at this time, my dad was making me log my calories on MyFitnessPal and I was very aware of how "different" my body was from the other kids. I would have panic attacks just thinking about going into the pool. While it was hard, I don't regret fighting for what I needed. Also of note: it was a chlorine pool, and chlorine heavily affects my asthma. Sometimes my lungs would hurt just being in the pool room. This wasn't really acknowledged, I would wheeze while walking up the stairs, and it often hurt to sing in choir after pool days.

I also struggled with ADHD throughout K-12, but I wasn't diagnosed until after I graduated high school. However, as an AFAB person, I constantly had teachers mention symptoms of ADHD in my comments. It started with not turning in work and doodling/chatting in classes I didn't care about, but it eventually spread to other classes that interested me. I also struggled with severe compartmentalization, which I didn't realize until after high school. I couldn't remember what my homework was when I was at home. If I remembered what the assignment was, I couldn't remember the information needed to complete it! This meant I did any homework I did complete while at school.

Fortunately, graduating high school didn't turn out to be a problem for me. After a rough freshman year, I turned things around. I became a member of NHS my senior year and finished out pretty strong. That was, until COVID. I had my therapist send a note saying I was not in a place to do schoolwork, and to simply keep my grades from pre-lockdown. I didn't get AP credit for AP Biology, but I learned plenty. I also withdrew from my dual-enrolled Calculus 2 course. Looking back, with my compartmentalization issue, there was no way online school would work for me.

So yeah, actually being disabled in school isn't a walk in the park! Imagine that! For anyone wondering, we're all doing fairly well now. My eldest sister works janitorial in a hospital setting and enjoys it, since she finds the surgical field fascinating and doesn't mind all the blood and such. She did eventually catch up in math in community college, but she wasn't able to finish the degree (due to her advisor). My older sister works retail and is a union steward. A lot of what she does is mainly talking and some basic math. Fortunately, if she needs to write, she can just use a computer, since the physical act of writing is what is a lot of what's hard for her. Spellcheck is also helpful. I spent my summer doing more intensive mental health care, and now I'm more directed than I have been for years. I'm currently waiting on hearing back about a bank teller job, and I'm looking forward to that!

If anyone is currently struggling with accessibility in education, just know what you are asking for is reasonable. All you are asking for is equal opportunity education, and you should not be denied that.

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fluffies

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well, i like a lot of things i consider problematic myself

but i also have very high standards, so finding perfect unproblematic media seems just impossible.

so instead of dropping the thing and shaming myself, i ask two questions: 1) what do i actually like about it and 2) if it's really problematic, what can i learn from it?

First answer mostly is: i like things despite their negative effects, not because of them. I like books written by bigoted authors not for the bigotry, but for rich worlds, compelling characters, interesting stories.

Secong answer: i can learn a lot. I can see how bigotry narrows the worldview of authors, i can see their inside thoughts and not fall for the propaganda later. I can learn how not to be like them from their mistakes.

Of course it is sad and frustrating to realize that your favorite thing is problematic, but it is necessary. Not to find Perfect Things To Love, but to see and identify problems. To find new things, better and healthier.

And the last bit about mental health: i'm experiencing something similar, and afaik it's called "frustration tolerance". Ability to be sad and be normal about it. For me it manifests mostly when my hyperfixations/special interests are criticized, but it's is actually not about my interests, it's a big underlying problem of emotinal regulation skills. And sometimes boundaries also. So i'd suggest a research about frustration and how to withstand it, and talk to therapist about that.

Wishing you a very good luck with that.

I need autistic advice

Hi I'm autistic and this website seems to be where a lot of autistic people hang out.

Have you ever had a thing occur where someone makes a point about a thing you like and why it's problematic and then it just bothers you for the rest of the day? Because what if they're right? What if that thing really is problematic? What if you actually agree with them a little?

and what if you want to keep liking that thing?

What if you never noticed any of those problems when you were watching it?

I know people are allowed to have opinions, but that doesn't explain why I become so miserable every time this happens! I don't want to be miserable! I want to read these takes and not let them affect my mental health!

So if any of you guys have been through a similar experience, I'd love some advice.

Thank you

P.S. Yeah, I know this is probably something I should bring up in therapy but therapy is expensive and I like the anonymity of the internet.

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does he have audhd and depression?

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interesting how not only last part of the quest didn't make shit any more clear, but also the whole 5.0 came out and ended and i still for the fuck of me cannot understand who Alice-Barbe-Anya are supposed to represent.

Waiting for 5.1, but honestly i don't hope to get any valid answers until 5.3.

if i got at least anything correct, Simulanka and its Three Goddesses are parallels to Teyvat and its Three Moons and/or Four Shades.

By now, before the fourth part came out, my suggestions are:

1) Alice - Shade of Life, Barbelot - Shade of Time, Andersdottir - Shade of Death

2) Alice - Life, Barbelot - Time, Andersdottir - Space

3) Alice - Life & Space, Barbelot - Time & Death, Andersdottir - The Primordial One

bonus point: Durin - Nibelung. Because something about Nibelung actually being created by Primordial or one of their Shades makes me uncomfortable and excited at the same time.

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saw someone say "an 11-year-old isn't even supposed to know what sex is and if you do something horrible must be happening to you and you need to get out of there" like can we be for real for a moment. have some people honest to god never heard 11-year-olds making sex jokes in their life

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want to be clear that if i ever talk about a headcanon and then later discuss a headcanon that is directly contradictory to the first one, that’s because headcanons exist in a quantum state where they are all simultaneously true and not true up until the point where i discuss it in detail, in which case that is the one that is true in that instance. schroedinger’s headcanons