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The Strap On

One of the biggest kinks in a FLR is the strap on. There are many reasons why they’re so common and popular. They benefit both partners equally in different ways making it the perfect sex toy to have in your kinky collection.  However it goes beyond simply being a sex toy, as a strap on can have huge psychological effects as well as physical.  It can really enhance the D/s dynamic because its the perfect tool for role reversal. 

When a strap on is combined with chastity, some real magic can happen between partners.  The longer he is chaste, the more likely he is to crave some sort of anal play, as his prostate gets bigger and more sensitive, craving any kind of stimulation. Even if he doesn’t crave anal play, it is actually healthy for him to have the prostate stimulated, during long lock ups, so it’s for his own good anyway!  This is why a strap on can be so much fun.  He either craves it, or it is humiliating to him, or both!  

This is perfect for a domme as well, as she gets to discover the power of having a penis between her legs, and his moans of pleasure or discomfort, as she begins to thrust into him. This alone, can be an extremely high level of power exchange and very erotic for her. She can take him with her strap on until he is whimpering horny and deep in sub space. There are no concerns about him cumming from the strap on, because this generally requires a lot of time and concentrated effort and technique to achieve. It is possible, if that is what she wants, but she has full control over that. Leaving him horny, makes for an eager tongue after she is finished taking him with the strap on. A tongue in which, she is equally eager for!

The strap on is much more fun than simply just bending him over, there are many ways in which a strap on can be used, which can make it a symbol of her dominance over him.  Often, a strap on is bigger than his penis, and she can tease him about that, saying her cock is bigger than his, while taking him with it.  Or for even more fun, she could allow him to wear it over his cage, and allow him to have intercourse with her using it. Since its bigger than his own penis, she can tease and say how much better it feels.

She could even go so far as to name her cock, and have her sub respect it, by cleaning it after use. Or sucking it to lube it up. Just looking down into his eyes can give both partners a power exchange rush that creates a strong erotic charge.  She can also make him practice his sucking techniques, if she plans on bringing other males into the relationship at some point. Once she has named her strap on, her submissive will have to worship it in the same way he worships her body, because it’s her cock. The psychological effects this can have, can send him deep into subspace, and she can keep him there. 

The strap on can also come in very handy as a punishment. Sometimes a submissive just needs a good hard strap on session, ordering him to get the strap on, and bend over on command, can be a powerful technique. Taking him with it often, even when he’s not in the mood, will help him adjust his behavior to understand, it’s not his bum, it’s hers. His resistance to it, will soon drop away, and the strap on will become a symbol of her power. 

Perhaps eventually, it may be the only way he is allowed to cum.  This can be common if she likes to feminize him, he can literally become the female in the relationship, and cum from anal only, while still caged. There’s so many possibilities with the strap on, including attachments that can provide her stimulation while using it making it even more fun.  It’s just one more tool in the femdom box, that she can use to completely dominate and own her submissive in all the ways she’s always wanted.  It is all about her, after all.

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I am a giver and take pride in my submission and the benefits I offer my Owner and Mistress - I get joy by being of good service and seeing and hearing my beloved enjoying all my tasks completed to her satisfaction, and see the delight in her eyes YMR x

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Yes I understand what you are saying Mistress, but please consider that sometimes you might be wrong in your assumptions - this is sent with full true total respect for You and I do recognise your superior standing in this FLR world - but yes I am a naturally submissive man who simply loves to please, serve and give pleasure, but I also have a busy life, which I can put on hold should the correct Mistress arrive in my life (You), and have an understanding of my current commitments - which can slowly be shed to allow more time to devote to Her (You) ! Miss our special times together YMR

Is Submission really for you...

I receive a great deal email from men who say they are submissive and want advice on how to find a Dominant woman to guide them. But it often turns out that what they really want is a woman to cater to their submissive side when it comes to sex (kinky sex). So the questions comes up, “Are you really submissive? Or are you only sexually submissive?”

As it turns out, only you can answer that question. But in order to do that, you must separate your sexual desires from the rest of your life. That is, outside of sex, do you still want to serve? Do you want to wash dishes, vacuum the carpets, make the beds, etc., etc., etc.? Do you really want a woman telling you what to do all the time…

If you are not ready to a woman to take total charge of your life, perhaps you should simply join a local BDSM group so that you can get your “Kink” out without getting bound up (pun intended) in something you are not prepare for. Don’t get me wrong…

In a real Female Lead Relationship, a woman does not always even want to control her man all that much. She may only want to be in direct control over her sex-life. She can, and should, control any and all aspects of the relationship that she feels comfortable controlling. Perhaps she wants to maintain the final word on things and lets her partner handle the day-to-day routine things that she used to do. Things like cleaning, cooking, doing the laundry…

Many FLR’s don’t appear very different from any other relationship, on the outside. Maybe her partner handles the financial end of things. Maybe she still does the cooking. She may even want to be on the receiving end of most of the sex. These things are all simply her choice. After all, if she is in charge, she can do whatever she wants, including the laundry, if that is the way she wants it…

Serving as a submissive in an FLR means that you serve out of love. If you don’t love the woman you are serving, then your life will not be what you expected, no matter what the sex is like.

So, gentlemen, when looking for a Dominant woman to take over your life, to love, to cherish, to obey, be yourself. Be strong in who you are. If you try to be someone you are not, you will fail… Miserably…

From Mistress Ivey’s blog “Becoming a Mistress”

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What’s with everyone asking for money

I’m not looking for a professional service I’m looking for a irl relationship with a dominant female it doesn’t have to be a professional dom I will not pay anything especially the way you always say owning me owning something usually means you buying it I know this is a rant but I’m just saying not every sissy sub on here is looking for a pro some like me are looking for a actual relationship I know pro dons and fin doms are going to come at me now but it needed to be said

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well said and I agree - don't know why payment is expected when we are offering our attentive services and pleasures for their benefit - perhaps we should start charging too for all the pleasures we give out !

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My Queen to adore x

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Thank you my Mistress and Owner x

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Yes I agree - a rare find indeed x

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With thanks to @zimmerfarn

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Thank you Mistress x

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Lucky man x

No matter how strong or handy or resourceful everybody thinks my husband is, I have all the control over one special part of him. That makes me feel like a queen. 👑❤️😊

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Thank you Mistress x

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