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The spousal person was sitting in the big chair and the cats all gathered around him. I asked him if he thought it was worth having cats even if it's sad when they get sick, and he said yes. Because they are good friends and they are really important.

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Stitched a small red cardinal as a gift for my secret santa giftee, as it’s the state bird of two of the states she’s lived in.

[ID: photo of a cross stitch hoop hung on a Christmas tree. The cross stitched design is a red cardinal perched on a branch. /end ID]

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Discussing baby’s future

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"but it will never happen to me!"

-every single person before it happened to them

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A Victorian couple and the true head of the household pose for a family photo. 1890s.

Via Historic Photographs 

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Pixel and Quasar in my lap.

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love resides in the commonplace — intimacy exists in the spaces of ordinary service: and paik sa-eon is the very embodiment of this kind of devotion — attention towards the minutiae of a relationship: the tiny acts of tenderness that can make or break a union.

the kind of devotion that says: "i'll wash these fruits for you so that it's safe for you to eat." "i'll lower the bed for you so you're comfortable while you sleep." "i'll take care of your everyday needs because that's exactly what i want to do — take care of you every single day."

there's a special kind of bittersweet longing leaking through sa-eon's eyes when heejoo begs him not to go — an inchoate ache as he cradles her hand to his face: almost as if his lips are anchoring themselves to her skin; reassuring his own self that she's safe, unharmed — still with him. still his to touch. still his to look after.

simple gestures are often how you measure the soul of a marriage — whether you're with someone who cares about the temperature of the water when he's washing your hair. whether you're with someone who'll dry it for you with painstaking carefulness.

as poet ilya kaminsky wrote: "soaping together — that is sacred to me / you can fuck anyone — but with whom can you sit in water?"

to sa-eon; heejoo is as inevitable as the weather — an endless force in his life. a forever presence: someone so threaded to the fibers of his being that he can't help but say: "tell me how to hate you: (because i'm physically incapable of looking at you with anything but love.)"

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TikTok has convinced so many people that you're autistic or ADHD if you have completely typical experiences like "getting songs stuck in your head" or "having a strong sense of social justice" or "reverently kissing the ice-cold crown of the crow lord". No, you do not need to have autism to squeeze your eyes shut and stand completely still as a living statue to demonstrate your total submission to the crow lord. Plenty of neurotypical people bring him tributes of glass beads, tinfoil strips, roadkill, coins from dead men's pockets, and mice or rabbits fattened weeks in advance. Honestly TikTok has become such a dangerous engine for spreading misinformation. I wouldn't be surprised if they provoke the wrath of the crow lord soon.

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this callout couldve been a block button

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Pixel and her daughter Quasar right now.

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I didn’t say anything before we knew, but the spousal person just talked to the specialist vet.

Pixel, the mother of the kittens, who we found pregnant and abandoned in our backyard 10 years ago, has cancer.

She’s sitting in my lap right now. She’s still eating well. She’s mostly acting normal, so I was able to have hope. But I should have known.

We’ll talk to the regular vet on Monday about anti-inflammatory medicine to help her be more comfortable. Will probably consult an oncologist to see if there’s a point to chemo.

It’s not our first time. Before her there was Oreo, Nova, and Midnight. Oreo’s cancer went into remission for four years.

I know we will survive. But I also know it’s gonna hurt.

I love her. Do you think she knows how much we love her?

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"Sin, young man, is when you treat people like things. Including yourself. That's what sin is."

"It's a lot more complicated than that --"

"No. It ain't. When people say things are a lot more complicated than that, it means they're getting worried they won't like the truth. People as things, that's where it starts."

"Oh. I'm sure there are worse crimes --"

"But they starts with thinking about people like things..."

- Carpe Jugulum by Terry Pratchett

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Submitted our passport applications!

The spousal person’s mother worked at the post office, and the person who took our applications worked with her and remembered her and went to her funeral, so that was a thing.

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On one hand it’s Friday so that means last official day of vacation. On the other hand it’s Friday so When The Phone Rings episode!!!!

Trying to avoid spoilers on my dash.

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I need everyone to know that the ship Götheborg, the world's largest ocean-going wooden sailing ship, answered a distress call the other day.

Imagine waiting for the coast guard or whatever to show up and instead a replica of 18th century merchant ship pulls up and tows you to the coast.