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Shabbat Shalom 💙

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Shabbat Shalom everyone,

I know we all have faced the onslaught of irrational and outright offensive takes this week. We all had to deal with extremely online people telling us how we should feel.

And, so, I want to tell you, for this shabbat, take a moment, look back and remind yourself that life is not like this outside of the internet.

I am a visible jew. I live in London, I have peyos and a kippah. Sometimes my tzitzis are visible. I look like this everytime I go outside, to go to the post office, the doctor, grocery store etc. Clearly I would be a prime target and my life would be in danger everytime I step out of my house based on the kind of content we see on tumblr, right? Well.

Have I faced harassment? Yes of course. But you know what? That was 1% of the time. And I won't talk about these 1% occurence this time.

99% of the time when I go out, I get no comments, no hate, no weird looks. People at the post office, at the doctor's, at the grocery store are respectful.

When I took my partner to the hospital, there were kosher meals, a shabbes room, kind accomodating people on the lift on shabbat.

When I go outside, I am a completely normal person living a completelu normal visibly Jewish life and 99.9% of people have no issue with it. Please remember this.

The world isn't as dark as it seems online. Not everybody is out to get you. Reach out to your friends, neighbours, classmates. Share a meal, be generous, do tzedakah.

This will end and it will be ok.

Shabbat Shalom.

[dualcasterjay]

Shabbat Shalom everyone,

I know we all have faced the onslaught of irrational and outright offensive takes this week. We all had to deal with extremely online people telling us how we should feel.

And, so, I want to tell you, for this shabbat, take a moment, look back and remind yourself that life is not like this outside of the internet.

I am a visible jew. I live in London, I have peyos and a kippah. Sometimes my tzitzis are visible. I look like this everytime I go outside, to go to the post office, the doctor, grocery store etc. Clearly I would be a prime target and my life would be in danger everytime I step out of my house based on the kind of content we see on tumblr, right? Well.

Have I faced harassment? Yes of course. But you know what? That was 1% of the time. And I won't talk about these 1% occurence this time.

99% of the time when I go out, I get no comments, no hate, no weird looks. People at the post office, at the doctor's, at the grocery store are respectful.

When I took my partner to the hospital, there were kosher meals, a shabbes room, kind accomodating people on the lift on shabbat.

When I go outside, I am a completely normal person living a completelu normal visibly Jewish life and 99.9% of people have no issue with it. Please remember this.

The world isn't as dark as it seems online. Not everybody is out to get you. Reach out to your friends, neighbours, classmates. Share a meal, be generous, do tzedakah.

This will end and it will be ok.

Shabbat Shalom.

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tbh the fact that cats purr was an unnecessary bonus we don't always acknowledge. they're already cute and baby and little and soft and make silly noises and do funny shit. but they also like to cuddle and make a soothing pleasant noise to indicate they are happy when they cuddle you? huge. huge for the human race.

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her if/then pussy got me making a statement

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HIGH ON STANDARDS LOW ON SKILL. CREATIVE PROCESS MAKE YOU ILL

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Ko-fi Dooble

"Fakemon based on the weird tapetail fish"

Rainmitz - Fairy/Water

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Diet companies won’t tell you this but starving yourself is a lot worse for your health than overeating

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thinking about how aiglamene has a shitty bone prosthetic leg. notably, i'm thinking about the "shitty" part and what it implies. because you can't convince me that harrow wasn't capable of giving aiglamene a perfect replacement by the age of like. seven. nor can you convince me that harrow wouldn't offer, even if she disguises it as pragmatism. so that leaves the conclusion that aiglamene refused. and the best explanation for why she would do that is: that leg was made for her by a necromancer she cared about.

aiglamene is an old soldier, capable of teaching the rapier, and claims to have seen duels involving a cavalier primary in her youth. so. yeah basically what i'm saying here is that aiglamene was probably someone's cav. and there's a good chance her necro died in combat and made her that leg shortly before

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Sometimes fiction doesn’t have a moral to the story. Sometimes fiction points at something and goes “Ever thought about THAT???” And you look at what it’s pointing at for a bit.

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This thing is fifteen feet tall and I have. Regrets.

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How the hell is “trans men face unique problems under an inherently transphobic patriarchy” even a controversial take. Like… OBVIOUSLY.

i think the actual answer to this is that people hear "trans men face unique problems under an inherently transphobic patriarchy" and interpret that as "if you don't experience this oppression you are a Privileged Oppressor with a vested interest in making sure the oppression continues, so anyone who isn't targeted by transandrophobia is assumed to be oppressing trans men by default".

people are resistant to it because they assume it's just a roundabout way of saying "trans women are OPPRESSING trans men!!!!" which. it's not. the fact that trans women experience transphobia differently to trans men or nonbinary people or intersex people affected by transphobia or cis people being mistaken for trans people etc etc etc is not, in fact, an argument for "and that's why trans women are oppressing us". that is not how oppression actually works. we are all being targeted by transphobia, and that affects different groups of trans people in different ways, but the underlying oppression is a transphobic patriarchy and none of us benefit from helping that continue.

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Whatever Mothman is reading on his phone must be spectacularly awful because I can see his face journey out the corner of my eye and I don’t think I’ve ever seen him make those faces in the near 20 years we’ve been together 😅

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wait, Derin how did your leaving make the hospital shut down?

I used to work as a live-in nanny for a pediatrician.

Now, the thing about hospitals in my country is that they are massively understaffed and massively underfunded. This is especially true outside the major cities. The staff are worked to the bone and receive little to no help in things like finding accommodation or childcare, making working in rural areas a very uninviting prospect; staff come out here, get lumped with the work of three people (because there's nobody else to do it), burn out under the workload and leave, meaning that those remaining have even more work because that person is gone. It's unsustainable and the medical staff are doing their best to sustain it, because people die if they don't, so to the higher-ups it looks like everything's getting done and therefore everything is fine.

My friend (and boss) worked one week on, one week off, swapping out with another pediatrician. This was necessary because it would not be physically possible for one person to handle the workload for longer periods of time. The one single pediatrician had to hold up the entire pediatrics ward, which was not only the only public hospital pediatrics ward in our town, but also the one that served all the towns around us for a few hours' drive in all directions. I regularly saw her go to work sick, aching, tired, or with a debilitating 'I can barely make words or see' level migraine, because if she took a day off, twenty children didn't get healthcare that day, and some of these kids' appointments were scheduled weeks in advance. She'd work long hours in the day and then be called in a couple of times overnight for an hour or two at a time (she was on-call at night too, because somebody had to be), and then go in the next day. Sometimes she would be forced to take a day off because she physically could not stay awake for longer than a few minutes at a time, meaning she couldn't drive to work.

Cue my niece's second birthday coming up in Melbourne. I'd been working for her for about 3 years, and she (and the hospital) had plenty of advance warning that I (and therefore she) needed one (1) Friday off. That's fine, we'll find someone to work that Friday, the hospital said. Right up until the last week where they're like "oh, we can't find a replacement; you can come in, can't you?"

No, she tells them; I don't have anyone to watch my kid that day.

Oh, surely you can hire a babysitter for this one day, they say. Think of the children! We really really need you to work that day. I know we said it'd be fine but we need you now, there's no one else to do it.

There are no other babysitters, she told them. Unless you can find one?

That's not our responsibility, they said.

But I'm not changing my plans, she's got plans by now as well, the hospital knew about this one day weeks in advance, and with absolutely no reserve staff they're forced to reschedule all pediatrics appointments for that Friday. Not a huge deal, it happens on the 'physically too overworked to get out of bed' days too. I go to Melbourne, she goes back to her home in Adelaide for her recovery week, all should be on track.

My niece gives me Covid.

This was way back in the first wave of the pandemic, and there were no Covid vaccines yet. The rules were isolate, mask up, hope. I had Covid in the house, and it would've been madness for my friend and her toddler to come back into the Covid house instead of staying in Adelaide. There was absolutely no way that a pediatrician could live with someone in quarantine due to Covid and go to work in the hospital with sick children every day. And no support existed for finding another babysitter, or temporary accommodation, so the hospital was down a pediatrician.

The other pediatrician wasn't available to do a three-week stint. They were also trapped in Adelaide on their well-earned week off.

Meaning that the only major pediatrics ward within a several-hour radius had no pediatricians. They had to shut down and send all urgent cases to Adelaide for the week. To the complete absence of surprise of any of the doctors or nurses; of course this would happen, this was bound to happen, it presumably keeps happening. But probably to the surprise of the higher-ups. After all, the hospital was doing fine, right? Of course all the staff were complaining of overwork and a lack of resources in every meeting, but they could always be fobbed off with the promise of more help sometime in the future; the work was mostly getting done, so the issue couldn't be too urgent.

It's not like some nanny who doesn't even work for the hospital could go out of town for a weekend for the first time in three years, and get the only public pediatrics ward in the area shut down for a week.