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ok google how do i propose deeper friendship and intimacy to my mutuals without feeling like a pervert predator

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watch who you're talking to pal i've influenced as many as 6 people all around the world

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People are so much more sad, and desparate, and lonely than you think. I have had three incidents in the last four months were a technician I was working with was being either dangerously unfocused (we work with high voltage), or just flat out angry with their coworkers, and every time when I just pulled them aside to say hey, this isn't you, you're nice, and you're competent, so something must be up - what can I do to help - they have responded by bursting into tears. One guy was struggling to get his wife moved into a care home, one guy just got served divorce papers, and the other hadn't slept a wink the night before because his daughter had the pukes.

I haven't spent my whole life responding to people being rude, or stupid, or dangerous with knee jerk compassion. It's a new habit. The first time I did that as the lead for my lab, it was because the guy genuinely was so good natured that I knew something had to be off. But the other two times were just me going, alright, lets see if it always goes this well, and so far, it has. I'm almost 30, and I just figured out that the #1 reason people are shitty are because they are going through shit.

I don't think you have, like, a moral obligation to respond to people being jerks with knee jerk compassion. But it has made my life so much easier the last four months that I would recommend trying. For your own sake. Please.

(I'll step off my soapbox now. Enjoy your Sunday.)

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"You don't know me. I'm not the same person anymore."

"That's okay. I'll get to know you again."

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i am a lover. but underneath that i'm a hater. and then underneath that i'm a lover again

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Spacing out at the train station

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if you are reading this i want you to stop for a moment and imagine a crab

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if you experience frequent memory gaps, a wildly inconsistent or fluctuating sense of personality and identity, and a strong connection to the idea of ‘multiple minds sharing a body’, hiveminds, possession and similar narratives, i have some news for you: Bioluminescent "Fairy Lantern" Plant Rediscovered After Being Presumed Extinct For 30 Years

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It's not a virtue to focus totally on your own peace and disregard problems around you. Ironically, it's also not a virtue to stew in your own anxiety.

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People need to start being nicer to minors.

I've seen so many blogs that say stuff like "minors kill yourselves" "18+, if minors interact they'll be shot" which is disturbing. I'm not saying that you should let minors see your NSFW blog, but just saying 18+ or MDNI is enough. You don't need to write an essay about how you hate teens.

Teens already have pretty much no rights, are considered property, don't get paid as much as adults, if they're in an abusive household we can't leave, etc. For a lot of teens, the internet is the only place they feel like people, so lets keep it that way.

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Stunning opal find from Mintabie, South Australia!

Photo: South Australian Opal Traders

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why is plural horror always "oh no my evil alter i can feel it taking over..... run......its gonna kill youuu aaarhghdf........ IM THE EVIL ALTER !!!" and never like. hey isnt it fucked up how obbsessed people are with your body and an image of you they force upon you from cobbled together lies and refuse to understand or aknwoledge you and your real self - not on a metaphorical level, on a literal one. about living your life in the shadow of someone elses, about living someone elses life entirely. about bekng forced to play dress-up like someone who never existed. not even being seen as real.

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YOU CAN BE A GUY EVEN IF NO ONE SEES YOU AS ONE

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somatic symptoms of anxiety are so fucked. what do you mean I got so scared my body decided that it needed to add nausea and headache and dizzy to the situation. how is it helping