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If you wanna be a great barista, the first thing you need to do is learn the very basics of coffee tasting, brewing, and crafting. The swcond thing you need to do is form a psychosexual relationship with your espresso machine.

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anonymously message me (3) things you want to know about me.

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I love the random replacements for clichés writers insert in science fiction shows. like when a 21st-century human would say "stop pacing you'll wear a hole in the floor" but in a space show the alien/future human says "you're oscillating like a Betelgeusian night badger" or some shit. like fuck yeah he is. amazing drive-by worldbuilding. I'm gonna spend the next half hour wondering why the Betelgeusian night badger evolved to do that

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Fully charged :3

why is animation so hard

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playing erdtree with my pal we get invaded by someone named "Drip Inspector" and im like "waitwaitwait. ok lets just pose leaning back to back and wait for them to show up maybe our outfits will be so good they wont kill us"

so we wait until they show up and then they get reaaaal close to us . and then pull out their telescope and start circling around us and zooming in for a good 30 seconds. then they clap, use the "wonderful" and "youre beautiful" prattling pates, and jump off a cliff. invader vanquished

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i feel like this -> ☝️🤓 every time i say it but stop conflating top/bottom/vers with dom/sub/switch PLEEEEASE. and i don't give a shit that there is historical precedent for doing so, they were being dumb when they did it in prior decades and y'all r being dumb doing it now

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WAG IT FAGGOT

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wtf? wtf is this crap? what is this bullshit? *pulls out* dude is your pussy ai generated? is this ai generated?

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i'm learning absolutely insane fucking things on the wikipedia page for penn jillette of penn and teller

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they should make yuri with hype moments. and aura

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notice how last night was all filmed in one take

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There is a standard media depiction of a "healed" person. Someone who has Gone To Therapy. I've noticed this in a few works recently. We often see them at the end of a story, maybe in a "ten years later" epilogue. They speak in a soft, serene voice. They have Accepted what they cannot change. They have let go of a lot, including most of what we see them actually care about in the story itself. They are Happy, At Peace, in some non-descript way. They bare little resemble to the person we were actually shown. They bare little resemblance to any person. We were shown, as we usually are in stories, an agent, a desirer, someone becoming. Now they have Become. And they look back on all that silly becoming as something childish that they have moved past. Fire, you know, fire is for children who don't know any better. To be Healed is to have your fire rightly extinguished; to not even miss it.

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Free (mostly academic) aro theory resources

On Amatonormativity

Amatonormativity, Aromanticism, and What Defines a Relationship - Rilee Granger

Amatonormativity in the Law: An Introduction - Silver Flight

"Allonormativity and Compulsory Sexuality" (chapter 6 of Encyclopedia of Queer Studies in Education) - Stephanie Anne Shelton

'I Dont Want To be a Playa No More': An Exploration of the Denigrating effects of 'Player' as a Stereotype Against African American Polyamorous Men - Justin L. Clardy

On Relationship Anarchy

The short instructional manifesto for relationship anarchy - Andie Nordgren

The Relationship Anarchy website

Thinking Relationship Anarchy from a Queer Feminist Approach - Roma De las Heras Gómez

Beyond romantic love – an analysis of how the dilemma of closeness vs. autonomy is handled in relationship anarchy discourse - Ricardo Guillén

The Ethics of Relationship Anarchy - Ole Martin Moen

On community

Examining aromantic and asexual inclusion in queer-serving organizations - based on Lauren Lichty's work

Exploring Aromanticism Through an Online Qualitative Investigation With the Aromantic Community: “Freeing, Alienating, and Utterly Fantastic” - James Fowler et al.

Community Listening Sessions with Aromantic People: Summary and Recommendations Report

Aurea Aro Census

Sexuality, romantic orientation, and masculinity: Men as underrepresented in asexual and aromantic communities - Hannah Tessler

On QueerPlatonic Relationships

Queerplatonic Zucchinis: A Short Primer - Omnes and Nihil (unsure)

Queering the Nuclear Family - Katie Linder

Queer(ing) consensual nonmonogamies, queering therapy: queer intimacy, kinship, and experiences of CNM in LGBTQIA+ lives - Christian Klesse et al.

On intersectionality

Intimacy and Desire Through the Lens of an Aro-Ace Woman of Color

Being Aroflux & Black - Kimberley Butler

Transitioning into Aromanticism as a Trans Student - Amethyst

Existing and Defying Stereotypes as an A-spec Disabled Person - Sapphire Crimson Claw

A Reflection on the March Carnival of Aros (several testimonies by aros of color and non-cis/non-het aros are linked in this article)

Other aro-related interesting reads

New Dimensions, New Directions: Asexualities and Aromanticism in the 21st Century - Megan Carroll et al.

Enriching the Story: Asexuality and Aromanticism in Literature - Adrienne Whisman

The Importance of Representation for Lesser-Known Sexual Identities on the Example of Asexuality and Aromanticism - Jasmin Kiechle

Experiences of Italian Asexual and Aromantic Individuals in Healthcare Settings: from Explicitly Aggressive to Affirming Interactions

Other lists of aro-related ressources (not all sources listed in these are free though)

by Aurea

The Asexuality and Aromanticism Bibliography

If you know of any other free ressource about aromanticism please consider adding to this list

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i miss tumblr i wish it was still around. but it’s not

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2025 EDITION TUMBLR WHITENESS CENSUS

Answers amended from this prior poll based on other mixed people whining about reverse racism and a significant amount of very confused Turkish people 🙏🏽

If you’re mixed choose what feels right to you I’m not here to do phrenology or paper bag test you but don’t make it my problem either.

Reblog and share for wider sample size! More polls related in reblogs!

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theres this maneuver people do online (& sometimes irl) where they just sort of pretend not to comprehend sexuality for the sake of trying to embarrass somebody--like whenever theres a post to the effect of "so i saw a funny thing on this gay porn website" there's inevitably a heap of comments like "why were you on a gay porn website 😭😭" as if it's like this really unusual uncommon & scandalous thing. like. it takes negative effort to deduce why somebody might be browsing a gay porn site lol. & in addition to being self-evidently reactionary, this like theatrics of mediating a performance of being scandalized over porn or fetishes or hookups or whatever through feigned ignorance is just. really deeply annoying. like if you want to call somebody a pervert degenerate etc then say it with your whole chest instead of verbally hoverhanding your insult