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So I'm having a hysterectomy on March 10th. I've wanted to do this for literally the last 20 years because my periods have always been terrible, and I finally have a doctor who's like "Ah, you are an Adult who can have Bodily Autonomy and Make Your Own Decisions About Which Organs You Want Yeeted."

I am thus asking for some help with some expenses related to surgical recovery, etc.

It'd be really helpful to have more wiggle room in the budget for getting take-out if I'm not feeling up to cooking or managing stairs, easier food I can ask Lynati to heat up for me and bring upstairs - stuff like that.

The big goal, though, is that after I recover from surgery (and am no longer at risk of bleeding on things) I'd like to replace my mattress. My mattress sucks. It has collapsed in on itself, and this is REALLY not good for my back and it hurts.

Astraea actually thinks the mattress is fabulous because it had a huge divot in the middle that is fully 6 1/2" deeper than the regular height of the mattress, so she can snug up in it and be in a little fort. She will, in fact, bite me, if I try to move her out of it.

Help me break my poor little kitty cat's heart, and help me to get a new mattress, please?

I'm not currently in dire, desperate straits, but I am disabled and on a fixed income, and everything is expensive and stressful, especially with *gestures* The Current Political Situation.

Also my friend Arin keeps saying "This is Astraea's hole, it was made for her" and I would like her to stop referencing that short story, and she will only do this if I replace the mattress.

If this is something you can help with without hurting yourself, I would really appreciate it.

The Paypal address is arintradeditforcookies (at) gmail (dot) com

Thank you.

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I come from a culture that has no nudity taboo - nudity is not considered inherently sexual, or somehow traumatising to witness. What that means in practice is that there is a clearly drawn line between sexual and non-sexual nudity. There is nothing wrong or inappropriate about nudity in a sexual context, and nothing wrong or inappropriate about nudity in a non-sexual context. However, it is 100% inappropriate to be nude in a situation where it is not obvious from context whether this is sexual or not.

I've seen random kids who briefly escaped from their parents bolt across a public park buck-ass naked after they were playing in the water fountain and their parents were in the middle of changing their kid from wet clothes to dry clothes when the small nudist escaped. Changing your small kid's clothes right there in public is ok because there is obviously nothing sexual about a child whose clothes got wet. But although people will have baby pictures of their kids in the bath or just running around the house like that because sometimes little apes hate clothes for some reason, it's considered common sense to not share those pictures on facebook mom groups and such, because you have no way of knowing who's seeing them, and that blurs the line of context.

It all boils down to the clearly defined context. Bathing nude in the same sauna with five of your co-workers at the office christmas party? Clearly nonsexual, therefore completely fine. Your friend-with-benefits inviting you to come over and opening the door in nothing but a doggy collar and the most porn-scented perfume? Clearly sexual, therefore completely fine. A woman checking her breasts for lumps in the gym lockers just before or after a shower? Clearly non-sexual, therefore completely fine.

But if you went to the bank today and there's some guy who walks in and immediately strips naked, doing his banking business wearing nothing but a deep smile and being clearly very content with this situation, you have no way of telling whether he's getting kicks out of this or not. There is no contextual reason for him to be nude. Therefore, that is inappropriate.

Then you go home and post on tumblr - as one does - going like "there was some dude completely fucking buck-ass naked in the bank today. That was fucking weird and I wish he had not done that." And someone immediately swoops into inform you that actually nudity is not inherently sexual or inappropriate, and there are cultures out there that have no nudity taboo. It's not fair to call somebody a freak for something like that, maybe that guy was just finnish.

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like there's just this very cool relationship between neapolitan chords, tritone substitutions, and augmented 6ths

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I actually think it's bonkers that companies and businesses can just get fines for safety problems. Like, no, the first thing should be, you don't get to open tomorrow.

Insufficient safety equipment? Okay. You're closed until you get that. Insufficient training? Nope. Closed until that's done

Like what do you mean, you did an inspection or an accident happened, and you fined them money, and then they jusT… Opened again? The real loss of money would be making them stop operating until they're operating safely

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so i’m currently working at a law firm and the other day one of the attorneys was talking to me and he mentioned that he’s “not very confrontational” and i was like you are?? a lawyer???

and he said “yeah but in court there are rules. i can argue with some shmuck in a suit in front of a judge no problem, but when i leave the courthouse and go home i’m not gonna argue with my wife about dinner. there are no rules in our kitchen. i would die.”

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"Every fancy romantic dinner or night out on the town with friends can be fairly precisely measured in dead children' is a true fact that 99.9% of people just absolutely do not want to deal with, this leads to lots of very bad discourse on many levels.

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seeing straight men be disgusted by booktok smut recommenders has actually radicalized me to the side of booktok smut recommenders. girls your taste may be atrocious but i will never disparage you for exposing mainstream discourse to the concept of soaking through your underwear. spent my whole life listening to men talk about penises it’s about time they get jumpscared by women talking about pussy in crude detail on social media. go forth and goon my warriors

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but but but I'm selfish because I don't want to have kids?

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I want to get a job at the strip club near my house and then I want to see how far I can push pretending to be an actual irl vampire. if you're unfamiliar with sex work you need to have the context here that there is no stupider person on earth than the average hetero male sex work customer and that this idea has a nonzero chance of actually no-joke seriously convincing more than one of them and I just think that would be funny

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Sara Grace Wallerstedt and Peng Chang by Luigi & Iango for Numéro Art #15 2024

Styled by Elanur Erdogan. Hair by Gonn Kinoshita. Makeup by Kabuki.

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adults disciplining children: i think i will communicate with this brand new human in the loudest, rudest, most obnoxious and socially off-putting way possible

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i CANNOT stop thinking about this job ad. i am absolutely losing it over the implication that someone is going to apply to this job who 1) loves chasing birds and 2) is disturbingly competetive about it

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washington state just passed bill 6105, aka "the stripper bill of rights". in went into effect January 1st, but the provisions about alcohol being legal in nude establishments is apparently being rolled out gradually (it will probably take years, liquor boards are all corrupt and hateful as i have mentioned before). importantly it establishes a lot of no-nonsense stuff about panic button access and employee training, as well as mandating the keeping of a "customer blacklist" where any customer who is alleged to have behaved illegally or injuriously to a dancer or employee has to be put on a list that forbids them from returning to the club for several years, apparently on the word of the dancer alone. this is all very cool shit but as usual i expect actual club management (aka, pimps) to ignore as much of it as possible unless forced to comply

edit: if im reading this right it also prohibits club management from mandating that dancers either expose or cover any part of their bodies. this is important as the current custom is to force dancers to "be naked by the end of the third song or you're fired" (or similar) as i saw a dancer post on Reddit today. this also seems to remove all possibility of the liquor board or the cops citing dancers or management for nudity, and makes consensual nudity de facto legal and allowed for all dancers

i suspect none of this is going to be enforced

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sometimes i just feel an overwhelming desire to be severely harmed and think "is this what being horny is? i dont remember"