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clitoral-minded · 25 minutes ago
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i think one thing that will really invariably get me to click out of a fic immediately, if i even get as far as opening it in the first place, is He Would Not Fucking Say That’s hornier cousin “he would not fucking fuck that hard or that prolifically”. like when regardless of canon personality a character enters the bedroom and immediately becomes this almost christian grey parody ultra suave dom with dubious bdsm practices and it’s like. i’m very sorry but i truly hand on heart do not think he knows how to use his dick like that
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clitoral-minded · 26 minutes ago
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romy schneider in ludwig (1973) x empress elizabeth of austria painted by franz winterhalter
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clitoral-minded · 5 hours ago
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the average foot fetishist artist draws the most realistic and anatomically accurate feet youve ever seen. the average armpit fetishist artist doesnt know what an armpit looks like and draws a pussy
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clitoral-minded · 5 hours ago
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i feel bad for the ppl who run horny fantasizing text post pornblogs i feel like theyre setting themselves up for so much disappointment if they ever actually have sex
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clitoral-minded · 5 hours ago
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need what hugh grant and his wife have
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clitoral-minded · 5 hours ago
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clitoral-minded · 5 hours ago
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reblog to age regress prev
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clitoral-minded · 5 hours ago
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Summoning Witch sketch by Winton Kidd
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clitoral-minded · 6 hours ago
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imagine how much more fucked up the history of the world would be if eating someone's brains reliably conferred on you their memory and knowledge
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clitoral-minded · 6 hours ago
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So a few days ago I got a comment on one of my stories. It was not the worst comment I have ever gotten but it was not nice either. I found it rude, demanding, and condescending. I confess, my reply to this comment was snarky and sarcastic.
I then got a reply from the poster claiming they were very blunt due to being neurodivergent and that they could not help it. They just wanted me to write them a story. I had ruined their good opinion of me.
I wrote back apologizing for hurting their feelings. I explained they had also hurt my feelings and that my response was partially in response to that, partially because I know who comments like that affect authors. That we work hard on our stories. I pointed out they had not even said they liked my story. I gave them advice on how they could have phrased their comment instead that would have made it less offensive to the author. At this point I was going to give them the benefit of the doubt. Yeah no, they sent another response calling it victim blaming and cyber bullying. The victim blaming was pointed out solely in response to the first line they said which was 'I am sorry your feelings were hurt' Also got an accusation of name calling, which no I did not. At this point I am just going to delete their comments and block them.
For people who consider themselves to be blunt but want to consider the author's feelings as well, here is some comment advice. The comment I received that started this was 0/4.
Tell the author you liked their story. You can put details or even just a line of heart emojis. If you did not like the story, silence is golden. Please use the back button.
Do not be demanding. We are not machines. Something like, 'I can't wait to see what happens' next is fine 'UPDATE' is not
It is fine to share ideas, but just like in 2. do not be demanding. Unless the author has asked for prompts, do not have expectations
Unless an author has asked for it, no constructive criticism. It is fiction, let the author write what they want.
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clitoral-minded · 7 hours ago
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なんか大淀さんも時々司令官と連絡が取れない by Darek Ergot Mak
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clitoral-minded · 7 hours ago
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rgu favorite characters
utena or anthy: there is usually quite a bit of thought and emotion backing this decision but to an outsider it just sounds like a normie pick because these are the cover characters
juri: ok, so you do watch the show, and you like the cool gay side character, which makes sense
nanami: you are in the trenches of the show
shiori: you are in the trenches but not of the show. the gay trenches and your enemy army is yourself
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clitoral-minded · 7 hours ago
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Tips and ideas for how to respond when someone is being rude to you
For personal reasons I won't get into, I have a history of just freezing or when some is rude / hostile / aggressive / condescending / patronizing / etc. It's obviously not something I'm happy about at all, most people who freeze or fawn aren't happy about it and would change it if they could.
One day I confided in my co-worker, a middle aged woman in her 50's, that this is something I struggle with. Considering how confident and assertive she always struck me as, I was shocked when she told me this is also something she's struggled with.
The advice she gave me is to just memorize and practice a few broad statements or reactions that you can pull out of your pocket so to speak when someone is being rude or disrespectful to you. It's not easy if you're someone who's been conditioned to freeze or fawn, but practice helps. Practice saying these things when you're alone. Put up a sticky note next to your bed or on your bathroom mirror with these phrases and practice them when you see them. Practice saying these with a partner or trusted friend, role-play scenarios where you might need to use these phrases.
Here's a few phrases that have worked for me. The nice thing about them is that they tend to shut down the situation rather than escalating, while still letting the aggressor know that you don't find their behavior acceptable.
"Are you okay?"
This works well in professional settings, because it's not like your work place's residential bully can run to HR about you asking if they're okay (but they might if you try to retaliate and give them a taste of their own medicine). However, it still effectively sends the message "I think there's something wrong with your behavior and don't accept it". It's also not likely the response they're expecting, so it'll likely throw them off and prevent further verbal aggression.
"Could you repeat that for me? I didn't catch what you said."
This one is most effective for people you believe to actually have a conscious and might regret what they said if they actually thought about it a little more. I find that often when I do this one, when people repeat the rude/snippy/patronizing/etc thing they either shamefully stumble over their words and show some remorse, or they change altogether what they say. In the off chance they don't regret what they said and end up repeating exactly what they said, this at least buys you some time to think of a better reaction since you're no longer caught off guard by a sudden rude and snippy remark.
"Can you explain what you mean by that?"
Similar logic to the last one. Often when people are being rude/snippy/patronizing/etc they're caught up in their own emotions in that moment and didn't think it through. This is a polite and civil way of putting their rude behavior in the spotlight and making them reconsider what they said. The other advantage to this one is that in case you did misread their intentions and they meant no harm by what they said or did, this gives them an opportunity to clarify that, instead of you just feeling bad over a statement or actions they actually had no ill intentions with.
If anyone has any further examples of reactions / responses / statements that have worked for them, I'd love to hear about them. I'm new to studying the art of how to civilly yet effectively shut down bad behavior from others, so I'm always open to hearing more suggestions.
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clitoral-minded · 7 hours ago
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actually both of those posts were about how i detest using word salad to manipulate people. perhaps this is because of the years i spent walking on eggshells around people who believed the most random crazy shit. i'm so mean for not believing that you're a fox tho
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clitoral-minded · 7 hours ago
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i've had so many conversations with people in fandom/creators' circles who are genuinely afraid to make the stories or art they want because they fear (often with good reason!) that their friends might kick them out of their circles, or worse, launch a public harassment campaign against them.
as someone recovering from this fear-based mindset, i want to affirm:
- friends who use implicit or explicit threats to maintain social control are not your friends
- communities that monitor your social media and ao3 to surveil you for perceived transgressive content are not safe communities
- the vast majority of people are NOT going to hate you if you make the art you want
- if you find yourself in a friend group that makes you feel afraid to speak your mind, it's in your interest to disentangle yourself from that group as quickly as possible
- real, honest disagreements between friends can be solved respectfully without the use of public shaming
- if you're feeling afraid in a community, it's likely that others are feeling afraid too. support your friends who may be struggling to leave an abusive fan or creative community, and let them know you're a safe person to voice doubts and disagreement to.
- if you're feeling like you'll never find a safer community of people, i promise there are others who feel that way too. it may take some time, but you'll find people who treat you and your ideas with respect. a good place to start is the people who make the type of art that you admire but that you're too afraid to make yourself.
ok that's all, take care of each other and be nice 💜
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clitoral-minded · 8 hours ago
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trans people can absolutely be terfs but it comes out in the weirdest, most convoluted ways and it can tie your brain in knots trying to recognise what's going on. like my ex absolutely believed penis=abuser and vagina=victim, but went through so many extra steps to get there it took me years to figure out that was what it boiled down to. when I tried to talk to them about a time when my consent had been violated in a sexual situation between us, they didn't say "you're a man and I'm a woman so it doesn't count", they said "when you claim I've violated your consent you are invalidating my experience as a person who experiences misogyny, because you don't have lived experience of your right to consent being structurally threatened, and that makes it harmful to women and femmes for you to use language that places your feelings about your safety and bodily autonomy on the same level as mine", which means the same thing but is objectively worse in every possible way
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clitoral-minded · 8 hours ago
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just so you know, you have some followers who enjoy/write fanfiction. not saying their urls rn bc i don’t wanna air out dirty laundry in public but if you want them so you can block and report, just say the word and i’ll dm you a list
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