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I want to reiterate in regards to that last anon and this is goinf to be long and obnoxious because i answered that ask at work and didnt go into detail; I don't think you understand what I was talking about because I didn't go in depth within the post you're referring to because I've already talked about it extensively on my blog.

But educational intervention in the context of stigma reduction for practitioners working with high risk groups is more than valid and not remotely fascistic. Idk like it just really seems like you have no idea what you're talking about insofar as that you would come at me for one post without context of my work instead of just asking me about it. Workshops, curriculum shifts, etc., are all effective forms of educational intervention. The system I live under in my province (where I'm focusing my work) barely touches the surface of NSSI for those working w/ high risk of NSSI populations. Particularly teachers and counselors for high-school aged people and younger.

My work primarily focuses on lived experience reports of what people with NSSI understand to be the most useful language, frameworks, and therapeutic measures. Every single person with self injury has unique strengths that should be centered and built upon to fit their needs and address their suffering, as opposed to the monolithic and frankly rudimentary frameworks used for the last several decades that foster stigmatising attitudes.

Once more I'm going to reiterare that affective states are intertwined with cognitive appraisals, it takes intentionality and cognitive effort to make attitudinal changes in most any facet of life. If somebody goes through their entire life believing non suicidal self injury is transient and maladaptive, in good faith wishes to work with people who need help because they want to 'make a difference' (i.e highschool counselor), and then encounters somebody who is self harming, do you not think that the lack of education dedicated to NSSI from a person centered, strengths based framework is going to impact the way they approach this person seeking guidance from them?

Be so fucking serious, comparing the work of several researchers dedicating their time to reforming a system based in stigma (psychology) (for researchers working on this see Staniland, Hasking, and Lewis to name a few) to the cruelty of punitive prison systems is such a reach. I'm a staunch advocate for prison abolition if not at the least mass reform (which is built from abolition practices) but like. for the sake of my work I'm working with NSSI!! As I've mentioned several times on this blog!!

People hurt themselves to cope with problems often bigger than what they alone can manage. Trauma, abuse, bigotry, violence, etc. The amount of people that self injure because of systemic inequity, systematic inequity, and consequently social stigma is something that we need social supports for, I.e community care.

There is an intersection between those performing community care and teachers, counselors, social workers, etc. Lots of young people (the main demographic for when NSSI behaviour starts) don't have competent resources because of this social stigma reinforced by systemic inequity, leading to perpetuated feelings of helplessness and isolation.

Self injury isn't going away, and rates are seemingly getting higher (this doesn't factor in potential underreporting in previous studies). I have lived experience with rejection, isolation, being called attention-seeking, childish, and weak for cutting myself by peers and adults alike during my adolescence- when seeking help from counselors for this they said my solution should be to just /stop/. Instead of recognising that this was one of the most adaptive skills I had to get through the day. And this is just my one personal story.

Isn't that fucked!!?? But we have to assume if these people are going into fields where they work with vulnerable populations that it is in some part in good faith. How do people unlearn their outdated praxis if not through being introduced to new information and effective communication and education of why this new information is valuable. Why have we fought for proper education for centuries if not to intervene when the education is harmful. In my 12th grade yr my best friend and I held a protest (inspired by Rayne fisher quann) against Doug Ford reversing progressive changes made to our sex education, reverting to abstinence and removing gender studies from sex ed. That is the essence of my work, to find validity in new methods that are the most conducive to compassion and lived experiences and then fight for those to be embedded in our curriculum. if everyone has equal opportunity to receive exposure to a reformed curriculum of self injury coming from a strengths based framework there /will/ be changes to practices, leading to a recentering away from stigmatising language and frameworks towards ones of healing and understanding. And not just for people with money and convenience to access good therapy, for people who only have access to the 1 day a week counseling at their middle schools.

Obviously it's not going to happen easily or immediately, as radical changes never do, but we have seen changes over time come directly from people with lived experiences advocating for their perspectives to be centered. Ik not every individual will have a perspective shift im not hoping for a clockwork orange esque brainwashing of the masses or lobotomising the hate out, it's genuinely utilising the human capacity for attitudinal flexibility esp. considering that we have to imagine (to bring this back) that if you are choosing to work with vulnerable groups, some part of you has to be working in good faith.

TL;DR!!!

My thesis, future work, and entire praxis factors in systematic reform through the training, education, and structural basis of practices working w/ demographics that self injure to center the lived intersectional experiences of those with nssi proudly and unabashedly.

So we can prevent future incidences of kids being told by their counselors that they're attention seeking and wasting time. So that we can assess the real issues individuals with NSSI face instead of asserting that their self injury is the issue. And we could have just had a convo about this but instead youre accusing me of lacking critical thinking and being fascistic? Like girl sorry I'm not Lenin but we do the best to survive under the systems we are forced into. One of these survival mechanisms for a lot of people is self injury, people are shamed for coping using self injury because modern curriculum has been espousing outdated terminology and frameworks conducive to stigma. This is also not the entirety of my work but is a huge part of it. !!!!!!

Anyways if anyone actually read this thank you for taking your time to listen to my ramblings cus this is so important to me

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doesnt it strike you as a little fascistic to want to (or to even claim that is possible) to weed out prejudice and stigma at the cognitive level through "effective intervention"? cant you imagine the ways in which this type of intervention is likely to be used, i.e. psychological reeducation of convicts in forced institutionalization? dont you think its extremely convenient to think of prejudice and stigma as a cognitive, intrasubjective issue rather than by addressing the sytems of power and wealth distribution that are largely responsible for violence against specific groups? absolutely crazy how disconnected from critical thought psy-sciences ppl can get

I completely understand where youre coming from and i agree with you if that's what I was talking about . I think i just didnt communicate in my post properly what i want to research because we are on different pages right now

So basically a huge proponent of stigma against self injury is a misunderstanding of the functionality of NSSI & a deficits based approach. A commonly cited barrier to seeking therapy is stigma perpetrated by counselors, doctors, & psychologists-- i.e, the behaviour is attention seeking & transient. This is fucked up obviously because when you're a young person who is suffering and using self injury to cope, & you have the people you're supposed to 'trust' focusing on the self injury aspect instead of why you're self injuring ..well I'm sure you get it.

Its been shown consistently that being introduced to new information can change your attitudinal biases and appraisals. I want to first contribute to recent ongoing studies of a strengths-based approach to self injury which has been shown to work in other fields (i.e addictions counselling), to find evidence that this is a better approach to disrupting stigmatising narratives surrounding self-injury. At the most adopting this framework can be conducive to compassion and dispel misinformation around NSSI, thereby making it safer for adolescents w NSSI to find help without that being the basis of their sessions.

I want to do this because it's something I struggled with as an adolescent who self injured. It's self reported by a lot of people that this is an issue, that their practitioners don't understand the basis of NSSI. How do people learn to work with high-risk populations in a clinical setting.. They have to go through the educational system, hence intervening in the educational system to discuss what curriculum is being used with practitioners. Learning is in essence a cognitive module, appraisals are cognitive, understanding how we learn and make appraisals of people is important to understanding how to look at NSSI critically -- typically this imbues a person centered, strengths based framework

https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1002/jclp.23094

https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2020-57492-001

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there is an affective-cognitive neuroscience lab @ the top choice uni i want to go to, and it's not in the department I'm applying to, but if I don't get in this year I might apply next year... if I do get in this year I'm going to see if we can do some crossover work, if not in my masters then in my phd. I really want to study the affective-cognition of stereotypes/prejudice/discrimination (to learn about how we can apply mitigating factors) & stigmatising appraisals. a lot of it comes from attitudinal shifts which often is successful through educational intervention but it's about finding what types of intervention are most effective and how to make those accessible... hmm i need to be in someones lab or ill lose it

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