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Maroon 5 - Wait

Can we talk for a moment?

Got these feelings that I'm tired of holdin' on

Wasn't tryna get wasted

I needed more than three or four to say this, oh

Let me apologize, yeah

I'll make up, make up, make up, make up for all those times (all those times)

Your love, I don't wanna lose

I'm beggin', beggin', beggin', beggin', I'm begging you

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Quinn XCII - Another Day in Paradise

A little sunshine cause she needed it

A dose of rainfall in the evening

The waves crash down and we feel them

Said here’s to the nights we steal them

And I be running cause I figured out

The more I slow down the less I get out

And if we fall lets be strong now

Moving along we don’t mind we don’t mind

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All the good, comes in waves

I bide my time by the ocean

And at night, I’m awake

To feel the wake of your motion

And I want something that’s feeling alright

Loose cannon but still it won’t fire

No need to leave, spend our whole lives

Another day in paradise

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It may be we shall touch the Happy Isles,

And see the great Achilles, whom we knew

Though much is taken, much abides; and though

We are not now that strength which in old days

Moved earth and heaven; that which we are, we are;

One equal temper of heroic hearts,

Made weak by time and fate, but strong in will

To strive, to seek, to find, and not to yield.

Lord Alfred Tennyson, Ulysses

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I gave the most noble answer I give here: that in its most noble expression, masculinity is love bolstered by courage. [...] Courage helps us love organically: unsentimental, confrontational, sacrificial, practical, sacrificial, playful, powerful, prophetic, kinetic, unpredictable, and noble.

Paul Caughlin, “No More Christian Nice Guy”

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late 13c., "foolish, stupid, senseless," from Old French nice (12c.) "careless, clumsy; weak; poor, needy; simple, stupid, silly, foolish," from Latin nescius "ignorant, unaware," literally "not-knowing," from ne- "not" (from PIE root *ne- "not") + stem of scire "to know" (see science). "The sense development has been extraordinary, even for an adj." [Weekley] -- from "timid" (pre-1300); to "fussy, fastidious" (late 14c.); to "dainty, delicate" (c. 1400); to "precise, careful" (1500s, preserved in such terms as a nice distinction and nice and early); to "agreeable, delightful" (1769); to "kind, thoughtful" (1830).

from the Etymology of “nice”, https://www.etymonline.com/word/nice

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You can only fit so many words into a postcard.

Only so many in a phone call.

Only so many into space, before you forget that words are sometimes used for things other than filling emptiness.

Sarah Kay

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I have seen the best of you, and the worst of you, and I choose both.

Sarah Kay

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Because there’s nothing more beautiful than the way the ocean refuses to stop kissing the shoreline, no matter how many times it’s sent away.

Sarah Kay

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Joy—that sharp, wonderful Stab of Longing—has a lithe, muscular lightness to it. It’s deft. It produces longing that weighs heavy on the heart, but it does so with precision and coordination…It dashes in with the agility of a hummingbird claiming its nectar from the flower, and then zips away. It pricks, then vanishes, leaving a wake of mystery and longing behind it.

C.S. Lewis, “Shadowlands and Songs of Light”

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But soon, the false conscience (St Paul’s “Law”, Herbert’s prattled) came into play. One had no sooner reached “Amen” than it whispered, “Yes. But are you sure you were really thinking about what you said?”; then, more subtly, “Were you, for example, thinking about it as well as you did last night?” The answer, for reasons I did not the understand, was nearly always No. “Very well,” said the voice, “hadn’t you, then, better try it over again?” And one obeyed; but of course with no assurance that the second attempt would be any better.

To these nagging suggestions my reaction was, on the whole, the most foolish I could have adopted. I set myself a standard. No clause of prayer was to be allowed to pass muster unless it was accompanied by what I called a “realization”, by which I meant a certain vividness of the imagination and the affections. My nightly task was to produce by sheer willpower a phenomenon which willpower could never produce, which was so ill-defines that I could never say with absolute confidence whether it had occurred, and which, even when it did occur, was of very mediocre spiritual value.

C.S. Lewis, “Surprised by Joy”

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I no longer believe love works like a fairy tale but like farming. Most of it is just getting up early and tilling the soil and then praying for rain. But if we do the work, we just might wake up one day to find an endless field of crops rolling into the horizon. In my opinion, that’s better than aniracle. I’d rather earn the money than win the lottery because there’s no joy in a reward unless it comes at the end of a story.

Don Miller, Scary Close

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I don’t know if there’s a healthier way for two people to stay in love than to stop using each other to resolve their unfulfilled longings [of Jesus fulfilling that hole once we’re in heaven], and instead, start holding each other closely as they experience them.

I don’t mind the longing. The longing is beautiful. I just don’t want to feel it alone anymore. I want to share it with Betsy.

Don Miller, Scary Close

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“I’m responsible for my own health and happiness, and I’m responsible to ask what I want in a relationship and to try to make the middle pillow comfortable and safe for her, but that’s it. Of course we will stand and make promises to each other at our wedding but even then, even with a spouse, I’ve come to believe a person’s love for you can’t grow unless you hold that person loosely.

Don Miller, Scary Close

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Pride gets no pleasure out of having something, only out of having it more than the next person. We say that people are proud of being rich, or clever, or good-looking, but they are not. They are proud of being richer or cleverer, or better-looking than others. If everyone else became equally rich, or clever, or good-looking there would be nothing to be proud about.

C.S. Lewis, “Mere Christianity”

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Grace only sticks to our imperfections. Those who can’t accept their imperfections can’t accept grace either.

Don Miller, “Scary Close”

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Freedom is useless if we don't exercise it as a character making choices ... We are free to change the stories by which we live. Because we are genuine characters, and not mere puppets, we can choose our defining stories. We can do so because we actively participate in the creation of our stories. We are co-authors as well as characters. Few things are as encouraging as the realization that things can be different and that we have a role in making them so.

Daniel Taylor