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I will imagine little scenarios in my head and then feel guilty for imagining the scenarios

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That’s us! Two spirits moving in parallel, across the night sky for all to see. ♥

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I think 99% of my advice for healthy relationships is to communicate, especially in advance.

Talk to your loved ones about conflict before you have one. Talk about how you react to conflict and ways you can solve conflict together. If you need to walk away during conflict to gather your thoughts, let them know before you have a conflict so that they can be prepared for the fact that you may need space. If there are certain things that really upset you that typically come up during conflicts, let them know.

Talk to your loved ones about your insecurities before they become a problem. Maybe this means planning a way to communicate that you could use some reassurance. Maybe this means getting a letter from them, or screenshots to read when you need to.

Talk to your loved ones about boundaries. If something they tease you about is actually upsetting, communicate that and let them know. Our loved ones generally want to make our lives better and wouldn’t continue to do stuff if they knew it was hurting you. They don’t know there’s a problem to fix if they aren’t told.

Talk to your loved ones if something is bothering you. Do you feel you always message first or initiate contact? Talk to them about it. Don’t start playing the “I’m not going to message until they do” game. Try not to become passive aggressive or hint at the problem.

Talk to your loved ones about things you like, appreciate or love. Give them the opportunity to do these things for you.

If a loved one is venting to you, ask what they need if they don’t tell you. Ask if they’d like support, or for you to offer validation or advice, or just to listen. This can prevent so much. When we get advice sometimes when we’re upset, we’re not in a place for it and it can make it worse and create conflict.

If a loved one is struggling and you don’t know how to help, don’t just avoid them because you don’t know what to say. Ask them how they’d like support. Sometimes people just want company, a distraction or to know they’re loved. On the other side of this, try to tell your loved ones how they can help. Often they do want to help, they just don’t know help.

I could go on and on about this, but perhaps you get the idea by now.

Our loved ones aren’t mind readers, but sometimes we expect them to be and that isn’t fair to them or us. That usually ends with both you and them being upset. Communicate directly when you can.

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You're so scared to open up to anyone. You're terrified that you"ll show them all you are and there will be nothing there to love.

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nom nom

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Absolutely horrid that a 10hr sleep does not cure you of all that ails you

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fuck y’all if you laid up with your lil boo rn i hope the ceiling fan fall on y'all

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Miku Miku Mondays you heard of it?

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Daily MIKU

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An emotion: *pokes its head through the mountain of suppression I’ve buried it under*

Me, beating it with a stick: Back! Back!

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Federico García Lorca, from The Selected Poems of Federico García Lorca; "St. Michael,"

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come closer i exhibit normal and not obsessive behaviours

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i know it’s my fault

part 2 of a series, [part 1] / [part 3]