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Ten of Cups and The Sun

Everything is beautiful, and nothing hurts.

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How do you draw so well on paper without getting frustrated with your own art? Bless me with a tip pls

I often draw very messily on paper. I just clean it up afterwards, either by erasing stray marks and guidelines and relining the drawing, or by scanning and doing digital touchups. Or I just leave some of the messiness there because sometimes that has more personality and charm than a pristine, polished drawing does. I am also in a near perpetual state of frustration with my art. I think that's normal for anyone doing any sort of creative work. Having to erase and redraw something, having to reconfigure your approach after trying and failing the first few times, having to relent and seek out some reference material - it's a confluence of frustration and challenge. As maddening as it can be, it's also part of what keeps things interesting. If it was all completely effortless, what satisfaction would there be in doing it?

I guess if there's a tip in here somewhere, it's to embrace frustration. If you're feeling frustrated, it's a good indication you have a critical eye for your own work and that you're venturing beyond your comfort zones. Both of those things are essential to improving. (That's not to say you should torture yourself. If you're so frustrated that your blood pressure is spiking, well, take a break, cool off, return after a refresh.)

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is the tumblr playfellowxxx community dead yet

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Sexual Healing Saturday

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Art by 冯伟 Feng Wei（c12）

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I think we need more radical acceptance that some people dislike us for reasons that make sense for their life experience. and we need to do this in a way that doesn't paint us as misunderstood victims because the fact of the matter is everyone is annoying to someone. you can't avoid that. and if someone is annoyed by you they aren't wrong about you being annoying and unlikable to them. the sooner we accept this the sooner we accept ourselves. we don't even like ourselves most of the time so why should we expect other people to uncritically enjoy every aspect of us regardless of our own internal struggle with our own extreme contrasts

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I often think I could be such a good writer if I were better at writing

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This is what I did at 1am yesterday (or basically today?)

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Yan Wei aka 闫威 aka Kokomoo aka 闫伟 aka Wei Yan (Chinese, b. 1981, Beijing, China, based Montclair, NJ, USA) - 爱之入髓 (Love from the Innermost of Marrow), 2013, Paintings: Acrylic on Paper

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rb to give a flower to the person you rb this from

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rb to give a flower to the person you rb this from

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Heather Havrilesky, How to Be a Person in the World

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I wish more people understood how fucking hard Legend of Korra was actually censored. It's not "LGBT bait" it was CENSORED and the writers had to fight hard just for Korra and Asami to HOLD FUCKING HANDS

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the comorbidities of eve

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It's okay if you don't figure these things out until you're well into your 20's, 30's, 40's or beyond. It's okay if you come out later in life, especially if doing so as a teenager or 20-something wasn't safe for you. (And it's okay if you never come out to anyone except yourself. That's an accomplishment in itself.) And it's okay if a label that fit in your teens or 20's doesn't fit later on. It doesn't mean you're "fake." There's no law that says you have to have your entire self all figured out by age 25. Finding yourself, including your gender and sexuality, is an ongoing, lifelong process.

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love how when i get a new interest, i’m like “oh god it’s happening again” and i’m stuck like that for about a week until everything explodes and any interest i’ve had prior is completely dwarfed for an unknown amount of time