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Just thinking about the options we slept on when deciding to call non alcoholic versions of cocktails just "mocktails"

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when i was a teenager it felt very revolutionary to be cruel to myself. like some kind of slow passive protest against how much everything hurt. i starved myself of sleep and food and tenderness because it felt right. it felt sharp and angry and radical and i wanted to be those things. adulthood is the realisation that the world is already working to cut into you well before you learn how to do it yourself. caring for yourself and others is the real protest

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listen I know that you love your robot boyfriend and I'm sure that he's great but his disregard for aftercare is raising some serious red flags for me

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NO WAY

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You've heard of the man, the myth, the legend. Now get ready for the woman, the omen, the portent.

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y'all gonna love this one. Jesus.

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i love vultures they're like coworkers to me

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i ended up liking how gendered french is solely because i can say that i want people to use he/him pronouns for me the same way they use it for angels, blood and blunts

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I’m about to save you thousands of dollars in therapy by teaching you what I learned paying thousands of dollars for therapy:

It may sound woo woo but it’s an important skill capitalism and hyper individualism have robbed us of as human beings.

Learn to process your emotions. It will improve your mental health and quality of life. Emotions serve a biological purpose, they aren’t just things that happen for no reason.

1. Pause and notice you’re having a big feeling or reaching for a distraction to maybe avoid a feeling. Notice what triggered the feeling or need for a distraction without judgement. Just note that it’s there. Don’t label it as good or bad.

2. Find it in your body. Where do you feel it? Your chest? Your head? Your stomach? Does it feel like a weight everywhere? Does it feel like you’re vibrating? Does it feel like you’re numb all over?

3. Name the feeling. Look up an emotion chart if you need to. Find the feeling that resonates the most with what you’re feeling. Is it disappointment? Heartbreak? Anxiety? Anger? Humiliation?

4. Validate the feeling. Sometimes feelings misfire or are disproportionately big, but they’re still valid. You don’t have to justify what you’re feeling, it’s just valid. Tell yourself “yeah it makes sense that you feel that right now.” Or something as simple as “I hear you.” For example: If I get really big feelings of humiliation when I lose at a game of chess, the feeling may not be necessary, but it is valid and makes sense if I grew up with parents who berated me every time I did something wrong. So I could say “Yeah I understand why we are feeling that way given how we were treated growing up. That’s valid.”

5. Do something with your body that’s not a mental distraction from the feeling. Something where you can still think. Go on a walk. Do something with your hands like art or crochet or baking. Journal. Clean a room. Figure out what works best for you.

6. Repeat, it takes practice but is a skill you can learn :)

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tumblr users love reading. you literally stopped for this post just because it has words in it

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I am. So angry at summer.

It makes no sense to be angry at a season lol

But I'm sick of the heat and the humidity and the flies and the wasps

Outside is no longer the place of joy it was and I am devastated

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Every night at eleven I have to choose between enjoying the sweet embrace of slumber or staying up late to do something enriching and fun that I wouldn’t otherwise have the opportunity to do. And every night at eleven I take the secret third option of “doing nothing on my phone until one in the morning.”

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I'm about to start processing what I guess is my worst trauma with emdr therapy. We've been teasing it apart to get to the root and lay the groundwork before we get into it hopefully next session.

There's a strong part of me that is really resisting broaching the subject. It's not like the others thing I processed with emdr weren't difficult, but wasn't... this difficult. That part kind of completely shut me down for a while and I couldn't really make any progress in therapy so I quit going except for once a month-ish for a few months just for talk therapy through everything else that's going on, and just took it easy until I felt actually ready.

Anyways. I'm back on a weekly schedule now and hopefully gonna get through with it soon but. I'm having flashbacks now and. Idk. It really sucks.

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I hope ya’ll like pretty equines chilling in pastoral fields of flowers, because that has been my comfort food of choice the past couple weeks and I’ve got a bit of a backlog.

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A friend informed me of this Merlin app for identifying birds 2 days ago and it's my entire personality rn