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Just a short video of my card weaving in progress

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Yeah that tracks

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Which is exactly what I mean when I say trigger warnings/content warnings are massively misused. Everyone deserves a fair warning about something that can be confronting. That's not up for debate. I don't think they should be abolished! That would be silly. Some days, yes, people just can't deal with seeing a giant spider on their screen or they can't engage with diet culture. That's fine. But I see an awful lot of trigger warnings (and demands for trigger warnings) for medical horror or body horror for people who are just living their lives as disabled people. I see an awful lot of people refusing to engage with content that includes disabled people with visible differences because it's 'triggering' and guys. I get that it can be confronting. I do. But trigger warnings shouldn't just be there for you to never ever forever never engage with topics that you find confronting. Maybe try using them so that when you have a day where you can engage with the confronting topic, you purposely do. You might find new friends, new things you like, and new creators that you otherwise discarded as too triggering.

Scars? Not body horror. Limb differences? Not body horror. Facial differences? Not body horror. Feeding tubes, colostomy bags, etc? Not body horror. Movement disorders? Not body horror. Visibly disabled people just existing is not horror.

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Last night I dreamed that my Awful Racist Uncle (TM) was challenging me on something or other Kamala said or did that wasn't perfectly in line with my beliefs.

And dream self snapped back, "For fucks sake, I just voted for her, I'm not marrying her. If you're saying we always have to agree and embody 100% of what a candidate does or says, we're about to have some very uncomfortable discussions about your voting history."

And I woke up like - that's it. Why are we always the ones apologizing? Is it because we're idealists? Fuck that. Idealism dies without pragmatism to hold it up. No more getting backed into a corner on these things. Let's talk about your values, then, uncle. Out loud. In front of everyone. And see who is still speaking to you afterward.

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Last night I dreamed that my Awful Racist Uncle (TM) was challenging me on something or other Kamala said or did that wasn't perfectly in line with my beliefs.

And dream self snapped back, "For fucks sake, I just voted for her, I'm not marrying her. If you're saying we always have to agree and embody 100% of what a candidate does or says, we're about to have some very uncomfortable discussions about your voting history."

And I woke up like - that's it. Why are we always the ones apologizing? Is it because we're idealists? Fuck that. Idealism dies without pragmatism to hold it up. No more getting backed into a corner on these things. Let's talk about your values, then, uncle. Out loud. In front of everyone. And see who is still speaking to you afterward.

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Almost every official source lists Treize's nationality as "German" and this is incorrect. I know it's canon, but it's wrong. They're wrong to say it. That man is Austrian. He is Austrian to the marrow. His nervous system is a map of Vienna. Look at him under an electron microscope and you will see all of his molecules and atoms are just Mozartkugeln bonded together with Rilke poetry. Source: I'm right.

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My wife's service dog in training, Matilda, is trained to be super annoying at specific times of day. This is because my wife's executive dysfunction does not allow her to 'unfreeze' and therefore she gets 'stuck' in places/doing things long after she needs to move on to another task, room, etc. This isn't some arbitrary 'you should only play video games so long' type of thing. It's 'If unattended, my wife will not eat or sleep because moving from one thing to another is very hard'. Eating and sleeping are necessary things for survival, so moving to these tasks is necessary for survival. Matilda has therefore been taught things like 'ten pm is bedtime'. In order to help Matilda with this, her feeding schedule is on a pretty tight timeline as well--this way her internal body cues are lined up with the schedule of the day. For example, Matilda is fed between 8 and 830 pm (usually at about 810 pm, as it works out). She poops at 830 pm after dinner and she will throw a WHOLE FIT if she is not let out at this time. Daylight Savings has Happened to Matilda. She's only just a year old, so she does not remember Daylight Savings last year (she was two weeks old, roughly) and she does not remember the spring time change, either, as she was a fairly young puppy at that time and therefore not trained to a schedule like this. She is BEREFT. We're making her wait an hour for dinner. We're making her wait an hour for bedtime. She knows she needs to go out at 830, but it is not time for her to poop yet, which is BAFFLING. This poor dog. I'm sure she'll adjust in a week or two, but poor Matilda. We need to outlaw Daylight Savings. For Matilda.

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Just a reminder that kennel cough season is again upon us. Today, at Benton's (acd mix, right) agility class the final student arrived and her dog came in and laid down in his crate and made a sound like he was choking slightly on a treat. I assumed he'd done that. Until the sound came again five seconds later, and again. And again.

"Is he choking on something?" asked the instructor after about 15 seconds of coughing.

"Oh, no. He's just started making this sound sometimes. I think it's because he's excited. It's kind of cute."

The dog makes a horking, horrible cough.

"He needs to go home and stay home for two weeks," says the instructor. "And he needs a vet."

She caught it in less than a minute. Within two minutes she was sanitizing the area around where that dog has been. It was impressive, but now Benton has been exposed to what's probably either kennel cough or canine flu or any of the other communicable coughing illnesses.

Tribble, the greyed brindle next to him, is 13 years old. She has dementia. Benton is her emotional support friend. She takes her emotional cues from him. Without him, she gets very upset and can't tolerate being out of our sight. So I can't quarantine him from her for weeks over a two minute, distanced exposure. But she's elderly and if she catches something from him, it will be hard on her body.

Please be careful. Check if your dog needs an updated bordatella vaccine. Don't share water or treats. Wash your hands after handling other people's dogs. Ask your instructors at classes to do an email blast about the symptoms of canine respiratory illness and ask people to stay home. Avoid daycare playgroups if you can.

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it only just now dawned on me that I’ll very likely learn who won the election from those Supernatural homosexuals. this is how we live now.

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The final holiday to receive the boop treatment should be the Idles of March and the cute little kitty paws should be holding knives to stab people whenever they boop someone

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Someone never played Echo the Dolphin and it shows.

Sperm whale mimics a spinning diver.

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in retrospect i'm enjoying imagining the brainstorming meeting where they were like "our userbase is full of introverted, nervous, and annoying people doing parallel play, they all love bothering each other, but they also don't want to be overly familiar with strangers, let alone the people they've been hanging out with for literal years, how do we add enrichment to that antisocial social enclosure" and the correct answer was to let us socialize like a feral cat colony and nonverbally and impersonally yet lovingly smack each other lol

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What an unsurprising & completely expected turn of events that literally everyone saw coming 😮

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two kinds of people on this website

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Some witches skating