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I don't see much discussion on here about Namib, one of the currently airing kdramas we're watching. I guess it doesn't have a romance as its central focus so it doesn't get much attention.

It's about the kpop industry, and the two main characters are a CEO who gets pushed out of her company and a young man who coasted by as a trainee for 10 years who she's now taking under her wing.

The young man is deeply traumatized and he does self-injury, like I used to back in the day. But it's enough back in the day and I'm healed enough now that it's not triggering or anything, but it does make me very protective of his character and extremely fucking angry at the characters who shame him and blame him and say he's faking for attention and that he's weird and who are cruel to him about it.

He's friends with the former CEO's son, who lost his hearing in an accident when he was a kid.

It's a good show and I do recommend it, but it's also really intense and the great majority of the characters are awful people. So, you know. We try to balance it out by watching an episode of it and then an episode of a lighter show, which tonight was Dream High. Dream High is a 2011 drama. It's also about the kpop industry in a way, just with high school students instead of trainees, and it's also got a fair few not nice people, but it's silly and fun and the not-niceness doesn't seriously traumatize people to the point of self-injury.

I will say it's nice to see some representation. And while yes, some of the characters are awful about it, the narrative isn't.

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hello. i am dracula. do you have any blood for me.

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I have a few free subscriptions to this podcast’s Substack if anyone wants one. They don’t have an episode on B99…yet.

Most shows I’ve seen that mention fan fiction readers/writers portray them as kinda oddball super-geeks with no lives or social skills.

So I wanna take a moment to appreciate the fact that in Parks & Recreation, the character who writes fan fiction is the intelligent, successful, and good-looking primary love interest of the main character.

Also I want to read the full fic he wrote.

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It probably seems pretty frivolous that I'm all like YAY VIDEO GAME right now, but that was and continues to be a calculated choice, given that I decided not to give this administration and its court intrigues and bullshit celebrations one iota of my attention this week, or any other week if I have my way about it. Anything I learned about the inauguration yesterday was against my will (goddamn, Elon, how are you both evil and such a fucking dork about it). It felt like yesterday, they wanted everyone's rapt attention and our Liberal Tears™, so I said, fuck it, I'm beating monsters with a plank of wood and eating chocolate and existing happily as a queer disabled childfree woman in a red state while I can, with the TV turned off and the news apps muted, and a motherfucker can stay mad about it.

I do keep up with the news. If nothing else, I take ten minutes to read headlines at the end of the day, because I learn just as much as I would have from five hours of doomscrolling bad information and speculation and "This is a developing story, details to come." If I can tell it's a subject I need to know more about, I look into it. I want to keep up with the people who are affected by what's coming and how, not the pomp and galling circumstance of this asshole signing executive orders at an arena. I spent 2016-2020 feeling like a beaten dog and I choose, aggressively, to not do that this time.

I have the privilege of being someone this administration is not currently coming after this particular week. I can afford to sit here and not lie awake at night with worry. I can afford to choose to enjoy myself out of pure spite. And I'm going to, for as long as I can, so that when there is something I can do, I'll be fresh for it.

They are going to firehose us--they have been already, for years--with petty outrages to make us feel overwhelmed and hopeless and numb. "Did you HEAR what he SAID this time??" I gave too much of my attention to it before--I did it as much as anyone. The real shit is the stories of how deportations will affect people, for example, not what ignorant stunts this administration pulls ("Gulf of America," get the fuck out of here) and anything we can do IRL or, failing that, signal boost to help. Save your bandwidth for what you can do for yourself and for others. Your energy is precious.

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The ground is crunchy and the air smells of cold.

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very big fan of when shows put wigs on actors and say ‘yeah. That’s him when he was younger fuck you’. No anti aging ai, no teen actor hired. Just. The same guy with a fuckass wig

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wien 2024

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tired of posts that are like "why should i go to therapy when the reason i'm upset is because of SOCIETY" and it's like

yeah. have you ever heard of a locus of control. you don't have control over Society but you do have control over your reaction to it

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now more than ever, it is imperative that you spend time with people you love and doing things that you love. be prepared but please please please don't dwell on things that have yet to happen. you have to have hope for a better future in order to build one. it's gonna be okay. we're gonna make it. i love you.

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Well well well, Mr. Tough Guy, suddenly afraid of pulling a William Henry Harrison, are we?

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PSA for fanfic writers

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Love her snooping. 😅

Sometimes the commander needs a drink too.

Them glares. And her getting caught.

Their dynamics. 😂

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Coyote finds old dog toy, acts like a puppy A photographer spotted a coyote as it trotted into her yard and explored a toy left in the snow. What she managed to capture on camera is the beauty of play.

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Unknown -  Jeremy Miranda , 2024.

American , b. 1980 -

Acrylic on board , 10 x 12 in.

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Tiger family (1880s) Korean art

Tiger Family. Korea, Joseon dynasty, late 1880s. (Detail)

Tiger Family. Korea, Joseon dynasty, late 1880s. Hanging scroll; ink and color on paper. | src Cleveland Museum of Art

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Picture from our trip to Gatlinburg.

you can tell a lot about someone based on their phone background. it shows what’s most important to them

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Talk about the things you love. Talk about what brings you joy.

Tell those you love that you love them, and by all that is good and holy, show them too.

Because that is a candle in the darkness. A lighthouse.

XOXO