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Confusing complaints about women's accountability become much clearer when you realize what men are truly saying.

The claim that women are resistant to accountability is usually brought up in contexts of sexual assault and domestic abuse.

This may confuse a woman, because we think of the word "accountability" in a logical way; when someone performs an action, unless under duress, they are responsible for that action.

So, when a man assaults someone, we hold him responsible for that action. This is the rational course of reasoning.

But males do not think of accountability in a logical way.

Allow me to explain. When males engage in sexual violence, they are engaging in revenge for perceived wrongs. Those perceived wrongs can range from being rejected by women, a bitch wife nagging too much, or walking alone at night. In other words, these men believe they are punishing women for "forgetting their place". The word "punishment" even features in pornography in nearly every language and region.

The important thing there is that these men view rape and abuse as justified actions.

So, when an emotional male claims that an assaulted or abused woman "accept accountability", what he's truly demanding is that she accepts her punishment.

He views women's freedom as a crime. That she may walk freely and freely reject him is a crime against what he believes to be the natural order. In his mind, a woman should stay in the home and of course, always accept him sexually. When she goes outside or says "no", he views this as an infraction of her obligations.

So, when women escape our abusers or rapists, men view this in the same light as a convict escaping jail. They believe the abuse was a deserved reprimand for our "crime" of moving about the world freely, and that we're avoiding our rightful sentence when we do not allow them to hurt us.

This is what men really want to say when they tell women to accept accountability: accept your punishment.

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I would rather kms than play audio from my phone in public without headphones and I don’t understand how others don’t feel the same

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happy 10th anniversary to Bloodborne

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I guess I just don’t understand the idea of labels being limiting. The word lesbian doesn’t limit me to dating women, being a lesbian does. The only way a label can be limiting is if you aren’t what the label describes.

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You drew lady maria and a snail lady from the hamlet (beautifully btw) would you ever consider lady maria and kos at some point

I consider it often actually

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I don't know what those '90s sci Fi TV writers were putting in their shows but I wish they'd start doing it again

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“feminists should be nicer to men or else more of them will join the alt right” that’s strange because it’s never occurred to me to fuck off and join the kkk when a person of color is mean to me. I think if your threshold for being radicalized into a hate movement is as low as “I felt left out and it was mean” you weren’t going to make a very good feminist to begin with

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cruelty is so easy. youre not special for choosing it

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Victorian and edwardian era ladies with their cats

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i'm not here to tell y'all that it will get better. i'm here to tell you that you have the power to fight back and win.